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I now realize that I have gotten myself into a power struggle but what am I to do? He won't eat anything healthy. All he eats is starches and dairy! This is not good for him, something has to be done, I just don't know what.:(
Sure I can give him something he likes, but it won't be anything healthy and what purpose does that serve? __________________
I know the power struggle is over, but I agree with Pam you are not a bad mom and serving just a little is a good idea too. Stopping the finickiness early is important. It will only get worse.
I would also change his morning breakfast.
We have had lots of food transitions here over the years. The way I transition them is to add the new things to what I know they already like that is healthy. Then like others have said, I make sure they at least taste the new food and maybe even eat most of it. It depends. If you change your menu and only offer healthy foods, his taste buds will change and he will eat what you serve. All of my children eat and enjoy large salads with salmon on top for lunch. My parents are always amazed when they see how many veggies our kids eat. This wasn't always the case. What we finally did to was to ask them to eat their least favorite thing first so they wouldn't be too full to eat it later. That worked wonders.
I don't make them clear their plates and they can always ask not to eat something, but mostly they need to eat what we serve. If it is something no one likes, like the meatloaf I made the other day, I ask them to eat some, just like I ate some, and tell them I won't make it again. I don't have time to make or wait for them to make their own meal. Anyway, what is in the frig is ing for another meal.
It takes some transition time, but stick with it, he will come around.
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This happened to us recently on the weekend and my husband called me in, because he thought it was rude to watch. I thought the kids would enjoy seeing the ambulance and fire engine.
We were 4 houses away though. Forgot to mention that.
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Praying for you all.
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I tried to edit the other post to reflect the update, but it didn't go through so I guess admin will move me, but I wanted to update and say thanks again.
The house is clean and the school work is done. I am not a slob today.;)
Whenever anyone got something out I would remind them during their play or work that they needed to put it back when they were done. Then when they were done if they didn't put it back, I asked again. I picked things up here and there all day. What do you know, the house is clean at the end of the day and now I can use my cleaning time to declutter my closet. YEAH. This is our new habit for this month, picking up after ourselves.
And it is true the neighbor doesn't homeschool and the dc that are at home watch a lot of TV/videos and my two little ds don't, but entertain themselves.
Everyone here feels better in a clean house and it wasn't that hard and no one is miserable because of it. I am so happy. Gotta go declutter!
Thanks again!
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I have a question, sorry if it is a dumb one. I exported my bookmarks to my documents, but if my computer crashes wouldn't I lose everything in my documents too? Or am I supposed to save everything in my documents to a disk now?
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In your case I think as he gets older and with clues from mom and dad he will do much better with social situations. I think as long as you are helping him understand social cues in a kind and loving way, then it is okay for him to feel hurt. Sometimes life lessons do hurt, but they are important to learn.
One of mine is a social butterfly. He can make friends anywhere. His brother is much more reserved. I am very thankful to see that the ds who is more reserved makes friends as well, just not with everyone.:) I coached them about their social skills very differently. PS wouldn't have.
All this to say that I don't think school is a great way to socialize kids. It is better to be socialized at home with love, acceptance and kind instruction. It took me years to recover from the socialization school gave me!!! I didn't pull out of my shell until college.
Kids are merciless, it would be like throwing him to the wolves. A friend of mine struggles with a ds who sounds a lot like your son. He is in private school and to this day (6th grade) he struggles to find friends. She has mentioned that she is thankful for the relationship my ds has with him, because my ds accepts him for who he is.
By the way, I have met lots of socially awkward, intelligent, public schooled adults. I really don't think public school is the answer. Be on the look out for others who share his interests and try to connect with them. Then at least they can both be excited by the topic of conversation.
Hugs to you, this sounds heart breaking.
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Felt the exact same way on a warm day 2wks ago! Snowed the next day. I am encouraged though, because there are many more warm and sunny days than last month. It is coming, hang in there! I also tell myself not to expect it until late April, that way I am never disappointed.:(
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My posting time limit is coming to a close so I didn't read every response, but we rotate our toys. That way there are much fewer to keep track of. They still end up all over the place though. (Previous post):D
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I felt obligated to make up a batch and was faithful to add and add on the right days. My kids loved it, but way too much white flour and sugar. I would never make it again, no matter who gave it too me. Just like those emails that threaten about all the good things you will miss out on if you don't forward it, I delete it. Delete that bread and be at peace.:) You are right, you don't need a reason. But here is a good one... because you want to.:D
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I wrestle with them, but I think that all dc need the soft side in their lives too. Especially, a home with all boys. I love em up even when they fight it, but I know they secretly like it.:) I go for walks with them and like Tara said, I encourage their interests and cheer them on. My husband is all about teaching them, so I try to balance that with the encouragement aspect.
Also, be a good listener without a lot of judgment (still working on that one).
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Thank you counselors. I didn't post to hear I am not the only one, but that helped too!:)
The ds have chores, we have laundry and toilet routines, throw away and sort mail before it comes in, and everyday at some point either the upstairs or downstairs gets completely clean, BUT it doesn't last very long. Right now I am in the "computer/school" room and It just looks disorganized. Little things out of place everywhere. I prefer to work in a clean home too.
