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My instinct here is to have them "re-do" each and every unacceptable situation with you. You will spend a week or two doing a LOT of on-the-minute coaching, but it will be worth every second.
--State briefly what was unacceptable.
--State what they will do for the "re-do."
--Re-do it. Then re-do it again. You might even go for a third re-do if you don't think the heart is there yet.
--End with something like a schmaltzy mom-hug of both kids and tell them you'll be glad to walk it through with them as many times as needed.
You'll also want to have a talk with the kids ahead of time. "Kids, it's so sad that you hurt each other. You're going to be family for the rest of your life, so you might as well learn to be friends. From now on, when I see you showing unkindness to your sibling, I'll be right there to help you learn kindness instead. I'll just simply ask you to re-do the situation the way it should have been."
Your talk will bring smiles and giggles if you enlist your husband to help. Role-play a little drama together, then re-do it the way it should be done.
We call this a 'do over' in our home. Dd, the only child at home, has been known to 'do over'...many, many times... how she leaves a room (stomping up the stairs, mumbling), unkind words, or just unacceptable behavior in general. And yes, it always ends with giggles and an apology. Works like a charm!
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Could you fly home a little early, leaving dad and the boys to spend some quality time together in London, while allowing you get some down time? They might come home with a whole new appreciation for you!
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Well I tried telling DH that we had to take another cruise to the Mexico so I could buy some more, but he keeps telling me no!!!!!!
I tried the same approach with my dh, with the same results as you. I thought it was a perfectly logical solution. A shopping trip even he would enjoy! Oh, and then we could stop by San Juan...the Barcardi Rum Factory! Ah, yes. Really needing that cruise...and the vanilla beans, which was really all this was about. Right?:lol:
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We were given a full set of Children's Britannica by our library. It has a 'for sale' section, and our librarian will call us if she sees anything come across that we might be able to use. She's the greatest! And yes, we use it a lot.
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We don't have china (thank goodness!), but I have my mom's silverware. I plan to keep it because it's only a small chest. ( I'll unload it on my dd someday. ;))
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This is just what I did! China and silverware all went to our dd. She loves us!
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Given those terms... absolutely not. No way. Not ever. That is precisely the influence that I do NOT want my kid around.
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It is fashionable, don't you know, to have a child with some kind of disorder.
I read it as sarcasm also. However, I cringe every time I see a post where someone refers to their child as their 'little aspie'. Why would anyone want to define their beautiful child this way?
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You're not alone. I stopped sending cards years ago and have never regretted it. Such a waste of time. Glad to know I'm not the only one.
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Dd is looking for a high school diploma for her 17 yr ds who is graduating this spring. He has always attended OK ps, except for the last 4 months, and is eligible for free college IF he can get his diploma in OK. Since they are moving in Feb/Mar OK will not let the dc finish out the school year in OK without retaking their current grade (They have been attending a private school in FL using Paces). As it stands now, dgs will either have to repeat his senior year or his parents will have to cover the cost of college. Does anyone know if a homeschool issued diploma will suffice for the free college program in OK. If it helps, dgs's ACT and SAT scores are high, and he has received many scholarship offers.
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Thanks for the information. It's good to know how easy it is to homeschool in OK. However, what dd is mainly looking for is a high school diploma for her 17 yr ds who is graduating this spring. He has always attended OK ps, except for the last 4 months, and is eligible for free college IF he can get his diploma in OK. Since they are moving in Feb/Mar OK will not let the dc finish out the school year in OK without retaking their current grade (They have been attending a private school in FL using Paces). As it stands now dgs will either have to repeat his senior year or his parents will have to cover the cost of college.
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My dd and her family are planning to move back to OKC, OK, and will be homeschooling their 3 dc (17, 15, & 13). Can anyone recommend a good umbrella school for them?
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Thanks for listening. This is so great!
