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I never thought of blepharitis being linked to celiac!
I've had it for about 12 years. First time put me in the hospital because they didn't know what it was. It my first successful Google self-diagnosis. Lol. It was confirmed by several drs.
When I feel that itch coming on I wash with johnsons 3+ times a day. It's been a few years since a serious flare, but I've been mostly gluten free.
Tibbie, I'm going to use some of that list. Thank you for posting!
Do you use compresses daily as well? What do you do to keep it away? Do you only avoid wheat? I'm asking because I need to try something to see if it helps.
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That's just me. Maybe you don't react to them. I merely responded with that because another poster mentioned that it is part of her kid's gluten problem. I'm only intolerant, not allergic.
I seem ok with rice.
Pasta, bread, and sweets have to be rare for me . ugh.
I wondered so that I can at least think about trying that option. Something is making me flare up. I wish I knew what it was. I certainly wash my eyes enough so I know that isn't it.
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I have to ask then, which grains do you specifically avoid? Any and all, or? I love rice and pasta. LOL I'm sure my waist line would appreciate a break from eating them though.
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You are doing the recommended things. There are some expensive wipes with tea tree oil on them, my optometrist (a relative) said.
Heat the water and do the compress thing before washing with the baby shampoo.
I have experienced this for a year or so, off and on, and it helps when I do this. Heating washing the little clumps off and use a slightly rough washcloth to do that washing! Not just soap and water.
Also - this is gross- but ask the eye doctor to look with the high power microscope thing and be sure it isn't mites. There are mites that cause this in some cases (not mine, thankfully, but ugh - shudders), and they can be seen and have conical waste, I think the eye doc said. That can be treated if it is the problem with some antibiotic.
I haven't seen wipes with tea tree oil on them. I'll have to see if I can find them & research them.
I usually warm my washcloth in the microwave for about 30 secs and let it cool slightly before I apply it to my eye.
Thankfully, the eye doctor did look and my blepharitis is NOT from mites. Shuddering with you on that one!
How long do your episodes last? Do you find that it coincides with your cycle? Do you use antibiotic ointment?
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Unless it worsens dramatically, I'd wait a few days and try the more intense home remedies I outlined (especially the 2-4x day hygiene). But if there's no improvement or it gets worse I'd go to the doctor by the end of the week.
I hear you about the night-time hairwashing. Once my son had this as a little boy in the coldest part of winter, and our house is cold, so I worried about him getting sick if he went to bed with a wet head. So I gave him a fresh, clean nightcap every night along with the clean pillowcase. The doctor's thinking was that any oil/dirt from the hair and skin could irritate the eyelid during sleep, so I thought that thoroughly washing the face, ears, and neck, and covering the hair, would achieve the same purpose.
Do you even have a nightcap? LOL Easy to sew; just triangles.
No, no nightcap here.
It's so weird that my eye looked better yesterday and then flared back up. I am wondering if it is hormonal? My eye doctor doesn't think so, but things that I read online seem to point in that direction.
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Oddly, blepharitis is one symptom of my son's celiac disease. When he is strictly gluten-free it goes away (for years on end) but if he slips up with his diet he can count on another round. Mentioning it just in case it helps you make a connection -- I can't imagine this is a common symptom of celiac disease but even his doctor agreed that the two seemed connected in my son's case.
Diet-related or not, here are my son's opthalmologist's instructions that always got him through the crisis:
Hygiene (do the following 2-4 times per day during the acute phase)
1. warm compress with washcloth
2. eyelid massage - move inner to outer
3. gentle lid scrub - use Johnson's Baby Shampoo and water. Wash with a Q-tip and rinse.
4. apply antibiotic ointment
Health
1. get plenty of sleep
2. observe good nutrition; limit sugar/sweets
3. avoid eyestrain and limit reading in the evening
4. wash hair and bathe at night and change your pillowcase every night
Supplements
1. Omega 3's (especially Cod Liver Oil)
2. multi with antioxidants
This has been going on for a couple of years for me. It flares up from time to time, but it's been more often than not lately.
