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  1. Another thing that helped me with dd'd diagnoses - I was able to parent her as she needed. Her issues aren't because I'm a crappy parent, which had gone through my mind on many occasions. I didn't cause her problems and I can't make them go away. However, I have been given some great tools to help her become the best person she can be without so much floundering around just praying I might find something that might work. It was incredibly validating to me!

  2. Ooo, I like all these ideas! Good point that I can pick something and then do flavors of it (types of quiche, etc.) for variety on one tray.

     

    Ok, I had totally forgotten about veges and dip. Definitely need to give that serious consideration. Yum, love spanakopita!

     

    So here, would this be overkill?

     

    http://www.kraftrecipes.com/recipes/sassy-tailgate-sandwiches-120156.aspx It's these small ham sandwiches you make on hawaiian rolls and spread and douse and bake. I have this horrible feeling I'm developing a NEED for them. Ok, I'm just susceptible to ads and they were on the page when I was looking at Ina Garten's chipotle nuts. :lol:

    if these are the sandwiches I'm thinking of, you do need them. Seriously, *need* them. And everyone else does too. And now I need them.....

  3. I agree that it could very well be anxiety. Even if you and your dh were perfectly calm and in control over the last few years, kids are attuned to the stress that's going on in your lives and y'all have had a lot. My DD sounds a lot like yours. She was miserable all the time and seemed to argue just for the sake of arguing. Meltdowns over every little thong and the inability to get herself under any sort of control finally prompted us to take her to a psychiatrist. She was diagnosed with anxiety originally and ADHD more recently. The doc said impulse control (the lashing out, angry responses) were classic ADHD in girls. I originally fought the idea - we tried diet modification, cognitive behavioral therapy, I read every book in the world on strong willed children - nothing seemed to help. When we started Zoloft for the anxiety it was like I finally had my sweet DD back. She's a funny, quirky, goofy girl when she isn't miserable. I was really concerned that she'd lose some of that on meds. Really concerned. Instead she is more confident, more willing to listen to reason, better able to see the good in things.

    All of that to say, I'd have him evaluated. Dh was/is a punitive parent too, but he's learned that if you give DD the chance to explain her reasoning for whatever, she's much more likely to listen to your reasoning. They still butt heads, but it isn't as much a control issue anymore. CBT gave her skills to deal with life and the Zoloft let her calm down enough to apply those lessons.

  4. I used to have a really big bathroom counter with a small sink, so that made a nice place for the baby tub that I used with my first couple of babies. And then I just decided it was easier to take the baby in the big tub with me, so that's what I've done with my last three babies (plus there's no room for the baby tub anyway in our bathroom). Why would that not be an option? I typically take the baby in with me, bathe him, and then call DH to get him so I can finish showering myself. (I have also taken infants into the shower with me, like when we've been at my parents' house, but not very young infants, and they don't really love that option anyway, but they do like taking a bath with me.)

    The problem I always had with taking the babies in the tub with me was the warm water ALWAYS made them poop. Nothing like being covered in baby poop to make a new mom cry.

  5. Seriously, check out the IKEA Ektorp sofa. It's the one we have (in the Indemo Beige), and it's so comfortable. We pile on it and watch movies and in the evenings James Bond and I snuggle up on it. It's easy to wash the slip covers and they look great. I bought the chair that goes with it about 3 years ago (also crazy comfy!) and I've washed the slip covers at least 20 times, with no shrinkage or damage. They look exactly like they did the day I brought it home.

    We bought the Ektorp last year with a gray 'linen look' cover and we adore this couch. It is comfortable, held up through one move already and looks brand new still. And it was cheap, cheap, cheap for a sofa. Next time we're near an Ikea I plan on buying the loveseat.

  6. Look on eBay for a new cover. Or have one made. We had a denim slipcovered sectional that I absolutely loved. The older it got, the softer the denim and more wonderful it became. I bought it from a couple that had more money than sense and they hadn't measured the room it was going into. I paid $300 and sold it to a bunch of college kids 5 years later for $200. (military moves also).

  7. I think that's brilliant actually. We have made the decision to accept a smaller paycheck than dh could earn in the civilian world because the service is very important to both of us. Congress should have to make the same type of choice. No, they won't get rich. But if serving is important to them,they can choose to live within their means.

  8. No offense to Texans, but I have a very unfavorable opinion of Texas. I have never had a good experience with anyone I have met IRL from Texas, and usually have had very bad experiences. They have all been big jerks. Not to mention that every politician I have been aware of from Texas is a crazy extremist person. Based on my experiences and perceptions of Texas, I honestly wish it would just secede.

     

    I'd vote for Arizona or NM, if I were going for perpetually warm.

    Have you actually lived in TX? 'No offense, but you all suck' is a pretty broad brush.

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