My daughter also seriously resisted learning for a while. What worked for us was not letting her get bored. Instead of using one phonic curriculum, we mixed phonics readers, online phonic games, homemade phonic games, sight word games, etc. We did something different every day, while keeping the level the same. (In other words, short vowels for a couple weeks, then long vowels, then diagraphs, etc.) It took a lot of web-searching and planning for me, but now she is SOOO proud of her reading.