I really do not want to go to the doctor. So, even if the eyelid is red/pink with just a hint of swelling, would you go in, or keep treating it for a while first?
I do not normally change my pillowcase every night, but I will start doing that now. I cannot bathe at night. My naturally curly hair just won't let me. :tongue_smilie:
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Do you use a washcloth when you wash your eyelids? That has helped me.
Usually I use my finger. When I used a washcloth, it seemed to irritate my lids more.
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I keep having flare-ups. It's always in the same place on my right eye. I've been using erythromycin eye ointment each night and soaking my eye. I try to put a warm cloth on my eye once a day, but sometimes I get so busy that I forget.
My eye was looking better and then last night I could see a small white pimple area on my eyelid again. I've been using the ointment for almost a week now. My regular doctor doesn't seem too concerned because my eye is only minimally swollen. I made an appointment on Friday in case it isn't 100% better. I really do not want to go in to the doctor's office, they have people out with the flu. I would really rather avoid that if I can.
I should add that I also wash my eyelids twice daily with baby shampoo. That's the one thing that I do religiously. Sigh. I am very frustrated. Any ideas that could help?
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I'm not sure if I understand the question, but I was taking Rainbow's prenatal multivitamin and I see they make this one:
Might fit the bill?
Thanks. This vitamin has added veggies, etc. I would like a multi-vitamin that is free of dyes and additives. I do not really want a vitamin with added herbs, kale, etc.
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I would like to find a 'basic' multi-vitamin without all the extra 'green' additive stuff. LOL Is there one out there that is dye-free, etc.
Help!
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I'm glad you're not in limbo anymore! Enjoy this phase of life; the next one will be here before you know it! :001_smile:
Thank you, me too! I am glad and thankful as well. My time with my guys is indeed short. I have much to do still before they are gone though. I plan to make every moment count!
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Good morning, ladies,
I turned in my notice yesterday. I have been working for a month. Long enough to know what I needed to do. After chatting further with my BFF and my dh, I feel that this is my best option for now. I wish I could stay in some ways and in other ways I am relieved.
I appreciate you all taking the time to offer advice and helping me think through this.
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Which way are you leaning Kim?
I worked today 9-1. It was better because I got to work the front desk and do other things besides shelving. I will mostly likely give it a couple of weeks and see how it goes. I'm still stressed, and still uncertain, but that's where I am.
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I think you should try to make it work. It is good for mom to have something for herself and for kids to see that everything doesn't revolve around them. Since you have older kids, I think it can work. Can you teach your son to cook for himself? Teens are capable with a bit of guidance. And at that age, they should be fairly independent in their school work so they could do a lot while you are at work.
Yes, the boys do several video classes and I do what I need to with review, etc. before I leave. They have been independent with many things for a while now.
Maybe I should start a thread asking for easy meals to get them started with. Of course, I have several in mind, but perhaps I could glean a few more recipes...
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Another point to consider, what will you do when they are in college? Even if they live at home you need to let them go. Please do not be the mom does her kids' laundry until they move out. Giving your kids repsonsibity makes them repsonsible. If you are always there to solve thier problems, they will not learn problem solving skills. For example, your son needs to eat early, give him instructions on how to turn the crockpot on or how to heat something up. You can teach him to cook one meal. Another thing to consider is that if you quit this job so early on, how will it impact the next time you try to get a job? Maybe not at all, but it is something to think about. You also started this job over the holidays; give it time doing it with your real scheudle. If your kids can drive in June, they should be fine by Sep. to drive to CC.
Change is hard. It is just plain hard.
Change is hard.
My kids certainly do their fair share around here. Both can warm up food or make simple things. However, *I* feel that it is my job to do when the one works at 4/5. He schools until 3, and will work until after 10 pm. He needs some chill time. Both can also clean as well as any girl. I have trained them well. Heck, they probably clean better than me. ;) Seriously, they do their part. I just miss doing mine.
