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  1. Sorry I'm so late to this conversation ... we've been having similar conversations with our daughter and everyone's comments have been very helpful!

     

    In our situation, my daughter and her boyfriend plan to get married eventually but it might make more financial sense to move that up a bit.  She'll graduate two years before he will with no debt and he will have about 5 years of student loan debt by the time he graduates. To me, it seems like it would make their life easier if she could work at the college they attend after graduation and hopefully qualify for free tuition since he will be her dependent at that point.  Even at an entry-level salary, she should be able to cover their basic living expenses with a little help from the collective parents.

     

    I floated that out to her as something to consider - not encouraging or discouraging, but something they need to discuss as they figure out how to best blend their lives.  I've heard of some couples having small commitment ceremonies (either with the legal paperwork or without) and having the big official wedding at a later date.  Kind of a half-step between unmarried and married. Marriage community college. :001_smile:  

     

    Not sure what they will ultimately decide to do, but I really hope it isn't just moving in as roommates. Not so much from a religious standpoint, but because I think it helps establish the support system when both families formally give their blessings, and there's a set expectation.  It's not just bringing two people together - it's bringing two families together.

     

     

     

  2. It sounds like your son is having an experience similar to my daughter's (also a non-drinker and pretty mature for her age).

     

    The first week was horrendous (her roommate was meeting guys on Tindr and wanted to bring them back to the dorm), but it forced her to branch out and meet other people.  Just got a text from her today that she's planning to switch rooms next semester with a girl she's gotten to know better.  (Yay!)

     

    Definitely talk to the RA - some students aren't meant to live in Freshman housing and they know that.  But also encourage him to find like-minded people on campus and start building a community that way.  There really needs to be an eHarmony for roommates!

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  3. Just wanted to give a huge recommendation for Gallaudet University's summer ASL program.  My daughter attended back in July and it was life-changing.

     

    http://www.gallaudet.edu/summer-programs.html

     

    Gallaudet is a deaf/HOH university and the whole culture revolves around that - almost like doing a study-abroad experience but never leaving the country!  Classes run from 9 - 2:30 every day and each 2-week session is worth 3 college credits.  It's an immersive program and students can only take 2 sessions each summer.  (It's intense!)

     

    One perk is that it's in the heart of Washington DC and families can stay in the guest housing - only $50 a night for a 2-bed dorm room.

     

    Very cool experience for all of us!

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  4. If you dig through their information packet, they allow high school students to attend with permission from their high school:  "Senior high school students may be eligible to take PST prefixed courses with written recommendation of their high school academic advisor and permission of the instructor."

     

    They seemed especially open to homeschoolers.

     

    There's also a summer camp program:  http://www.gallaudet.edu/outreach-programs/youth-programs/summer-youth-programs/immerse-into-asl.html

     

     

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  5. DD needs one more ASL class to fulfill her foreign language requirement,  and the only local college that offers them decided not to run any this summer.  Agh!!  We found a really cool alternative that might be of interest:

     

    http://www.gallaudet.edu/ccs/summer-asl-courses.html

     

    Gallaudet originally started as a college for those who are deaf or had of hearing, but its now open to everyone.  The whole campus is constructed around deaf culture, so its a bit like having a study abroad experience because summer students stay on campus and are expected to interact in sign language while they are there.  Summer classes run for 2 weeks, meet 5 hours a day, and count as a 3-credit college course.

     

    The really cool extra benefit is that parents are allowed to stay in visitor housing while their kid is enrolled.  Its an inexpensive way to stay in the heart of Washington DC:  http://www.gallaudet.edu/reslife/housing/visitor-housing.html $35 a night for the first person and $14 for the second.

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  6. We focused mainly on hands-on cultural, art and science activities.  Traditional schools do a pretty good job of covering the basics, but it takes so much more to be truly educated and well-rounded.  Things like volunteering, having real conversations with grown-ups, going to plays, cotillion, traveling, etc.  Kids need experiental learning as much as they need workbooks and memorization.

     

    We also worked on logic and critical thinking activities.

  7. Thanks for the two websites!  We use half.com, eBay, Amazon and Barnes & Noble.  Will have to add these two to my list!

     

    We've also had the experience where there is a new edition but the teacher is fine with students using an older edition.  Unfortunately, you won't know until the first day of class. One semester there was a $150 difference between the two.

     

    I'm a little bummed that the 4-year college dd will be transferring to next year has gone to a flat-fee system for textbooks.  $275 per semester, which is WAY more than we've ever spent with our wheeling and dealing.

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  8. Hmmmm ... if he's not going to school for an education, what is the draw there? I only ask because at my daughter's traditional school there were a lot of destructive things going on during the day on school grounds (and this was a highly rated high school). She wouldn't go to the bathroom because there were fist-fights, drug transactions, and kids having sex. It was really stressing her out.

     

    Where do you think your son's anger coming from?

     

    If I were in this situation, I'd help him figure out where else in BMX he can envision himself and find a tech program through the community college.  Design? Managing? Operations? Maintenance? Marketing?  

     

    Good luck! This is a tough age, but they seem to start getting a plan together by the time 11th grade rolls around.

  9. That's what I've been encouraging him to do, to basically throw himself on the mercy of the residence life folks and plead his case. He feels awkward doing that, especially on the phone. (He'd be much more comfortable and persuasive in person.) It seems to me that, like cable companies who would rather hold onto an existing customer than go through the advertising and hassle to secure a new one, the college might be willing to push him up the list if they understand he likely cannot return unless they find a place for him on campus.

     

    This is when a parent needs to get involved and push the subject.  Colleges are usually more responsive when a parent is actively involved. (Especially if part of the fault is theirs).

     

    They might know of some local short-term solutions too.

     

    You might want to call the Dean of Students about this one ...

  10. Breathe!  :001_smile:

     

    Students will drop classes during the first week or so, and you may be able to move to a different section.  Ask if you can be put on a waitlist (if they have them).

     

    DE has been great for us, but there's definitely and adjustment period.  Excited for your DD!

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