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One thing that stood out for me with my son who had reflux as a baby was that he never had the nice buttery breastmilk smell. Most of my kids went through a phase at a couple weeks old where they smelled like buttered popcorn when they burped, but he had an awful sulphur smell. He is still sensitive to dairy and something else we haven't nailed down yet. Our pediatrician didn't want to do meds but in retrospect we probably all would have been happier if we had. He also had a scary episode caused by the reflux that the meds might have prevented. He didn't sleep better until he was almost a year old.
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I'm not fond of the expression on the trending picture of what he might have looked like. I imagine him smiling.
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Wow, I don't even remember posting this, but it's definitely a common scenario in this house. Are you me? Am I you?
I showed my husband this thread and laughed...as he was loading the dishwasher. He didn't laugh quite as much.
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Sounds like I'm getting a lot of agreement on removing them. I am adding the bar removal and security installation to an already lengthy to-do list.
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We tried the 52 week one last year. It fell apart when my youngest was born, but it was a good start. Getting rid of things made it easier to keep everything clean. I'm also terrible about covering every possible surface with clutter. I spent January clearing everything, 1 surface per day. The mantle has stayed clean all year! The top of the fridge needs to be done again.
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They are pretty common throughout the neighborhoods we looked at houses in. Not universal but very common. We are priced out of the nicer, expensive suburbs and the city as a whole does have a higher than average rate of crime. I think we would be okay without them, but I haven't lived there yet. Our neighborhood only has a few houses and they are nicer compared to the surrounding area. There are areas with more crime not too far away. I'm not sure if the houses within this neighborhood are targets of crime or not.
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Haha, we have five big, noisy dogs. An alarm system might be good too.
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I'd remove them. They are horribly dangerous. I have a cousin who used to be a firefighter, and he has told stories about them frantically trying to rescue people in burning houses, unsuccessfully.
That is the direction I'm leaning toward. I'm not sure if it is cheap or easy to add an inside release mechanism instead, but then that still leaves the problem of firefighters trying to get in.
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An older woman owns the house right now. She won't be able to replace them. We are having to repair some things before the house can get a mortgage.
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The house we are buying has these. They are screwed in and don't have a release. I know we need a way for them to open in case of fire. Would you just remove them or would you install a release? I'm not sure how expensive the releases are to retrofit and this house has a ton of windows. Other houses in the area don't have bars, so I don't think they are 100% necessary in the neighborhood.
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You win. We've only had 5 in the last two days. I'm hoping the rest of us don't get it too. Luckily for us, everyone has thrown up once and felt okay. The laundry though, ouch. I'm thinking again about buying a second dryer.
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I wouldn't keep them in anything not labeled appropriately. Controlled substance, ya know? I think that opens you up to too much trouble.
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I think Khan has an older and younger? I know my 8 year old has done it before, but I don't know which level. Possibly both? It holds your hand pretty well, as I recall.
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I know it's wrong. I do it all the time when I'm not paying attention.
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I'm letting my kids iron out our Thanksgiving menu. 3 of them independently suggested we need ramen noodles. I am certain I never served them in the past! But if the kids really want them, it won't hurt me to spend three minutes cooking them, along with the twenty other foods they have planned. What crazy things will you be making?
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I understand why some disruptions happen in adoption. (Some I don't understand, but maybe I don't have enough information to make that call.) I know a few families who adopted at the same time we did who have considered or gone through with disruptions. In two of those families it was because of literally fearing for their lives due to the (older) children's behavior. Another family that I know of but don't know personally didn't think they were able to continue 24 hour supervision of a child because they were concerned about behaviors indicating past abuse. We had to do 24 hour supervision of one of our boys for months and months for other reasons and it was exhausting, but we have been able to move past that point. We never put disruption on the table as an option.
The disruptions that I know of have gone through legal channels. There were homestudies and the legal system involved. I know there are people out there who have done things differently, under the radar. My own suspicion is that if it was easier to get respite through formal channels people would be less likely to go with whatever they can find when they have reached their breaking point. Maybe I'm wrong.
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I know someone who had one for about a year and traded it in because it felt too big for her to maneuver. They look gorgeous but they aren't in our price range.
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Add me to the list of people who wonders if her own family is large! I think I can answer yes for sure now that we have 9, but it doesn't feel that big! There's just this kid, and that one, and so on. On the other hand, there are enough kids here that I don't notice when there are a couple extra. One of my friends only has one daughter and was worried that she would be imposing to bring her over on short notice. LOL Nope! What's one more at that point?
We get comments and I always freeze in the moment. But we got them way back when we only had one. A woman in a grocery store telling my husband he is clearly the father of my oldest daughter when she was a baby about made me die inside. Was I giving off the "my husband isn't the baby daddy" vibe? On the other hand, one of our adopted sons looks shockingly similar to my husband so we get comments on how much they look alike. Those make me giggle. We have two kids in wheelchairs so we get asked if we are a group home. We were out with another family from the boards when we had fewer kids and someone asked if we were all a Sunday school class.
