jillian
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I haven't brought anything up yet. I am mulling over options and I am calling a counselor tomorrow morning. My goal ideally would be for us to re learn each other and what brought us together in the first place. He is a very good dad and I do not want to hurt his relationship with dd. I do not want to lose my family. I don't know what he wants anymore. He contributes nothing emotionally to our marriage. He barely has conversations with me because he doesn't do anything or have any interests. I feel like we lost each other and I don't know how we can find each other again together. We have had similar discussions about how I need emotional availability and how I understand it is difficult for him because of his personality. I do think there is some depression there. I do think he needs perhaps some medication ( I'm not talking out my ass I have an MA in marriage and family therapy) but he is not open to that. I am at the point kind of that I don't want him to look at me or engage with me but when I put that distance there I miss him desperately. I just don't know if he misses me too
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Oh yeah we would have a counselor guide us through. I am going to start counseling on my own regardless if he wants to come. I don't want to lose my marriage but I cannot carry it all myself.
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Yeah I know the positives of a separation in the right circumstances. We have been in counseling before for these same issues. He doesn't really believe in counseling (despite that being my profession) and it doesn't really work for several reasons--mainly that he doesn't give anything into the sessions.
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I'm sorry Gil.
We are dealing with a lot of apathy on part of my husband. He isn't really putting effort forth and I am exhausted trying to make it work for both of us. My husband really doesn't seem to want to work with me.
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This is not a debate about separation. I am just asking if you have done a separation? How did it work out? What was the end result?
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Lol I know. He went to meet my friends kids today. I am still amazed at how chill he is
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The vet said his weight is just fine. He is soooo laid back. Didn't care what the vet did
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Yeah we don't do table scraps but he does get a good amount of treats because he is potty training still. My Rottie used to scarf till he barfed. He is a poo eater too so it makes me crazy. He still has some growing to do so he will probably fatten up with that process. He doesn't chew much either so that's awesome. We got some dental bones and other toys for him to chew on. Got an elk antler today too. I'm a therapist so Pavlov is perfect
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We have one. Love Kongs for play. We don't free feed so he eats breakfast and dinner with us and then goes the rest of the day we training/reward treats and/or chewable bones. We do have some issues with him not telling is he has to pee and just doing it in the house. We are working on it. He is young. He was a stray so food and water were commodities. I get that. He gorges on water too. Waiting for the vet to open. We get a free physical because he was adopted
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This is our new furry family member. He is a Shepard/lab mix about 8.5 months old. He is super smart. Learned sit and to sit before food, leash and going in and out of the house. Slept on his bed in our room but we are getting a crate today for when he has to be left alone. He was a stray so he gorges on food but no resource issues we can see just scarfs down his food super fast. He could stand to gain about 15 lbs. he is a little skinny.
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Watching Percy Jackson and the sea of monsters tonight. When the hippocampus part came on dd goes "he has flat teeth. He eats plants"
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It's the plan for next yearThis sounds like a wonderful school day for a 6 year old!
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She read her basher basics astronomy book http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0753462907/ref=mp_s_a_1_fkmr2_1?qid=1392470348&sr=8-1-fkmr2&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70 in 30 minutes to and from the grocery store. She was able to explain it and what she read
Yet she doesn't know when she should wash her hands--just today she had a little piece of chocolate and had no clue she should go wash her hands and wiped chocolate on herself. She also has no clue when she is being obnoxious
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Laura, that's like my husband. Atrocious handwriting but was sneaking downstairs to read Stephan King at 5 or 6.
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We are watching life's greatest miracle. Very good and factual so far.
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Next year dd (6)
--LA: Continue with MCT. We blended Island and Town this year but didn't get around to Music of the Hemispheres or Caeser's English so we will do that. And more literature.
--Science: eclectic--a little physics, a little chemistry, a little astronomy/earth science, dissections, experiments. Her and her dad are going to do the catapult thing and probably a potato cannon.
--History: ??? I don't know. I'd like to do living books but haven't gotten to what I want to do.
--Math: LoF and finish 3a of Singapore. We are going to go deeper right now. We are also going to play with the Basher Basics Algebra and Geometry book.
