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  1. We are in a 4 school day unit study. I bought the Currclick unit study and it was short and fun. We made Chinese lanterns, a Bunraku pop-up theater and watched U-Tube videos of both.

     

    I found some great short Powerpoint presentations on Chinese New Year, history and culture etc. at http://www.pppst.com

     

    We did the Red Envelopes and baked Nian Gao (Chinese New Year sticky cake).

     

    Started our festivities on Wed and on Fri I made a scavenger hunt for the girls. I used cupcake wrappers and slipped a clue or riddle inside. It kinda looked like a fortune cookie. The final clue directed them to the fridge for a goodie treat of Mochi ice cream, Ramune soda and Pokey. It was a lot of fun!

     

    Fri Nite we went to a Chinese buffet and there was a lot of food but it despite the good reviews, it wasn't all that great and two of us spent the day today nursing what looks like a case of food related stomach aches. :( Oh well.

     

    Monday, we're planning a trip to the Asian store so the girls can redeem some coupons I slipped in their red envelopes for some Boba Tea and treats. We're kinda combining Chinese and Japanese but we're learning Japanese language too so it all works out. That's our celebration of the Chinese New Year. Fun Stuff!

  2. a. If you don't have one, get a crate for your dog.

     

    b. Start a new routine - your dog is crated unless you are able to supervise him. This means you are aware of your mom's baggies and any loose pills and do a sweep for them before you let your dog out of his crate.

     

    c. Crate you dog when your FIL is taking care of his medicines.

     

    d. Crate the dog when you are gone.

     

    e. If you are gone longer than a few hours (ie. overnight) get someone else to watch your dog.

     

    If at all possible, try to get them to do the same for their dog.

     

    But - strictly speaking, you are only responsible for your dog. Right now you are not taking care of him adequately and you are putting his life in danger. Obviously their dog is a living creature too and deserves better care but you are limited somewhat in what you can do. You could make a case that if you are going to be paying his vet bills, that you have some say in his care.

     

    :iagree::iagree::iagree:

    This is the only way you can really be sure you are protecting your dog.

     

    Obviously the parents have a pattern of laxness followed by a disaster and then followed by some improvement that doesn't last. This is predictable and isn't likely to change so you need to make changes that take into account that they will leave the pills out and that your dog will eat them.

     

    Knowing this, you must crate and supervise at all times. Because you know this, you also have to accept that lack of supervision will be on you and your dh.

  3. I've never had a job doing ultrasounds but my personal experience of 48 years has never shown a preference for boys from any of my family or friends who were American. So I wouldn't have any idea why or even if this is true.

     

    Same here. We did have a family near us that kept having children until they had a girl. They had 4 boys and when the 5th came the teacher announced to the class it was another boy (one of their boys was in my class). The boy was so disappointed and said they would have more babies.

  4. We used one on our Golden who was showing aggression and rough play toward our cats. She knew that she could nip and jump on them before we could get to her so the shock collar nipped (or zapped) that right in the bud. She is a very good dog around them now. I'm afraid she could have really hurt them if we hadn't used this intervention because the cats she was targeting are very mellow and won't defend themselves. Used correctly, shock collars can be very effective.

  5. If you have choosen not to speak to a parent, could you please tell me what the first few days or weeks felt like? Also, did the parent see it as a challenge and try to resume contact? Am I right in assuming that nothing I do will get them to change their behavior if they are are bit NPD? Thanks for the help.

     

    :grouphug: I'm sorry you're going through this.

     

    IMO I don't think there is such a thing as a 'bit NPD' so if your parent is NPD they are going to probably be as manipulative and difficult as any NPD and from what I've read NPD is not something that responds to therapy or meds.

     

    I am no contact with my family and my sister is the NPD. It was a little different for me because it was a sibling but I can tell you that the first few weeks were a challenge because when the NPD realizes you are pulling away or attempting to impose boundaries they will amp up the pressure and guilt trips and manipulations. You will need to be firm and remember that this is what they do. The worst thing you can do to a NPD is remove their source of energy and that is the victim that they are draining. They are very manipulative and will do most anything to hold on to that energy source so be prepared to hold onto your set boundaries.

     

    Remember too that NPD do not believe that rules, ANY rules, apply to them - Especially those set in place by their targeted victim. But also remember that you are in control of yourself and what you do and you have the right and duty to protect yourself and your family from emotional damage.

     

    While you are getting used to a no contact situation it would be good to find ways to distract yourself and be in a place where it would be difficult for your NPD to engage with you. If you feel compelled to respond to them, just realize that is not a 'no contact' position and every time you respond (good or bad) you are refilling the NPD's energy reserves. All they want is the knowledge that they can make you react. They want to pull the strings. Before you react, take some time and ask yourself if it is something you really need or want to do. Never respond without taking time to think it though. Sorry this is so long. I hope this is helpful.

  6. I guess I should have mentioned, I did not order anything via Amazon recently. I checked my Amazon account, and there was no recent activity. Also, they verified that they did not send this.

     

    The biggest giveaway, though, was that the email was sent to multiple emails, and from what seems to be a personal account.

     

    Danielle

     

    That happened to me too! The sending to multiple emails was what tipped me off too.

  7. Just discovered this morning that my other Muslim friend, no head scarf, also got chopped off in this picture. She is Turkish and a lot of Danish people have a lot of racism towards that ethnicity. Dd accidentally found another class picture on FB from the first year, different class but we were all very close, where I also got chopped off.

     

    So, whatever. Supremacy at its most cowardly.

     

    Life goes on.

     

    Aside from looking very racist the thought of someone actually doing that and thinking it is ok is scary and downright creepy! Can't even wrap my mind around it. Hope FB can take care of it for you.

  8. We did Science Jim too and the girls enjoyed his classes. We used it as a supplement to our regular science.

     

    We did a short Stock Market class last summer and it was pretty good too.

     

    I wish they had more classes specifically aimed at middle/HS instead of all the classes that include all grades or most grade ranges. We've found that those all inclusive range classes aren't challenging even though they include high school level.

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