I agree that I need to give it more time. I really miss being home...
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I so understand that feeling of what am I going to do when I'm no longer a homeschooling mom vs I don't want to miss any time cause these kids are growing up so fast! Hugs to you!!
Sounds like you don't enjoy the job. It's not giving you the community you were looking for and it's not intellectually stimulating. If you don't need the money, I'd quit.
Have you thought about what you want to do? I love coaching and training people but after being out of the professional training (not fitness) training field for a couple of decades, I knew it would be tough to go back and find a job. I ended up finding a network marketing job I love. I get to connect with great ladies, help coach and train them and be their biggest cheerleader. I love it. Plus I can work from home right with my kids while building their college funds. It's been a win win for me. Maybe you could find a job that would be like that for you? You sound like you love little kids. What about working in a place with little kids? A nursery, the hospital, etc? Maybe there is a non profit group or community group you could join. Maybe you could even start a group for almost empty nesters at your church. If you are feeling left out others might be too. I'd follow your passion. Even if you are just volunteering or getting paid minimum wage while working very part time, you would at least be building a resume in the area you want to work.
I actually thought I'd enjoy working at the library. Lots of employees advance to other positions. My current boss started out as a shelver. Now that I am there though, it isn't very enjoyable. It isn't awful, but I am not in love with it. I don't need the money. I took the job because I thought I would enjoy it & it would get ME out of the house a bit.
Before I had the boys, I was an administrative assistant. I enjoyed that very much. Most positions available for such work are full-time. That is a no-go for now. I don't know what I'd like to do beyond the library. I haven't worked in 17 years. Maybe I am in shock. LOL
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Annnnd as long as I'm serial posting...
Have you mentioned feeling like you haven't found community at your church to your pastor? Is it lack of involvement or inclusion or?
My pastors always just gave me the "oh this is a season in your life.." theme bc I have so many young ones, which was never helpful and rather not family friendly either. But THAT is another topic.
But I would like to think if I wasn't in that situation they'd make an effort to point me to where I am needed/wanted or what might be my niche.
I just sent you a PM. Yes, it is lack of participation on my part. But I do not get warm fuzzies from anyone there either. It's weird. People are cold.
I wish I had young ones. Sigh. That would cure lots of ailments around here. LOL For me anyway.
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We have no family either. And we homeschool. So I too often feel like "I'm all they got".
But again, it is only 10 hours. If you don't like the job though, maybe look for something else. It doesn't sound like you like it enough. Otherwise I think you'd figure it out. KWIM?
But then there is the fact it gets your foot in the door. Maybe not just the library door, but the door elsewhere. Ya gotta start somewhere. And you have to think of yourself too because soon enough your kids will be off dong their own thing without you. This is not to say your thing has to be a job exactly, but maybe you want to do something.
Just remind me of this when I come here asking about this a few years from now. LOL None of this is easy.
It's true. I don't want to be sitting here when they are gone wondering what to do. On the other hand, I want to cherish and have every moment that I have left with them. The job isn't what I thought it would be. It's not awful, but it isn't great either.
I will remind you!
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Is it 10 hours as in 2 x 5 days a week or?
5 days a week would be a right pita. But if it's 2 afternoons? Could you prep a meal the nights before or the morning before you go? I've had to put a lot of work into meal planning around work and school schedules. It's quite challenging sometimes even with being a sAHM! We can share foodie ideas! :)
And give friendship time. You haven't been there very long. 6 months or so would be typical to get relaxed enough to start feeling more comfortable with people. Takes me forever. Like years.
Yes, it is 12-3 Monday and Wednesday. 9-1 on Thursday.
Most of the ladies there are older. Which isn't a bad thing, but I don't see me making real connections. Plus, I am shelving books. There isn't much interaction.
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Just curious: how is your day WHEN you are home? I don't see much of my 10th grader even if I am home. 3 hours mid day? He would not notice whether I'm home or not.