--Handwriting: still working on spacing and sizing. continue working on cursive. She loves the New American Cursive so we will finish this book (1) and move on.
--Life Skills: baking, laundry, etc.
--Extras: Coding on the computer and typing. We will do play time daily.
--Fine Arts: seeing plays/productions a couple times a month and continue piano lessons.
--Languages: Spanish via Rosetta Stone. Latin here and there
--Vocabulary: as she reads and anything we come across in other classes.
We are moving in December most likely so trying to keep things simple and easy
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I am thinking a living books approach is best for us for next school year. What are your favorites? We will be in early modern/modern times. I want something secular though I do believe that knowing about world religions is very important.
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Great thread. It was me who brought up the original pushy. Dd is newly 6 but if she had her way would do hands on stuff and dissections and all that kind of thing for school. Makes it hard for content areas because how many map exercises can you do for geography. She looooves geography and I was able to find the salt dough map and color/paint it super effective for geography and then using the immersion method. Math I struggle with because she doesn't like being challenged (i.e. If she can't do it perfect she doesn't wanna) but can do a lot of stuff above 1st grade. I also don't want to kill her love of learning by pushing/pulling too much. It's so much more difficult than I thought it would be. I will be re reading this thread one the lockout we after wee one goes to bed
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She knows a lot. Egg and sperm (from biology and our infertility struggles) she's aware of. Knows that it's an act called sex but we also discuss that this is her knowledge and not for sharing. She knows what a uterus is as well. Knows that the baby grows inside. I really wanted that visual representation and there have been awesome recommendations here. Thank you
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I think I'm really going to just move towards living books with her. She's old enough now to get input on subjects. She wants dissections. She wants math games (I think we are going to do LoF in the interim). She wants hands on chemistry. She can read anything under the sun so we will keep up with good literature and call it good. Probably toss in some Spanish since it looks like at the end of the year we are going back to Texas.
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If she had her way she would do all science and play math games (but not actual math) and build stuff and beg to do dissections. And do chemistry by baking and cooking.What does she want? You posted recently both that she was burnt out, and then in this thread that you don't often do school, so it's hard to gage what is actually going on. (which I've felt all over the place too at times.) I would follow her lead. She isn't going to be behind, whether you get the highg school texts or not, so I'd let her pick.
I don't tnk parenting is what anyone plans on it being. Lol
I would love to read that lol.I made a long winded thread tl;dr on why I think buying highschool books for an advanced six year old is fine because "you don't know what your kid don't know". I'll confess I'm embarrassed by how long and rambly it was, but I spent so long rewriting it trying to figure out what my point was there's no way I wasn't posting that sucker (although that should have been a clear indication not to, haha).
DittoSometimes I do not understand what my child is saying. And it is because I do not "get" the subject. sigh. I feel really stupid. And I do not know how he knows things sometimes- where does it come from?
ETA- and he isnt even profoundly gifted or anything. LOL.
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I don't think it's unheard of to buy the best basic elementary and start looking into middle and highschool taking your time to slowly teach it to a six year old. Do you mean I shouldn't be thinking about buying the hs Analytical Grammer program after MCT Island level just to save money, which I'll spend on science kits and art supplies, because mct's so expensive? :lol:
How long before your kid needs to go from oral narations the to this? http://www.germanna.edu/tutor/handouts/english/literary_analysis.pdf. I bought a book called "how to read literature like a professor for kids". I recommend getting this book and reading it yourself for a short reminder of how you learned to study literature in school. It's a short reminder but now I feel confident of how to take my kid easily from narrations to lit analysis. It's a little, thin, book and there's nothing new in it, but I recommend you get it. At least it reminded me of all the things I know that I should now teach my kid.
Great Post. I guess I just worry that we are pushing her. Not that she cannot do the work or understand but that we are pushing her to hard. I guess I just didn't expect this from parenting you know?
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My daughter forgoes body cues of hunger and bathroom to build her Lego house. She will not eat or use the restroom for hours if we don't remind her.
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Thanks. I heard good things about "In the Womb" too. That's fairly new as well.
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Thank you everyone. I am so incredibly appreciative