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    LDS social group...how was your Sunday?

    in The Chat Board

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    I'd sit down with both DH and DS and ask DS if he wants the priesthood? If he does and can truly express why, can DH accept that and let him get sustained? Then let DS have some time to pray and respond. Days, weeks, months, whatever. But he has to be firm in his reasons and everyone else is doing it isn't a good one. It would help DS with his testimony and maybe your DH as well.
    This might be a good exercise for ds even if dad isn't ready to hear it yet...Help ds prepare for when dad is ready.
    Thanks ladies. This has been one of the hardest things I've had to deal with. I thought sitting in the pews with four wiggly little kids was bad until my oldest got close to 12. My dh is not willing to think about him being ordained right now. It's actually the only thing we argue about. If I have Harry (12yo) bring it up to him, my dh just says he's been brainwashed. I'm hoping and praying that his heart will be softened over time. By August would be good--that's when our 7yo dd turns 8. The boys were baptized, but dh has gotten more strident in his objections and doesn't want the girls baptized. Honestly, it really does seem a lot easier for everyone if we just stopped going. I cry through most of my meetings and all tension in the house is around church things. I've been going alone for almost 10 years now and I'm just tired.
    My sister is in the same situation. She finally gave up and quit going and her boys (now all adults) want nothing to do with church. I know it's hard, I really do, but I wonder how things would be different if my sis had continued to go even when it was excruciatingly painful and hard. Such a tough situation, there are no easy answers. :grouphug: I'l include your dh and family in my prayers.

    Playdough (the poll)

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    It will keep my kids happily busy and building for hours (like Legos!). But, we only use homemade (the one with oil & cream of tartar).

    I hate the smell and the food coloring mess so I often use unsweetened Kool-Aid packages (you know, the little envelopes you have to add sugar to) instead of food coloring.

    The bonus is, it smells like whatever flavor Kool-Aid you used. The bad is I've had younger kids try and eat it because it smells good. But, it's just salt, flour, water, oil, and cream of tartar so (unless you have an allergy issue) it won't hurt to eat it, it just tastes terrible.:tongue_smilie:

    How can I pray for you today?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    I'll share a praise report - my dd's MRI has officially come back as a benign tumor on her femur bone. We are praising God that it is benign. :hurray:

    Yay!!! THat is praiseworthy news, I'm happy for you!:D

     

    Thank you for the prayers, I could use them!! I'm running my first marathon on Saturday and I've been training since March. On my last long run (Oct 20th) I hurt my left knee. I haven't had a pain-free run since then and I've been so worried ever since then that it's going to start hurting during the race and I won't be able to finish.

     

    After running over 612 miles and 122 hours and 8 months of training, I might actually break down in tears if I can't finish the race.:( I would love any and all prayers on my behalf.

     

    I believe in the power of prayer! Thank you.

    Dd9 charged for bathroom visits

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    :iagree:

     

    Is this the first you've heard of it? That is what strikes me as bizarre. No "Ms XYZ, little Janie is in the bathroom 12 times a day and it's disruptive. I'd hate to keep her in if she has a medical issue, but, otherwise, we can't keep having her leave. Could you talk with her about it?" C'mon!

     

    I would first talk to my child and find out how often SHE says she is going and how often SHE says she is allowed to go. Then I'd talk to the teacher. I'd see how information lined up. Sometimes kids miss hearing their row or table called, or they think they can't go yet because they aren't done copying spelling words or whatever. If (and only if) she is being given plenty of chances to potty during the day, but still seems to need more, we would go to the dr for a check up. If it turned out she was expected to hold it all day except for lunch or PE, we'd be having a serious convo at the school. Of course, a third option is that she would rather spend time in the bathroom than in the classroom. That would mean a serious convo at home. I'd still rule out a medical issue or too few allowances for bathroom visits first.

    :iagree:

     

    I'd be okay with something like: "Mrs. Jones, Billy uses the bathroom 10 times a day. Are there any medical issues of which the school should be aware? Also, I just wanted to let you know that when he misses instruction, I will keep him in from recess to be sure he understands the lesson."

     

    There's better ways to address this than an threatening note. How about a questioning or friendly "Please help me figure this out to help your child" note.

    What would you do? Poll

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    It is your business because it effects everyone's bottom line $$ and your stress level at work.