I honestly think our largest problem is not picking up/putting away things after we are done with them. So, as many of you suggested I think I will start there. I know that probably isn't a baby step, maybe it is, but if we did that I think it would really help. Most of what I consider messy is books, clothes, toys, papers, and clothes on the floor and on counter tops. Since one part of the house is cleaned everyday, there isn't layers of clutter or old stuff, just new messes. If all goes well, I will report back in.
I also need a "get ready for Monday", Sunday night pick up. My house is awful Monday morning after a busy weekend of everything we don't do during the week. Kwim? And that was the morning the neighbor walked in.:)
I am encouraged and motivated. Thank you!
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Good for you! I think it takes a lot of courage to start one of these classes. Next year I want to teach an elective through our homeschool groups electives co-op, but I feel intimidated by it.
I would love to hear other things people have taught to homeschool groups. Our electives go from preschool to high school so there are all sorts of things I could teach.
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Today my neighbor came over to use the printer. What a mess! Then I needed something at her house. AHHHH, so clean. I suppose I could spend more time cleaning and less on the computer.:) I find this forum very addictive.
My neighbor has jokingly admitted she has an obsessive compulsive cleaning disorder, but it would be nice to have someone come over unexpectedly and not feel like a slob.
Any ideas? Flylady? Been there, done that, it works pretty well, but I am terrible with the follow through. I have learned a lot there though.
Oh, and my neighbor does have 3 children, so I have few excuses.
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It would be nice if you could put "update" in the thread title. Sometimes I think about updating a thread, but unless it says update, wouldn't people just think that it has been added to, but not necessarily updated?
Or do you start a new thread with the old title and the word update? I thought I saw Admin say that it was better to post within the old thread so people knew exactly what you were talking about.
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Sometimes someone will post something that I have a question on and I wonder if they will ever check back. If I really want the question answered I privately email them, but I was just curious. I hardly ever do.:) Unless, I am looking for more information about the thread topic then I follow it through.
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Not a recipe, but instead of a baking stone, you can use large tiles from the hardware store.
I would also check the library/interlibrary loan. Great resource for checking out books you might want to purchase.
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I want to learn how to do this too and we use Mozilla as well. This will speak volumes about my computer knowledge, but where do you find a file menu? I have looked on my START pop up screen and can't find anything that says that. Maybe, because we have Mozilla?
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>>>"I honestly don't understand the witchcraft argument. Snow White has a witch that casts a spell. Little Mermaid has the same. This is not meant to be a confrontational statement. I just don't know what the difference would be. I can see how the tone may be too dark for sensitive children."
Most likely families who use that argument don't read or watch those stories either. We don't.
The world is dark enough and to me witchcraft is "dark", I prefer to expose my children to the light when they are young. It also seems these books get darker as you move along in the series? Am I wrong? There are plenty of real life dark moments in books without all the fantasy and occult.
It is during the Rhetoric Stage that teens begin to develop their world view. Self-expression is at its peak. This is not the time to let one’s child go, but to continue helping him flower, guiding him gently. Challenge his thinking skills during this stage and make him defend his intellectual and religious positions. This would be a time when I would think Harry Potter for our family would be worth reading together.
I have read a review (not all neg, but mostly) of Harry Potter by an older Christian high school child that I felt was right on. I think as children get older it is good for them to read things that go against what they have been brought up with to help them make their own decisions on such topics.
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I use my Vitamin Cottage bags every where, but IKWYM about Walmart. I try not to go there either and if I only have a few items I let them use my bag(I keep one that folds up in my purse), but if there are a whole bunch I go with theirs.
Everyone so far is very glad I have my own bags.:) We can all appreciate our over crowded landfills.
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We did sealants, but I wouldn't do them again. I have heard that unless the teeth are perfectly clean they can actually seal in bacteria. UGH. The ones we had put in had to be redone 3 times for one of my ds.
Drs and the people in their office are often touchy when you don't want to do what they think is good and necessary. Stick with your choices. This often gives me a heads up that I am in the wrong office and that other choices I might make won't be accepted either.
Our dentist wanted to give our 8yos laughing gas for a filling. I thought an 8yo could handle a filling fully awake. That didn't sit well with our dentist, but he couldn't say that there were no side effects so in the end he did it without. We moved out of state shortly after, but I wouldn't have gone back only because imo, he wasn't willing to be flexible on something so small.
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Brownies or ice cream or cake for dinner every once in a great while can really lighten the mood and put everything back into perspective. Enjoy!
I find that every once in a while I have one of those days where everything seems bad, but usually after a good nights sleep things look better in the morning. Or at least in a few days.
Hang in there tomorrow is just around the corner and you will feel much better!
Hugs.:)
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I usually enjoy doing them if the year hasn't been too complicated, because we rarely owe with one income and 4 dc. Last year, we were in two states and lots of different jobs, so that was much less fun.
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Kids make dinner, pizza, dh makes dinner or fin for yourself night.:)
Or cereal and/or p&J
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Sometimes I'll say, "It's a good day, how's yours?"
I like that! I hate the question only because "fine, thanks" sounds Blah. So I say "Great.", but that sounds over the top. I try to ask first and then if they say good, then I say it too.
Those of you with older boys, at what age did they become capable of crying...
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I think it is a personal thing too. My oldest ds has cried during a sad movie and over sin when he was young (8yrs). My dad cries and is very manly, my husband doesn't. My husband would like to sometimes, but can't. He might say I feel like crying, but he just can't. I cry easily and always have, I would like a bit more control myself! And yet I have friends that rarely cry.