As others have already said: you need to decide whether you want to make it work or not. Family is a team effort - I would not permit my teen's extracurricular schedule to dictate when I can work and when not. That is something the entire family has to decide; it can't be that you can't work because you have to accommodate his working. Always assuming you actually want to, which does not sound like it is the case.
If you want to make it work, you could, for example, precook the meal the night before, or precook on your day off, or cook in the morning before you go to work.
But honestly, it sounds as if you are looking for reasons why it won't work. Then just decide that you do.not.want. to. That's fine too.
When I am home, I do the necessary homework with the boys before I leave. It is a struggle for them to sit here and try to be awake at 8 am. They are typically busy doing school most of the day. I am here though if they need me.
Also, we have no family here. So, I feel completely responsible for them. Hubby can't do much; he works further away and many hours per week.
Perhaps you are right, I am looking for excuses.
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I'm the primary driver here too. In fact. I have to leave now to take a kid to work....
I don't know how you do it! You could run a taxi service...
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Are karate and youth held during the hours you work or after? Around here, that kind of thing is late afternoon/evening. So other than fixing a meal for ds and being away during their most productive hours, it really sounds like guilt is what is bothering you.
Meal prep is easy. He can eat whatever the rest of you had the last day you worked. So on Wednesday he eats what you guys ate Monday after he went to work. Same on Friday- whatever you made for dinner Thursday, set his portion aside for the next day.
But I really think you just feel guilty. And if you want to quit, just do it. But I couldn't muster any guilt for being away from my family so I could take a part time job. If my kid had really needed me, yeah. But as a high schooler, he needed to get ready for being away at college and learning to juggle everything that he needed to do in a day. Without me being the ringleader.
It's ok to feel guilty and quit. Just own it, though.
Karate is after hours, but it is trying to get everything done beforehand that is stressing me.
Yep, I feel guilty. Plus, my greatest joy is being a homemaker. I truly enjoy it. I also thought I would enjoy this part-time position.
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I don't care whether you keep the job or not. I mean, I do as in, "Yay you and I hope you love it!"
But if you feel the sacrifice isn't worth the price, however small or great either are, then it isn't and there's nothing wrong with that.
But I am far more concerned that you feel you can't leave the house by yourself for 10 hours a week. I don't care if it's a job you love or just need the money or a hobby or meeting friends for coffee or a volunteering at church. Everyone needs to feel they can do that even if they don't. Because at some point, they will need to do it and it's rather traumatic when their family can't cope with it!
If you can't because you are busy doing things you feel are priorities in your life - then that's great too. I get that. Been that way for most of 20 years here for us too.
If you feel you can't bc then how will they have dinner? Um no.
What did you hope to gain from this job? Spending money? Getting a social circle outside of kids? Just trying to not be stuck home (much as we love our homes, we can still feel that way)? Or?
If you don't feel this job is going to give what you were needing, then by all means leave the job to someone it might do that for.
If you are scared it's going to deminish you as wife and mom somehow bc you won't be there to make dinner or whatever? Go fearlessly, my friend, if not there than in some other endeavor that fills you. Becoming more of yourself isn't going to make you a lessor mom or wife.
I had hoped to gain more of a community feel. We've been here 4 years almost and I am not getting that from my homeschool community or church. I don't think I will gain that shelving.
And then I think of my 'babies' that will be gone shortly. I want all the time I have left with them to be good. I feel torn.
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I should add that I am the means of transportation. Period. No one will be driving here alone until at least June. In the fall both are hoping to take CC or Tech classes and that will add a whole new dimension to the scheme.
Apparently, I do not do well with change. This has been good and weird all at once for me. I wish I had tons of littles still in my house. Being a mommy is what I love to do the most. Sigh.
Dr. Hive, Any of you deal with chronic blepharitis?
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My eye to date has is never crusty upon waking. It is just red on the right top lid and a little swollen. I have given up eye make-up and contacts. I seriously miss both.
I'm just frustrated. I would like not to worry about doing warm compresses all the time. Geez, and just live. :glare: