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  1. Mine is the exact same way. I'm 38. Went to the doc a bunch of times for this- they don't seem concerned and only offer Mirena or an ablation.

    I had the same experience. Mirena or ablation. Mirena was terrible for me, and I was horrified at the idea of scarring the uterus to prevent further periods (that's one way our bodies detoxify).

    That's what lead me to acupuncture which helped my cycle issues in many ways!!

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  2. My 6th grader was breezing through Saxon 7/6, so I followed advice and had her try Alcumus on the AOPS website.  She has been spending about an hour a day working through those problems, and now that I have a physical book to use she's telling me she'd rather use the online Alcumus instead of the book. 

    My question is.. are they the same material?  Can I let her use the free online Alcumus or should I have her work through the book?  Any experienced AoPS people here please give me some advice.  I'm not sure of the best way to use this program.

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  3. That's awful. How frightening for the families who worship at that mosque and others across the country. I hope they'll be able to rebuild quickly, but I'm afraid it will be hard for them to feel secure. I hope their community shows they are welcome and valued.

    The community has been very supportive (and thankfully we have very good relationships with all sorts of other religious groups).  It turns out it was not a "hate crime", but an act of arson by a mentally ill individual who has had ups and downs with our mosque over the years.  Regardless, the general feeling here is one of positive outlook, strength, and security.  Always looking for the silver lining and putting our trust with God.  

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  4. Thank you! Y'all are pretty much validating my thoughts as well. I will check that book recommendation and use some Love and Logic here where she can choose to be nice at home after friends in order to see friends next time. I'm so reassured that you can relate!

  5. My mom never let us hang out with friends outside of school, and it seemed to me that that really limited my ability to make/keep friends.

     

    So I vote that going out for pizza occasionally would be a good thing.

     

    The attitude thing though...I dunno. Have you talked with her about it? What does she think might be contributing? Is it the friends, or could it also be partly the stress of the school day coming out in her behavior?

     

    I do and have let her do many things with them over the summer, and now that school is back I guess they're wanting to do things during the week too.  Sometimes they go to the movies, out to eat... I feel like a lot the kids in our area are allowed to do just about anything that strikes their fancy.  Sure, there's nothing "wrong" with movies or pizza, but on school nights and Mom and Dad paying for it too?  ( she doesn't have allowance, and these spendy things haven't come up before).  Maybe it's time to rethink a few rules?  It's the weeknight thing that is bugging me, that, and her being so pouty and short about it.

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  6. Hey guys... I need a little "Mama help" here.  My 14yr old DD gets into a different mood and attitude when she spends time with her group of friends which right now is during the school day (she goes to public school).  After a couple of hours home after school she usually softens up and becomes nice again.  Recently she's asked to go out with her girlfriends after school, and both times I've said no.  She's not happy about that (understandably), and I can see she is trying to keep it respectful to me on the surface, but she is fuming.  Fine.  I'm not pushing for conversation or making her sit with us, I'm letting her come home and surf Instagram and then hang out in her room.  (She'll come out here and there and she's just fooling with her make up and other stuff in her room).

     

    Here's the question: I don't want her to hang out with them a lot because 1) I don't like how she gets different after hanging out with them, and 2) I don't feel like school nights are for going out for pizza or hanging out with each other.  Am I wrong about #2?  I want her to come home, eat, decompress, and spend time with us in our environment instead of fueling that school atmosphere and vibe.  She just turned 14 and started 9th grade.   

     

    And.. should I just be tough and stick to my guns while keeping it nice and cool with her, or do I insist she ditch the sulky attitude (which how could you force that anyway?)?

     

    I just want a little hand holding during this phase... I don't want to say no to everything, but I also don't want her to hang around her friends most of the time vs. only at school.

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