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Loud, crazy party. Alternatively used for anything that causes an excessive fuss, like, "trying to fix the furnace turned into a whole hootenanny." (Rural Oklahoma.)
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I was very disappointed with mine. My family is grace baptist. They think alcohol and dancing are sins. His family is Czech-German-Catholic and all of their weddings are giant drunken dance parties. Like, six kegs and 10 cases of wine for 250 people.
I told my husband that we would not have that kind of party. Even if I wanted to, we couldn't pay for it. I tried to compromise with wine at dinner and some modest dancing. He said that if there were no drunken dance party, he would not invite his family. So we didn't. Since we didn't invite his family, I thought it would be in bad taste to invite all of my family and friends, so in the end we had 25 guests. Now I don't get invited to anyone else's wedding because they weren't invited to mine.
My sister did my makeup and I hated it. A friend took the pictures and I hated them. Yeah, it's just a day, but I get so jealous and remorseful seeing or attending nice weddings.
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Painting melamine is extremely difficult, even with sanding.
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Evening!
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I would not be direct. It's such a sensitive age and it could shake his confidence for a long time. I would just try to direct his attention away as much as possible and offer zero encouragement. "Hey! What did you think of the movie?" "My friends and I were all laughing! Girls, wasn't such and such funny?" Direct to groups and external things and try to distract him or get him talking to someone else. But "I don't like you, leave me alone" is very harsh for a harmless 13yo boy with a crush.
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Only if he were elderly. Or maybe if he had fancy clothes on.
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Ok. I found some similar vehicles on Craigslist for $300, so I'll ask $500 and accept $300. Thanks everyone!
He's not a friend, he's a technician who saw it while working on our furnace. It was free to us, so I'll probably just send the money to MIL who gave it to us.
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Yeah, it drives ok. Like it is pretty safe to drive medium distances but it vibrates on one side.
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Well, it seems like it meets the "fair" criteria. Maybe I should cut the price if it's below that. It does run decently. I don't know whether the rust is reparable. I don't know whether it needs major or minor repairs. It's never been in a wreck.
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We have a Chevy Blazer that's 20-25 years old. It runs. It has some issues with the balance. It's rusted and needs tires. It hasn't been driven regularly for a year, but at that time it got my husband to and from work daily without issue. It has about 300,000 miles on it. Someone wants to buy it and wants us to suggest a price. What's reasonable? The Kelly Blue Book says $1200 but that seems way too high.
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The issue isn't getting our money back, or selling for more money. It's being able to sell at all, really. I mean, I suppose some sucker might be dumb like us and take it as is, but I doubt it.
Right. You have to do it, but you also have to plan to pay back the money, unless it's ok to just lose the investment money.
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Do not go into this expecting to get your money back when you sell. You won't. You need a timeline of paying these things back.
I would not hesitate to use the investment money, assuming it's not for retirement. What's the point of having it if you won't use it when you need money? But a HELOC could be another good option, depending on your equity. Still, you might end up tapping into those investments to buy the next house, since you will pay that back with the proceeds.
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I'm starting small. And it's early in our growing season. The annual flowers I planted are looking beautiful! (Can't take a pic because people are working in the yard.) The cherry tree has abundant cherries, but the apple tree only produced a few on one side and the boys picked them before they were ready. I have some little tomato and cucumber babies still starting inside. The cucumber is growing well. The tomato was good until a grasshopper found it and ate the leaves off. In my house!!! I plan to plant some herbs but haven't gotten around to it.
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I live in what I would call a small suburb. And yes, there's an area with a doctor's office, grocery store, library and one restaurant and I can walk to it.
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What jobs can you do and earn $5000 in a summer? You'd have to make above minimum wage and be guaranteed 40+ hours a week to earn that much. Most jobs for teens earn minimum wage and are not full time. And around here, you have to be available 24/7 for a crappy minimum wage job with no assurance of hours. Schedules go out on Friday for the following week and no accommodating other commitments such as taking a class, dentist appointments, scholarship interviews, any extracurricular activities. You get scheduled, if you can't find a sub ... "Too bad. Show up or get fired." All for maybe $100 a week, if you are lucky. And, that is if you are over 18.
Dd is not lazy by any stretch of the imagination. She just earns money by babysitting because she has more control over her schedule and can have a life. She is an in-demand baby sitter. The things she is doing outside of babysitting will earn her much more in scholarship $$ than what she could earn at a "real job."
I'm still unclear on how the statistics are determined. Where are they getting their pool of teens for their sample?
Sorry, our local minimum is $10/hour, so 40 hours for 12 weeks is $5000. I worked 35 hours for 12 weeks in high school at $6 per hour and made $2500 and another $2500 working ten hours a week during school.
Babysitting is employment, as far as I'm concerned.
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Some of them did for sure, but employers were definitely less diligent back then, ime.
How is this data obtained and defined? If it's something like "actively looking and have applied to at least 5 places in the last whatever" then it's probably not that accurate. Lots of teens don't apply because they know the places they can get to are 18+. I'm sure there are quite a few who aren't looking because they don't actually want a job, or their parents don't want them to have a job, but I'm not convinced it's 50%.
And the word "teens" limited to those who are actually old enough to work? As in get a work permit? Because 13/14 is going to skew that if not.
The data is on teens 16-19. It's unemployment statistics, so if teens don't apply out of discouragement, the numbers of unemployment may be somewhat higher. My speculation would be an additional 10% or so wish they could work but don't bother trying; on the other hand, we don't really mean 19 year olds when we talk about teen jobs, so the number of high school students wanting to work may actually be lower than 50%. I don't think submitting applications is a requirement for being counted for unemployment, but you have to at least browse postings. I think.
What has led to many employers not to need teens anymore? What has changed, so that there were plenty of jobs 10-20 years ago and not enough now? I guess the recession? The implication is that more adults are willing to do minimum-wage work, so teens are not needed. Are there just fewer jobs available now that are above that level? Even though the economy has mostly recovered? Maybe all the good jobs exported to other countries during the recession, or just became unprofitable and ended. I know construction has never recovered to pre-recession levels. (I like to try to understand economics, I'm not arguing any particular point.)
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Is he looking for a new job?
No. Nothing could make him do that. He wants to stay here until retirement. Conflicts between his job and mine are the primary conflict of our marriage. And I've lost every time.
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I'm so sorry. :grouphug: If your husband is ASD then you need to tell him very bluntly that you did XYZ for him because that is what teams and caring couples do and you need XYZ for yourself. He won't know otherwise and he will never figure it out for himself and it needs to be blunt, like an assignment. I know that may feel like it takes something out of receiving something but I also have to explain to others what I need. My husband wants to please me but he failed the first few years because I didn't specifically tell him. He isn't ASD but it is likely I might be or at least have tendencies for it. Therefore, he was doing everything a stereotypical woman would ask for and I thought it all a waste of time and money and got annoyed at him. I was raised to just say thank you for a gift while being annoyed. But that seems ridiculous in hindsight. Well, depending on the situation. A one time gift from someone not close to you is different than year after year living with the same clueless spouse.
I have given him assignments many times. "Plan two dates in the next six months." "Get me a present for my birthday and make a cake." "Ask around at work for where chemical engineers work around here." "Play with the kids for 30 minutes after dinner."
Nothing that is is uncomfortable doing is going to happen, which is almost everything.
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Yeah. I can relate to some of this. Especially the birthdays! Mother's Day came and went with nothing. No gift. No special breakfast. Didn't even make the kids tell me happy day. I've come to expect nothing for holidays.
I can also relate to the rigidity and excessive need for security. It makes it hard for me to make any improvement in life. And he's destroyed my engineering career already because he selfishly made us move to a place with no prospects, despite my protests, because it's a very safe, low-pressure job for him.
I wouldn't say that he's self-absorbed, but he doesn't take any initiative on family activities.
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Only 15% of teens looking for work can't find work. So 43% of teens are working, 7% are looking unsuccessfully, and 50% are not seeking employment. I'd guess that it's mostly the increasing demands of school and college application readiness. If you waste your chance to go to a good college so that you can make $5000 over the summer, that's financially stupid. But I'm pretty sure that immaturity, laziness and entitlement also play a part. Not all teens are busy and productive most of their days!
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No. It's only recommended for immediate relatives. And I don't think you could get a positive test without any symptoms at all.
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I seem to need about 8 hours. I typically sleep from 11pm-7am. Sometimes even more than that. I have 3 kids under 4 and they all wake up before 7 very rarely, and my DH goes in to work around 9 and works until 5:30.
I'm working on modifying my schedule to get up at 6 and go to bed at 10:30. It's a little less sleep, but I sleep in more one or two days.
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Yes, I've had stool samples. The abnormalities are low pH and high sugar content, hence the sugar malabsorption.
I tried a very basic eliminate-everything diet for a month last year. No help whatsoever. I can't remember exactly what I had him on, but it was a hypoallergenic diet involving a lot of chicken and rice.
I have told each professional about the behavior plus loose stool issue.
He eats one piece of fruit daily and has orange juice in the morning. Again, we tried absolutely no fruit for 3 weeks with no improvement. If he has more than that, he goes from chronic loose stool to nasty diarrhea.
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If it helps, I know that he has sugar malabsorption. I've been to a pediatric gastroenterologist who told me to limit dairy (he's also allergic to dairy protein) and fructose, and we wouldn't do anything more unless he continued to drop in growth curves. His BMI had already dropped from 20% to 3%, so I'm not sure why she wasn't more concerned! He seems to have put on a little weight now, but he has never had a formed stool in his life. I've eliminated everything I can possible think of for over a month. My 2yo has all the same problems plus eczema. He did allergy testing, blood and skin, and there was a very slight reaction to egg and wheat but elimination did nothing for him either. I wish I could figure out the diarrhea issue, I imagine it would help at least somewhat with his behavior. They also did a blood test for celiac which was negative.
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What is the "purpose" of VBS? Obviously CC here...
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I think the goal is to help kids associate aspects of the Church with fun, and to give them a sense of being Christian and proud of it from a young age. Definitely not to "be saved."
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