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  1. These are great questions for your pastor. A forum is only going to confuse you and lead you through confusing misunderstandings. And this really is a spiritual question. My husband is a pastor and I know he would be disturbed if a parishanor brought this to forum instead of him. May God grant healing through His son.

     

    and in my case, taking it to my pastor led to confusion and misunderstanding. every situation is unique. there are some good words being spoken here. it's good to see many sides and opinions in a given situation.

  2. Exactly what are her friends trying to convince her? Do they think they have a say in her college experience? Are they using this to try to pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to/knows she shouldn't?

     

    see, that is what i keep telling her. it is HER experience. not mine. not theirs. it can be what she wants it to be. she is NOT succumbing to peer pressure. i think she is just trying to be independent which she should be. i just needed a little affirmation that i am leading her in a good direction. or not. thanks!

  3. I'm not sure I understand what you are trying to ask. Is she unhappy? If so, why? Or are you unhappy? And how are you drawn into it? What about her circumstances give her (or you) concern?

     

    I don't mean to sound snarky, believe me. I've had 3 in college...just trying to understand your question so I can answer you better. :)

     

    maybe a better question is "is there a typical college experience?" she is having trouble adjusting but i firmly believe she will. she just needs to take her own time. she is out of town but close enough to come home weekends whenever. and i have given her the freedom to choose "whenever". i am only trying to advise her and i wanted some input from others. does that help? thanks!

  4. thanks for all the various thoughts so far. at least one of them will be 17 (almost 18). does anyone know if this will be a problem? the others will be 18 and up.

     

    this trip is in the early planning stages. and this information will help us begin to weigh our options!

    :001_smile:

  5. i don't post much or much of any value! :001_smile: but i lurk a lot and i appreciate the diversity and wisdom i find here.

     

    i want some input and i have no doubt i can get some here!

     

    what are your thoughts on a group of 4 or 5 teens (17yo to 19yo) traveling to ireland together? can minors do this? where can they stay? is this safe in any way? did you ever do anything like this? would you let your children? what if a 20-something young adult went along - would that change things?

     

    tell all, please! and thank you.

  6. this was me 4 years ago. 3 weeks before school started, my oldest decided she wanted to go to school after always being homeschooled. the deal was if she ever wanted to come back home, she'd stay because once in high school we weren't going back and forth.

    over the years, there were times she wished to be at home, but she chose to stay. in our situation, she graduated first in her class, made some really awesome friends she wouldn't have otherwise, and is headed to a great college with lots of scholarship money in 3 weeks. and she got a good education on many levels in the process.

    it was really hard on me. it got easier. this is what she needed. i have other children that would not have chosen or thrived on this path.

    :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

    just wanted you to hear a positive outcome. it happens.

    best wishes to you and yours!

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