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Sure some "loveless" marriages leave behind sad, empty shells of what used to be fulfilled people; I think those are fewer and farther between than many non-typical marriages, though. I think part of the problem is in how our society emphasizes love and personal happiness above all else. Nobody should be miserable, nor should anybody expect to be 100% fulfilled 100% of the time (or even most of the time). Life and relationships are both about compromise and balance - and also, commitment. If you expect love to be enough, it will be ... until it's not. Better to make life-altering decisions based on character. If there are trust, honesty, and respect it sometimes makes just as much sense (if not more) to stay. To stay committed.
:iagree: I'll take a marriage with respect, honesty, and trust, over one with only love any day.
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Don't go.
Life has enough problems without deliberately going to visit them. What it comes down to is they don't like you and you don't like them anymore either.
It sucks when people who are supposed to care won't stick up for you. I've been, uh, blessed with relatives like that too. Your mum will just have to deal.
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Rosie
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Your mother may suggest, request, or ask you to attend, but you get to decide for yourself. You're a grown woman and you have the support of your husband. Forget about what 'the family' expects and do what you feel is right for your family.
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When I first read this thread I was going to answer that I would never be finished. I love children and would fill my home with foster children if dh felt the same way. He is a little intimidated by children:lol:. But I always felt the desire to have more. We raised 2 ds and 1 dd to adult hood and then began all over again.
However, after thinking about how much I am enjoying raising just one... the freedom of being able to pick up and travel (homeschooling makes this so easy!), the ability to spend more quality time with our dd, I'm thinking we are done. My life just feels so perfect, so complete. Finally. A little selfish, maybe. Or the fact that I'm closer to 60 than to 50, with six gc, one old enough that I'm beginning to think about being a great grandmother:blink: might have something to do with it. Either way, I'm done!
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Don't even have a passing intrerest in workboxes or filing. I know myself well enough to know that neither system would work for me at all.
I am using HST+, but only since last year when my older two entered 6th. Before that, it was pretty much "do the next thing". There's just more to juggle now that they've gotten older. Actually, I still pretty much "do the next thing"; HST just helps me easily keep track of what that is in each book.
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At the beginning of the year I put each subject into its own binder. I print off a weekly assignment sheet from HST+ for DD to follow so she can just pull a binder off her shelf and go for it. She's a box checker like me:001_smile:
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Being organized, scheduled and as clutter-free as possible helps. Declutter your schedule (e.g., learn how to say "No" to other people and other obligations), and don't feel pressured to have your children involved in every single extra-curricular activity available to them.
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:iagree: OK, being organized may be out of reach for me:001_smile:
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Thanks for all the replies. This is dd's second year of Latin and she is progressing nicely with FF, so she should do OK adding in a second language. I guess I'm more worried about how I will handle it.:001_smile:
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What is the best way to teach two languages at the same time? Dd is currently using FF for Latin, but would like to begin Spanish also. I know many of you teach multiple languages. How do you do it? Alternate days? Alternate weeks? I have no clue how to schedule this.
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if i push you, you will push back, whether that is physically or emotionally. the same is true of our children. i do believe in setting forth challenges, teaching self-discipline in the area of academics, and not settling for mediocre work when a child is capable of excellence. i expect each child to work to the best of their ability. but i agree with the pp--pushing implies forcing someone to do something against their will.
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Thanks for sharing your opinions! I think it's how everything is research-based that appeals to me. I had wondered about just leaving out IEW and doing our own writing.
I'm off to the high school board!
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Love it or hate it? Anyone care to share their experiences with it? I don't really care for IEW, think science should be lab based in high school, and would have to add in math. So why do I keep being drawn back to Trisms?
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We happen to have a few local co-ops but our grain comes from Bread Beckers. Check them out here: http://www.breadbeckers.com/store/pc/home.asp
We order through Breadbeckers' co-op so we get a discount on our order and shipping cost is minimal. I love Breadbeckers!
What do you do when they complain about food?
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We have a rule in our house. "He who complains cooks the next meal". No one ever complains. Darn:glare: