Sandwalker
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I disagree. Nothing in the Constitution mandates that I send my children to a b&m school. It does, however, give me the right to privacy from nosy governmental agencies.There will always be people who try to skirt the law, but that doesn't mean that we stop making laws to protect the innocent. It doesn't mean we throw our hands up in the air and say, "Well, let's stop trying".
Homeschooling is a privilege. We don't have a constitutional right to homeschool. At one time homeschooling was against the law. Now it is legal in every state, but it could easily swing back the other direction if abusive families continue to use homeschooling as a cover for abuse.
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Annual home inspection?!? What country am I living in?Kids do in fact have rights in this country. They have a right to be educated. They have a right to be free from abuse and neglect. I'll put kids rights to be free from abuse and neglect above a parents' rights to freedom every time.
It has *nothing* to do with *proving* you are innocent. The presumption should be that you are educating your children, aren't abusing them, etc. If something is found in an inspection, that presumption would remain.
Hoops:
1) Keep logs of what you did to educate your child. Include books and other resources. Present those records annually to someone. If you can't get it together to annually, then you shouldn't be educating your children at home.
2) Kid meets with a mandatory reporter at least annually. Be that a social worker, doctor, whomever.
3) Annual home inspection. Again, if you can't get your house cleaned up once a year for someone to have a look around, you shouldn't be educating your kids at home.
ETA: You can't adopt a kid without meeting similar standards. You can't run a daycare without meeting similar standards.
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This. We have rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. The government works for us, and they have no right to dictate how I educate my offspring. (Mine are grown now, but Get Off of My Lawn, Government.) When you, the "authorities", learn how to properly educate children (and adults in university), you can give me some suggestions. Till then, buzz off with your failing methods.No.
I will not subject myself to having to "prove" my innocence to anyone, especially given that it is unwarranted. The basis of this country lies in the fact that we *ARE* assumed to be innocent, and the burden of proof lies on the government to prove we are guilty.
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Ah. Nonetheless... I always feel the need to educate people on the fact that Seattle is not a big huge city. They'll be disappointed enough when they realize they are also in the northernmost city in the continental US so it's not just cloudy, it's also dark.
Alaska is considered continental, just not contiguous...(I'm a nitpicker Lol)
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I think there was a big fear of HIV for a few decades there, and with the new medications, people aren't afraid of dying from a hook up.Yes.
The porn thing is at least partly tech related, so there's that.
But the hook up culture - that's a difficult one to pick apart, I think. At least some of it is intended to be an assertion of women's sexual agency against oppressive paternalism, and a rejection of what were considered prudish views of sexuality. So that is coming out of the 70's and you have that libertarian sexual culture of that period, which had some pretty destructive elements.
I think that a lot of the millennials are a full generation removed from the older supposedly prudish view though - they've really grown up with a very libertarian view of sexuality and to some extent an example of that in their parents and extended family, and certainly on television it's completely the norm, even on sit-coms and such. (Though there it's cleaned up and romanticized.) I get the sense from some of the ones I talk to that they don't really see any kind of middle way, where there is another view of sexual expression that isn't based on some set of values they think is stupid, and a sense where it's just a kind of valueless biological function to play with.
It would be interesting to consider why this has become such a thing now though - I mean, it's been around since the 70's, but I think it was somewhat on he wane, and now it's picked up again. Is it things like Tinder, or ?? - I don't know.
I agree wholeheartedly with the porn as an influence. For example, I was a teenager in the 70s, and no one I knew had ever given oral sex to a man, and not in the '80s, either. I was not sheltered. And no women felt they had to shave off all their hair except that which was on their head. And no one was ashamed of how her vulva looked.
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This. And a lot of slut-shaming, too.This isn't sexual assault. It shouldn't fall under #metoo. It is an extremely important conversation to have nontheless.
I'm actually appalled by the idea that seems to be coming out of the conversation that if a woman doesn't know how to handle herself by immediately saying "no" and walking out, she should not be allowed to be unsupervised.
It's as if internalized misogyny isn't a real thing. We are all just raised in families and in cultures where women are empowered just the same as men. Nothing to see here. Move along.
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Oh how awfulThat level of crazy makes me fear the worst. I wonder if the youngest child/ren will be DNA tested to see if the older daughters are the mother(s.) I heard about a case where the father turned out to be both the father and grandfather.
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I am laughing so hard right now!
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Yes, I agree, of course we teach our daughters to protect themselves. Mine studied martial arts. In this situation, his actions were predatory; hers were weak. I'm sad because I watch his show and now can't look at him the same way.Oh I know — I was just adding that in addition to teaching our sons to make sure they get a yes, we need to teach daughters how to say no to all the guys who won't bother asking.
The surprising thing to me about the Ansari story wasn't that a celebrity acted like an entitled jerk, it was that an otherwise intelligent, capable, adult woman somehow couldn't figure out how to say "no."
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I certainly didn't mean not to empower our daughters.Teaching men that "no means no" doesn't do much good, though, if women aren't actually saying "no." Women need to be empowered to clearly and explicitly say "no, I don't want to do this, I want to leave." Don't worry that it's not polite, or he'll think you're a bitch, or he spent X amount on dinner so you owe him something. Don't expect a distracted horny guy to read your mind or pick up on subtle "nonverbal cues" — especially if those cues are being sent while engaging in the sex you allegedly don't want. If you explicitly say "you need to stop" and the guy doesn't stop, then that is assault. Prosecute his ass to the fullest extent of the law. But don't give a guy blow job while hoping he eventually notices that you are not super enthusiastic about it, and then complain that he forced himself on you.
We can teach our sons to be Prince Charming, but that doesn't help our daughters in a world full of men who are not. Better to raise them as self-rescuing princesses rather than helpless damsels relying on the chivalry of men to keep them safe.
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I think that Aziz was completely inappropriate (and gross) in his actions, but not a rapist. I also think that star-struck young women should not go to an entitled-feeling near-stranger's house at night.
I have heard a lot of people (other places) talking about teaching our daughters how to and not to behave in these situations. I have not heard too much about teaching our sons not to pressure vulnerable young women into sex acts. I have heard 'Make Sure You Get Verbal Consent', I've heard 'There's an app that you can use to record consent', but I haven't heard 'Treat women with respect. Back off when she seems uncomfortable. Don't be grabby. You can tell when she wants to slow down or stop, don't ignore it and see what you can get away with.'
It reminds me of all the things we tell women so we protect ourselves: Don't go to his house alone, don't walk alone in a bad neighborhood, don't drink too much, watch your drink so no one slips you a mickey, don't dress so provocatively...How about we tell men: Don't rape. No means no.
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I'd have some brown rice in thereThat to me is a Mexican layered salad. It looks very low-carb. Too low-carb for my taste.
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I should have said it's not used to actually lower blood sugar like metformin, etc do. It helps with weight loss, which in turn helps with the blood sugars.Yes, it does. Brands are Victoza and saxenda. For diabetes is listed separately from weight loss, except on one site.
Eta: I see y'all already found it!
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"Saxenda® is a glucagon-like peptide receptor agonist indicated as an adjunct to a reduced-calorie diet and increased physical activity for chronic weight management in adult patients with an initial bmi of 30+ or 27+ with comorbid conditions (e.g. hypertension, type 2 diabetes, or dyslipidemia."
From their prescribing info. So can be used with Type 2 diabetics.
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The medication description says it's not for Type 2 diabetes treatment.It's a diabetes med.
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I'm a nurse and just looked it up. I would pass personally because of the unknowns (new medication) and the really scary side effect list. Of course I am not a huge fan of medications in general...For those who struggle with weight I wanted to share that my MIL lost 30 pounds with Saxenda, a hormonal supplement she injected at home. She lost 30 pounds and it stopped, but it's been 6 months and she hasn't gained it back. She keeps trying to get me to use them but the idea makes me uncomfortable. Her insurance paid for it and I believe she put out $30 a month for the medication. I don't know anything about the medication.
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I also gargle with half peroxide, half saline at the first sign of a cold. Bubbles up and is disgusting but kills lots of germs. Don't swallow it though!(((Critter)))
Did you try the peroxide trick yet?
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Many renter's insurance policies have the option to include liability.Definitely dumb to be polite. I'd hope something like that would fall back on his own liability insurance he has to keep on the place. Renters insurance only covers their belongings if I recall correctly. I know in our state, we have to keep the liability insurance if someone gets hurt there.
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The vet told me that our 10 pound Dachshund could eat 4 oz of milk chocolate without worry (she had eaten a fun-sized snickers, wrapper and all).
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Apples and bananas are only about 100 calories apiece. The foods with fiber are always favored by ww, from my understanding.But the lists does allow all fruit, right? Everybody in my family could gobble fruit all.day.long. I mean, apples and bananas have plenty of calories, so what is the science behind this? I'm glad it works for people, just trying to wrap my mind around why it works.
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Unless it's spoiled, I don't throw it out, I can't stand the thought of the waste. Dh eats most things, and dd 29 will happily take most any food castoff to save $.
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I'm not even sure what's in salami :D
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Clearwater is a gulf beach too! :)I live very close to Panama City. The beaches here are just beautiful. My suggestion would be to vacation somewhere off 30A (we particularly love Rosemary Beach). 30A is sort of in-between Panama City & Destin. There’s tons to do there & it’s beautiful. When we go to PC, we always stay at The Calypso - I would highly recommend this resort if you’re open to Panama City (it’s on the beach and across from Pier Park and close to everything).
Clearwater is a great place to vacation, but the beaches really don’t compare imo. The sand here is white & often the water is crystal clear. If you come to the gulf, I highly recommend St. Andrews state park and go to the jetties there. It’s across from Shell Island, which is also fabulous (but you would need to take a shuttle boat over). Wonder Works is a lot of fun too, it’s a museum. You can’t go wrong with any destination on the gulf or in Clearwater - they’re just very different beaches— but both fun places to visit.
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Yes, the last 15 years are the main thing, be brief about the older stuff. Some articles say to leave off the old stuff to evade age discrimination, but the education part often gives that away anyway.
(I'm older and resume making, too.)
This year's flu is scary but confusing. What advice are you hearing?
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