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    Different Priorities (JAWM)

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    My mom was planning to come visit for Christmas. We had been talking about this for a few months. She had booked her tickets. She made plans for her dog to stay at a kennel.

     

    Her dog stayed at the same kennel for a few days over Thanksgiving, and I don't know exactly what happened, but now she's not comfortable leaving the dog at that kennel again. I'm pretty sure it was nothing major, and in the last several years my mom has reached Expert Level at Making a Mountain Out of a Mole Hill.

     

    So she said she wasn't sure she'd be able to come for Christmas, unless she could find another kennel on such short notice. Well, she found another, but isn't comfortable with her dog being at this new kennel while she's out of town for 5 days. Plus it's now occurring to her how expensive this trip is going to be.

     

    So she's not coming. She said she'll try to come see us sometime in January, for a short visit, so the dog isn't too troubled by a long visit at a new kennel.

     

    I'm upset, and I just don't understand her priorities.

     

    Part of me knows that I should talk to her about this, overcoming my family's m.o. of just not talking about the thing bothering us until something passive aggressive slips out. But part of me also feels like if all she's going to be doing while here is worrying about her dog and fretting over how much money the trip is costing her, than it's probably better for her to not come.

    I get it. My FIL is like that. He definitely cares way more about his dogs than his grandkids.

    We love our dogs too but we found a way to leave them for over three weeks (3 different trips) in the last year because it was important for us to be with family. The last trip was 10 days supporting FIL. No way would he leave his dogs to be with us. 🙄

    Ups and Amazon.. And destroyed package

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    How does UPS know where you work and where your dh works? :confused:

     

    I can't imagine that a UPS driver would be allowed to deliver packages to an address that's different from the one printed on the package.

     

    This is very confusing. And seriously, what kind of animal is eating your packages? If that happened to me, I would fear for my family's safety.

    Well, life is very different in rural communities.

    If my sister's driver sees her or a family member in town, he gives them their packages. If my niece is at my sister's house, he will give my niece her package while he he is delivering to my sister.

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    Ups and Amazon.. And destroyed package

    in The Chat Board

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    Just an update, if anyone is curious.

    We finally got ahold of UPS. They said basically we should leave a note on the door (which there is), tell the driver (which we have), or leave a message with the local office (have many times). BUT ultimately, it's up to the driver to decide whether its safe to leave a package. They directed us to contact amazon as they have a contract with them. Amazon is sending a replacement.

     

    As a complete side note, UPS will randomly decide NOT to come to our house because it's so far out. Often they do this without calling. They'll leave packages addressed to dh at his work in one town (twice they've left packages in MY name at his job). OR they'll leave packages at my job in another town.

    One of my packages shows delivered. last week. To my work. When the business was closed. (Not unusual-as then they'll leave it at a next door business). I can not find this package... Not sure WHERE it was left...

    It depends so much on your driver. My sister has a great UPS driver that always makes sure her packages are safe.

    Her FedEx drivers are terrible.

    Ups and Amazon.. And destroyed package

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    Delivery people (UPS, Fed Ex, etc.) cannot just put a package in a random door/vehicle on or near the property. :confused1: How are they to know whether or not a specific vehicle on site is one that is always there or is someone just visiting.

     

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    They do it all the time.

     

    I'm assuming the OP lives in a rural location.

    My sister lives 16 miles from the nearest town (the town has 600 people). The nearest UPS store to her would be 75 miles away.

    Her UPS driver leaves packages in her garage, inside her gate, sometimes even inside her kitchen door.

    For my niece, if the driver sees her husbands truck town he will sometimes leave packages in the truck.

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    JAWM... "my geeky kid..."

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    OP here (I've been out all night). Thanks for this.

     

    Yes, I'm fine with bragging about a kid's accomplishments, funny moments, whatever. I love that stuff, actually! I don't like the veiled "my kid is so smart" thing of calling him "geeky" EVERY TIME you post about it. It's like what a PP mentioned about someone calling himself a "nerd" because he listens to podcasts and likes theology. It just strikes me as a way of saying "look at me, I am SO uniquely intellectual" versus just being who you are (or letting your kid be who they are) without the "deprecating" (but not) embellishment of a label.

    I get it.
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    unromantic gifts

    in The Chat Board

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    I had to tell dh I'd truly rather have nothing than have something he bought at Walmart after wandering around 3 hours Christmas Eve trying to find something for me. Several years ago, this was the case. He gave me a fitted sheet and a LOTR DVD. I like LOTR (the books) but I don't really re-watch movies so I have no need for DVDs. I still don't understand the fitted sheet. I would have rather had that time with him. I'm a bit of a minimalist, anyway, so I really am quite happy with receiving nothing. Thank goodness he listened to me. Now he gives me gifts sporadically when he knows there is something I'd like to have. This could be a household item (I'd love a good steam mop!) or a pointless item (fancy soap! I never buy myself fancy soap.) Some years, he gets me nothing for the holidays and I am also happy with that!

    😂 I'm going to remember this when I open my presents this year. A fitted sheet? 😂
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    Ballet moms, does going on/en pointe ruin your feet?

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    No it doesn’t ruin feet generally. That’s a weird assumption. Why would anyone go en pointe if it were crippling?

     

    That said, girls need to be at a particular place in development to go en pointe. Good teachers will know. My daughter was 11 and starting puberty. Shoes need to be fitted by experts. Teachers should double check shoes before sewing them. Our studio runs a new pointe shoe boot camp with sewing and foot care.

     

    And then instruction should be gentle as feet mature and develop. If your studio and teachers have good credentials and track record, I wouldn’t worry too much unless your child were very young and they were trying to put her en pointe.

    I agree with all this.

     

    It's super important to have teachers that respect their feet and their bodies in general and don't push them into things that they're not ready for.

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