    I'd be careful how I approached the atty, though. You don't want to sound like you're complaining or being a snitch (even though you are;)). Maybe someone here more tactful than I can help with how to approach it. (I'm the one friends call when they need someone to yell at their cc company.:tongue_smilie:)

     

    Good luck!

    losing a friend

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    The Facebook fall out (at least on my friendslist) has confirmed that people are *selectively* listening and interacting with campaign material. No one that I have encountered or read is actually evaluating content except to "prooftext" material to support their established view.

     

    I can predict people's response to debates, ads, etc. based solely and exclusively on their political orientation.

     

    The process is divisive, and I don't see any good, positive, sustaining or transformative effects from it.

    :iagree::iagree:

    I would put a note on my calendar to contact her some time after the election, and not worry about it until then.

     

    I think you guys have a lot in common. You both understand what it is to be Christian and what it is to not be Christian. You both understand what it's like to go through an internal change from one to the other. And you're lifelong friends (so far). You could have a good conversation about these things, but now doesn't seem to be the right time. ;)

     

    I agree that election time brings out the crazy in people. One of the beautiful things about humans is that we CAN agree to disagree. And we can choose to ignore people we disagree with, or ignore the disagreements and still like them. But somehow it's harder to do that at election time.

     

    I know where you're coming from - I'm generally conservative, and I find a lot of those political ads and unofficial emails to be cringeworthy at best. But, this too will pass. :)

    :iagree: Seems like sage advice. I have days I don't want to leave the house or answer the phone (stupid pollsters) until the election is over.:tongue_smilie:

    I am crazy, ignorant, insensitive, etc.

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

     

    You *aren't* supposed to talk to people like that. It won't do you any good. It won't do them any good. It's just a recipe for heartbreak.

     

    :iagree:

    I'm sorry. :grouphug: Even when you know the person wasn't really a friend worth having in the first place, it still hurts.

    :iagree::grouphug:

    You should probably comment on that forum thread so she knows she's busted.

     

    Tara

    :iagree: Maybe that will stop further comments from her. Or maybe not, but if you're polite about it then she's still in the wrong and you can move on.

    LDS Moms - Visiting Teaching

    in General Education Discussion Board

    Posted

    That is an unrealistic expectation.

     

    Homeschooling is my job during the day and even though I am not busy with it every single second, it is not something I can just drop. I make it clear that I am unavailable to visit or be visited at certain hours. Usually there is a way to make that known when I move into a ward, but if I am given an assignment that doesn't work for me, then I ask to have things changed. There has never been a problem with that, although if there were, I wouldn't back down on being unavailable. I wouldn't expect a person with a traditional job to take time off work to go visiting teaching.

     

    I also think it's a good idea to be creative with VT. There's no reason why it has to be a formal visit every month. Even if your RS president says it should be.

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    That would so very not work in my ward either. Usually when we have VT interviews they ask us what times of day we're generally available and try to match up people with compatible work schedules. I try to treat homeschooling somewhat like any other "job" when it comes to scheduling outside appointments. I'm just not available during working hours. Sorry. Does that make it harder? Sure, but no harder than any of the other working women in the ward. Sometimes dh will get supper going for me while I go in the evening, or will help dd with her homework so I can go after supper. Sometimes my companion just goes without me if we can't find a mutually compatible time for everyone, or we'll just make do with a phone call, though we do try not to do that too often.

     

    But yeah...expecting all VT to be done during weekday mornings is just an unreasonable expectation. Have you talked to your RS pres about it?

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    My vters come in the evening because they both work full-time. I schedule my visits after we finish the majority of our schooling, I try to schedule it for one of our "light" academic days.

    I think my son proposed

    in General Education Discussion Board

    Posted

    Well, they'll have a good 15-20 years to mature before parenthood, then! See?! It is good news! :D

     

     

    :grouphug: Dawn, FWIW I don't have a mother-in-law anymore, but I'd love to have one like you. It's so obvious you care. Every couple needs that.

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    I hope everything works out for them, Dawn!

     

    And realistically, the girlfriend put up with your ds's $10/hour job, but the fiancee won't be nearly as happy about it... and the wife is going to kick him off the couch and back to school so he can start making some decent money! :D

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    It will be ok. You ARE a smart, classy lady. You will handle this like a champ. Just remember to give grace and both your ds and future dil will respect you forever. Grace. That's the key.

    :iagree:

     

    It will all work out eventually, until then we smile and pray.;)

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