The package serving size and expected family consumption does throw me sometimes. The cheapest oatmeal we can find is in canisters from Aldi, but we go through at least 1.5 of them each breakfast. I'd love something bigger because it feels so wasteful. I won't pay a higher unit price for a bigger size though. Lots of foods are like that. Most of what we eat is made from scratch so it isn't as noticeable. We didn't buy a lot of processed food before, but now it really doesn't mafe sense. We upgraded our family vehicle to a bus. Let your freak flag fly and all that. In other areas we have an economy of scale. Our big Christmas present for the family this year is probably going to be a bounce house. We could buy a ticket for each of the kids to go on once at the carnival, or we could buy one to have and annoy me forever.
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Since everyone has already covered this really well, I'm going to up the ante. (And in the time it took me to type this with children climbing on me, other people said the same thing better than I could have.)
I am a Christian. If I thought my religion said that we shouldn't help those in need, that we were wrong to help the homeless, the poor, the widow and orphan, the least of these, etc. I would be questioning my religion. As it is my heart is still grieving at the people I have seen in the last week quoting from the Bible as a reason not to help Muslims.
People shouldn't even need the commands in the Bible to help others. I mean, how can a human being look at someone else in need and not want to help? But the idea that the Bible says the opposite? It doesn't. If it did, I would be questioning my belief.
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We have had some late prime deliveries lately. I am choosing the correct shipping options and correct sellers. One was multiple days so we received an email. Others add an extra day or two and we don't get a notice. I sent back a Halloween order that was too late to be useful. They are also counting orders past mid-afternoon as placed the following day, not counting weekends, etc. Something ordered Friday afternoon might not come until next Wednesday and that is still counted as two day shipping.
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I missed this thread the first time because I was taking a board break while we were adopting. We fundraised. I know people thought it was tacky. I hated to need to...but my kids are home and alive now. One of my kids wore the same size diapers at 11 as my then one year old. And his size was not even close to a remarkable level. I see kids come home every day in ten times worse condition. He was in "good" shape for a kid with special needs in a laying down room. One of other kids was aging out and due to be sent to an unspeakable place. I could say things for shock value all night, but for people who are familiar with the type of places my kids were adopted from will know that they are very common.
We did adopt to grow and enrich our family. I love my kids with all of my heart. We adopted because we wanted more kids. But our kids were in places where no child deserves to be sent, and I can't pretend otherwise.
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We are looking at cheap houses to buy for cash and fix up. It is like pulling teeth to get basic information from listing agents. I get it. There are a lot of tire kickers and a really small commission for the trouble. But we are putting in an offer on *something* next week. I'm not going to ask hours worth of questions. I just need to know if there is any remaining plumbing, electric, HVAC in the building and if there is known major structural or roof damage. Then I will leave you alone. If you don't know, that's fine.
There is one house we are particularly interested in due to its size. It would be much easier for us to buy this house and renovate, adding accessibility features in the process, than it would be to find a finished house with the things we need. It has been listed for more than a year, closer to two. It needs a lot of work, but we have looked at worse. The listing time is a red flag, but the agent also said we didn't want that one. She was not trying to sell the property at all, even though I said we will be in the area and putting in an offer on something. The house is owned by an investment company out of state. If my husband walks through with the agent he is meeting (not the listing agent) and things look like what we expect, what percentage would you offer below the list price?
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unnecessary means you're able to dispose of it. How does one dispose of a child? It's a necessary 'burden' because there's no other choice but to get through it (not that I am saying the child is a burden, just focusing on the strange use of the word unnecessary to refer to a child, who you have a responsibility to no matter how much of a 'burden' they supposedly are.)
She thinks we shouldn't have adopted him and that we made our lives harder for no reason by adding him to our family. Actually, he is the most amazing kid and I can't put into words how much we love him and how much joy he brings us.
You said you don't tell dh how to interact with family. I would tell dh the none of the dc could be around this person. The way she treats one dc affects the whole family.
I won't tell my husband who he is and isn't allowed to talk to. But I have said that she will not be interacting with the children anymore. We only see her very rarely, so there is no need for a big formal statement to her. Kids are off limits though.
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I ended up removing the book. A shipment of books that I had ordered came in, so I told him I was going to trade him for an extra book. I said that the person who gave it to him made a mistake and didn't know that he doesn't ride the bus anymore.
AND, the specialness of riding a bus will soon wear off, because we just bought a minibus for our family vehicle. :) So that takes care of that.
This wasn't a family member we see regularly in person, but in the past she has sent occasional packages. I won't tell my husband what members of his family he is or isn't allowed to talk to. I don't think that's an appropriate thing for one spouse to decide for the other. I have told him that he doesn't deserve to be treated like that and that she won't be interacting with our children anymore. She reinforced that again while talking to my husband a couple weeks ago when she referred to one of our children, due to his severe special needs, as an unnecessary burden. He corrected her on that and they haven't spoken lately.
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Does anyone know anything about neuromuscular therapy?
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If you google Anat Baniel or Feldenkrais, does that look like what you want?