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  1. It's too bad the xh did not offer to take one of your ds's friends along, or even his stepbrother. Just about every teen I know would have a better time with a friend along on a trip.

  2. I know all the jokes about Whole Foods being called Whole Paycheck; however, I do buy several items there.

     

    My husband and I have high blood pressure and consequently eat a low sodium diet.

     

    The Whole Foods 365 brand sells very reasonably priced canned and boxed beans with no sodium added.

     

    We also buy the 365 low sodium bacon.

     

    And their 365 brand no salt added albacore tuna.

     

    Regards,

    Kareni

    And if you buy by the case, you get a discount. We buy cases of no salt canned beans there.

     

    Their organic produce has gone down in price since Amazon bought Whole Foods.

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  3. Ok I went and got these last night and have tried them today and cannot get them to work.

     

    They just fall out of the dancer's hair in about 2 mins of dancing.

     

    What am I doing wrong?

    In the video she uses 2 and that is what I did.

    Do I need to use more?

    I used 4 of the long ones (there are two sizes) for my dd's long and thick hair. You have to make sure you screw them in kind of sideways towards the scalp without actually touching the scalp. If she has slippery hair, I'd use a hair tie to make a pony tail and then wrap to bun and screw in.
  4. Right. Me too. And I have said that to him and then when he says he just can't because it will make him so miserable...I say, 'well, then you have to own that. You have to tell him.' But to me it is even WORSE to tell him, 'oh he is paying for your college and bought you a car so you should go on a trip with him even if you do hate it.'

    Yes, that does sound awful.
  5. Ds has traveled a lot. I have made him many times....he never enjoys it and never has good memories of it....he isn't afraid....it just isn't something he enjoys. Add to that he can't stand the thought of a7 days with his dad and well, he just doesn't want to go.

    Also, his dad is paying for his education and car, he can't give him a week?
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  6. Well, I would encourage my child to travel. To take a trip. The thing is, if you allow your hatred of travel (or fear?) to hold you back when you're 18, it just becomes worse and worse.

     

    Now, if he suffers from serious travel-related anxiety, maybe his father is not the person to walk him through it. Maybe a very short trip is better with his dad. But I wouldn't let a kid this age not travel because he prefers to be home or doesn't like it. Traveling can be uncomfortable and unpleasant. It can take us out of our comfort zone. These are, I think, important things for a young person to be able to do. But pleasure is not the only point of travel. It would worry me that he is sick over this. If it's a father issue, that is one thing. But I wouldn't let him off the hook from leaving his comfort zone, because 18 is too young to be so entrenched in one's routine and habits that one doesn't want to spend a few days away from home.

    This. And he might be nervous that by going with your ex, it is somehow a betrayal of you. Kids get funny ideas sometimes. I would be very excited for him and encourage him to find a trip he'd enjoy.
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  7. I agree. If there is anything at all that you could find a way to use...

     

    Think of the money invested as a gift to your MIL/an investment in the family relationship.

     

    It's about the person, not the jewelry.

    A brooch that would be gaudy is pretty as an addition to a dressy bag. Or put on a long chain and worn as a necklace.

     

    If there are large stones, earrings or a necklace made with just one big stone could work.

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  8. I would wait at least six months of letting him deschool before I worried about his behavior needing looking at. He obviously didn't have a good experience there, so I'd give him time and distance from the school. I wouldn't do school-like homeschool stuff at all for a seven-year old transitioning from school. I pulled my son out of school at about that age (some 18 years ago), and we went with his interests for awhile. Lots of Norse mythology, Legos, and science, science, science for the rest of that school year. He's now a bright adult--still has terrible handwriting. :)

     

    I usually say This too must pass, and it usually does. Seven years old for boys, nine y.o. for girls--hard years IMO.

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  9. And yes, we are the government, you've paraphrased fairly. I'm not a minority on the West Coast. This is a whole other discussion, sadly. When I go to after school activities in the Seattle area, people are all allergy aware. When I go to parties even in our small towns, people increasingly only offer water and not pop. People are changing.

     

     

     

    Yes, we in the West are a minority in the US. But can we not base our national policies around people in states where they are resigned to failing anyway? Can we have national policies based on what works, not what doesn't work, run by people from healthy states, not states that are not healthy?

     

     

     

    Defending the right to have a failing culture and not be interfered with, is costing people their lives. If the South (and I mention the South because that is ground zero of the obesity epidemic) doesn't want other people up in their business then they better get it the heck together because the rest of us are sick of getting dragged down by having to pretend like somehow, West Virginia and Alabama have something to teach us about food policy and that we can't move forward because they can't implement it.

     

     

     

    https://stateofobesity.org/adult-obesity/

     

     

     

    And if anyone suggests it's African Americans, it's not, the whiter states are actually fatter, West Virginia, looking at you, not to mention Arkansas, and look at DC, blackest area on here, also skinniest up there with Massachusetts and Colorado:

     

     

     

    https://stateofobesity.org/adult-obesity/

     

     

     

    This is not a race thing, it's a governance thing. Who is running schools? Who is running zoning? Who is planning cities? Who is planning anything, who is funding public health informational campaigns?

