No update.....nothing else has transpired.... at this point just going on with life and if anything shall arise we will deal with it. However our neighbors are aware and are keeping their eyes open to any potential issues.

No update.....nothing else has transpired.... at this point just going on with life and if anything shall arise we will deal with it. However our neighbors are aware and are keeping their eyes open to any potential issues.

Yes..thank you all so much for your responses....it has helped to hear from others that we shouldn't feel guilty or responsible. This has been so stressful for both DH and I. We are both very compassionate and caring people and it's difficult to be that way in a situation like this where you have to be "all business" I have to remind myself the law wouldn't be this way if there wasn't a good reason for it.... these used car deals need to be "as is" because there is too much that can go wrong unexpectedly with a car.

we had a van once.... I left my house and not 2 minutes down the road I realized it was acting funny....turned around came back to the house.... dh came home and it wouldn't go anywhere. So yes it can happen suddenly. Will wait and see what happens though... he was pretty angry with the first couple phone calls to my husband and not very happy with our final texts to him. I was in the house with our children when they guy and his 2 sons came to look at the car.... I thought the man drove the car farther than he did when he test drove it..however DH said he drove literally 2 minutes down the road, came back wanted to buy it...that quick. DH handed him the keys to drive to get title notarized and the man declined and told my DH to drive since he knew where he was going. Even after the man gave my husband the cash he still didn't not want to drive the car back to our house to drop my husband off. Now I'm sitting here thinking..... is this cash this man gave me that we still have COUNTEFEIT?????? Yikes. The way this whole story has gone.... it makes me wonder... Deb

well as it stands now we have no idea what will transpire. I am preparing for him to take us to small claims court and if so we will deal with it then. This is just so stressful for DH and him trying to do his job. That is mainly why he blocked the guy... he just didn't want the constant interruption all day at work.

yes normally we do transactions at a public location...with a car it's different. Our address was on the bill of sale and title so..

well I said decent... can't remember his exact words but it was more like "I can send my son" which I didn't really consider a threat. BTW..anyone know what happens on other end when you block someone from texting and calling on an iPhone? I know the texts won't go through but I read the calls go instantly to voicemail?

he was actually being decent and he hasn't technically threatened us.... but maybe that is so there is no proof via texts..kwim? The only reason he wanted to send the son to our house was to pick up what he thought of was our "half" or "our contribution" to the repairs. We live on a small cul de sac with only about 15 houses..my neighbor almost lives directly across the road from us and he is a deputy sheriff for our county. I don't know him super well but I can go over and talk to him today. We also have a friend on the police force of our town. I can have DH get in contact with him today. I researched all about private sells in our state and everything that I came up with said it's an "as is" transaction UNLESS it can be proved we somehow scammed him which we didn't. I also looked up the small claims court process. It's fairly cheap to do but he would have to do so in our county and would again have to prove something. Yes a judge could side with him since it happened so soon after the car was bought/sold but I also would argue i have no idea what happened when the car left here. btw...we do have a fairly good sized dog...and the dog would go after someone trying to harm us. I don't want to use that though because in our county anyone that comes in to our yard and is bitten can have our dog taken no matter the circumstances.

UPDATE*** He was quiet all day long til this evening...he texted DH a few times, then called.... we just ignored him because #1 we were busy and #2 we were trying to determine the best way to finalize it all. The man said he would send his son to our house tomorrow to pick up the cash if that was ok.... to text him back and let him know. He would appreciate us helping him with the repair. Dh finally texted him and pretty much said we never agreed to refund any money or help repair the car. Then he got a bit ugly. Said we sold him a junk car, he paid more than the value etc... we finally just blocked him. So, here we sit wondering what will take place next. I believe the man we have been dealing with is in another state..his son who the car was for lives in our state. I do know both came to look at the car and test drive it and buy it last weekend. Not sure what the future holds. Will they show up at our house at some point? Will they go away quietly? Will they take us to court? Who knows. All I know is I'm going to keep my eyes and ears open around here and whatever happens, happens and we will deal with it. Dh is on edge though.... we are home all day and he doesn't work close by. We have good neighbors though and they will keep their eyes open as well and would be here at a moments notice if I really needed them. Hopefully I don't. at least they don't live very close.... I think I would be more nervous if they did. Debbie

update: no other communication has taken place...no $$ sent .. at this point it sounds like they are looking for cheaper way to fix this car. I do feel terrible that it happened. I do know for certain that I drove that car/DH drove that car and neither of us had any indication from the transmission it was having issues. Drove no differently than it ever had. I do believe he really took it to the dealership to have it looked at though because he knew about service that had been done to it. According to him ... they told him the transmission was shot and had been... I don't see how that is possible as if that were the case we would have had issues the weeks/days leading up to the sale of the car, the guy would have noticed issues when he test drove it and also on the 2 hour drive home. All I know is we had no indication in the way the car drove that there was any problem. Not sure if he gets it fixed less expensively how we will proceed. First of all I have no idea if the car was driven in such a way that caused the fail once they left my house. I could very well be paying to help fix a car they broke. I also would be handing over $$ to someone mechanic I do not know if is legit or not. We don't have a local mechanic here that worked on that car as we never had an issue with it. We had the fluid changed by the dealership last as it was recommended. I also hesitate to hand over any $$ because I don't want it to look like I am claiming responsibility in any way. I guess in that case if we did I could send a certified letter stating this was in no way showing fault on my end. I don't know. I hate all this happened. I am sick about it. I stressed about it all day yesterday and so did DH. I have a feeling the guy is gonna be texting him and calling him again today. Uughhh

He paid in cash so no problems there...

he has since texted my husband again and is searching for a remanufactured transmission..... says he wants things resolved tonight....

he's wanting a NEW transmission...which isn't necessary.... I don't want to even begin to bargain with him though because he will assume we are taking responsibility and we are not.

my fear on refunding the guys money and taking the car back is what has he potentially done to it in some way to damage it out of spite...kwim?

"as is" is not written on the bill of sale but in our state it is my understanding all private auto sales are "as is"