     

     

     

    For good measure, a couple of corruption indices:

     

     

     

    https://fivethirtyeight.com/features/ranking-the-states-from-most-to-least-corrupt/

     

     

     

    The map below summarizes a different source's rankings:

     

     

     

     

     

    Now you might be wondering whether I'm just trying to rank on these poor people. Obviously, nobody wants to live in a state that has poor health and which is corrupt, and I get that.

     

     

     

    My argument is that you seem to think that a lot of this stuff can't be done, that this is how we work. But some places are doing it right. Some places are succeeding. We need to look to them, not to places where people are getting it wrong again and again. Those folks need to realize that maybe there is something to be learned from best practices. My state needs to learn from CA and Massachusetts. We need to improve, not say "well we failed so you should stop trying, it will never work".

     

     

     

    In the United States we do have places with amazingly talented people, with hard workers in government, and with successful public policies that people support. And we might be a minority in your area, but we are not a minority here, so can we discuss the possible without throwing out the equivalent of "well that won't work down here" type things? We'd still have segregation if we listened to that old refrain.

     

     

     

    insert infographic showing 30% decrease in childhood obesity over 10 years WOOT WOOT but it's not allowed here because of the URL, sorry

     

     

     

    YES WE CAN. :hurray:

     

    We can change. My state is getting worse but we're not going to get better by listening to people who are already worse off than we are to start with.

    I'm glad your state is doing so very well. Obesity in the US is correlated with poverty. Maybe your state can donate some to W Virginia.

     

    "Socioeconomics and Obesity

     

    Individuals with lower income and/or education levels are disproportionately more likely to be obese:

     

    Nearly 33 percent of adults who did not graduate high school were obese, compared with 21.5 percent of those who graduated from college or technical college.

    More than 33 percent of adults who earn less than $15,000 per year are obese, compared with 24.6 percent of those who earned at least $50,000 per year.1

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    Socioeconomics and Obesity among Children

     

    An analysis of the 2007 National Survey of Children's Health found that:2,3,4

     

    Children of parents with less than 12 years of education had an obesity rate 3.1 times higher (30.4 percent) than those whose parents have a college degree (9.5 percent).

     

    Children living below the federal household poverty level have an obesity rate 2.7 times higher (27.4 percent) than children living in households exceeding 400 percent of the federal poverty level.

     

    Children living in low-income neighborhoods are 20 percent to 60 percent more likely to be obese or overweight than children living in high socioeconomic status neighborhoods and healthier built environments.

     

    Girls (ages 10 to 17) living in neighbor- hoods having lower socioeconomic characteristics are more likely to be obese (19.2 percent) and overweight (35.7 percent) than are girls living in neighborhoods having higher socioeconomic characteristics."

    https://stateofobesity.org/socioeconomics-obesity/

  10. ITA- that is why I said death by diet, the whole point of talking about diet is to talk about health.

     

    And although exercise is not highly correlated with weight loss it is beneficial for a myriad of other reasons for people of all ages. But it is good to point out that you need to watch your exercise if you are trying to lose weight.

     

    I was just reading this article about McDonald's making their Happy Meal healthier and found this quote really fit with our discussion-

    That blows my mind. I guess it shouldn't but it does. We only eat out every couple of months or so and I never buy kids meals. I had no clue they had that many calories but I guess with the soda and fries in a typical kid's meal that is not a surprise.

    I just read recently that McDonalds has dropped the cheeseburger as an option in its Happy Meals, in order to keep the meals under 600 calories as well as cutting the sodium.
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  11. Sorry, I forgot about the rest of your post! I agree, given the options available, a heart attack is not a bad way to go. But I'd much rather have that heart attack at 92 than at 62. So I eat the way I do first and foremost to try to improve my quality of life, but also to try to change when I die.

    Also a heart attack is not necessarily lethal. Many people live many years afterwards, those with major heart damage often die slowly of congestive heart failure, which is not a fun way to go.
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  12. Really? So why aren't you telling that to the person who said that walking in ANY major city is like asking to get stabbed?

     

    I don't like it when people say incorrect things. Especially when those things are inflammatory and, frankly, kinda insulting. It seems to me that "this person is wrong" is a good enough reason to argue. Always.

    I guess I missed that post.
  13. I don't know. I guess I just mentioned it because it is the truth. I've never heard the Scandinavian diet noted as being a diet to strive for. You can get it at Ikea for dirt cheap. It's not particularly exotic or pretty. The Scandinavian people are pretty cool, though. ;)

    Also, it's recommended to have a colorful plate of various foods for health.
  14. as I said - that is what I've been told by multiple medical personal. (usually as I was being dismissed.) take it up with them.

     

     

    besides - despite popular - body temps are not the same. (especially with thyroid or adrenal problems.)

    Sorry, didn't mean to offend. It's what I was taught in nursing school and what our MDs go by.
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