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    Book a Week in 2015 - BW7

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    Hi, all!    :seeya:

     

    • I've finished two chunksters last week - All The Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr and The Collected Autobiographies of Maya Angelou. Both were great. I find Maya Angelou a fascinating woman.

     

    •  Daily Rituals: How Artists Work was a very interesting read.

     

    • Searching For God Knows What by Donald Miller was good, but I wouldn't describe as funny (as the reviews promised). All I got was a couple of weak chuckles.  :o  I really like Miller's way of thought, but he is so.incredibly.slow - I kept falling asleep while reading.

    Reading now A Little Salty to Cut the Sweet by Sophie Hudson - I needed a break from serious books and I used to read her blog ages ago - Boomama.

     

     

    What to talk about with a long-time spouse/partner??

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    First, to everyone who has answered, thank you.  For real, though, for those who have said that we just need to make opportunities to talk, it's not that easy.  I spent 5 miles walking with him the other day, talking about trivia, but that didn't do anything for him.  He wants the intimacy of my sharing things that are important to me, telling him what makes this or that detail significant, what I value, what I dream about, etc.  Our roles are reversed: he's the wife who wants the touchy-feely stuff, I'm the non-communicative husband.  (I know I'm "bad stereotyping", but you get the point.)

     

    So "making space" is OK, but more than that, I do think having a list of things to pick from would help eliminate the "I don't have anything to talk about" panic.  

     

    Having fun would help for sure.  I'm hoping 2015 has less crises so we can have some fun.

     

    Hope, this is me as well. :grouphug:

     

    Just spending time together and talking about everyday stuff was not enough. A big thing that turned things around when we agreed to just listen to each other. Not to jump in with suggestions and trying to fix anything. Just. Listen.

     

    It really helped me to open up and not to feel guilty about not following his advice or giving a good report about a previous issue. Once he stopped trying to fix me, I could talk about things that matter to me.

    What to talk about with a long-time spouse/partner??

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    If you mean this literally, that would be ineffective for me and DH. I can't stand contrived "exercises" like this. Suppose you were going on a date with a new person. Would you feel closer if your date looked at his phone and announced, "My getting-to-know-someone App suggested I ask you where you would travel to if you received a free ticket anywhere you like."? I'm not against the idea of having a couple of prompts in the back of my mind, but it would still have to at least seem like spontaneous conversation.

     

    Dh and I have a ritual on having coffee while watching news and weather every morning. Some weekend mornings, it might be cooking or home shows. But this is a great opportunity to just be focusing on something that may encourage conversation, while also under no pressure to make conversation.

     

    High five to you, Quill! I congratulate you and your husband on your communication prowess. :001_rolleyes:

    How do you purposefully relieve stress? Your spouse? Your kids?

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    I've never heard of Zentangles but after a quick search, it looks very appealing. Did you learn with a kit?

     

     

    No. All you need is a piece of paper and a pen. Granted, if you have a nicer pen (I like Micron 005) it'll be easier to draw, but i think I started with a Fine Point Sharpie.

     

    Something about repetitive patterns and a complete lack of pressure to draw something recognizable really does it for me.

     

    THIS is a good website with a lot of patterns to try if you wish as well as the official site.

    For extra fun, try white or metallic markers on black card stock. I love Gelliroll pens for that.

     

    Have fun! :D

    How do you purposefully relieve stress? Your spouse? Your kids?

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    When I'm angry - vigorous cleaning. I see it as a bonus. ;)

    Training my mind to focus on positive. Yoga. Doing something that absorbs me completely and refreshes - for me it's art. Sketching, watercolor, stamp carving, making journals. Zentangles are great for low cost hobby. Walking.

     

    Deep breathing, redirecting the mind, warm bath or shower, brisk walk for the kids.

     

    Shakti mat.

     

    I've looked it up = :svengo:

    Does it really help? Does it hurt? Could you share your experience with that?

    That didn't go well

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    You can get a clinically trained professional that also happens to be a Christian. This is NOT the same thing as a "Nouthetic" or "Biblical" counselor. Make sure you get someone with a professional license.

     

    Yes, a thousand times, yes to this! While Christian counsel is important, please don't dismiss "secular" therapists.

     

    I'm sorry you're going through this. Please take care of yourself. :grouphug:

    My Dr. thinks that all my health problems stem from lack of/inadequate sleep

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    Thank you so much for your responses! :thumbup:

     

    Stress is definitely an issue. 2014 was a horrendous year stress-wise (marriage, health, relationships, you name it) and 2015 is shaping up in the same pattern. So, while I understand WHY I could be having problems with sleep, I need to find a way to deal with all of this without breaking down physically. My plate is piled high. :nopity:

    My Dr. thinks that all my health problems stem from lack of/inadequate sleep

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    melatonin didn't help me much either.   Look into Magnesium and see if that helps.   I take about 600mg. and I've noticed a huge improvement in my sleeping.  Sometimes if I know I'm going to have a bad night or something I also take a natural sleep aid I got from Whole Foods. It has Valerian and a few other things I can't remember.  Sorry.   But, it just a mild sleep aid.  What seems to have really helped me consistently is magnesium.

     

    I take 800mg Magnesium. Thanks for recommending the natural sleep aid, I'll look into that.

    My Dr. thinks that all my health problems stem from lack of/inadequate sleep

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    I sleep terribly and have all you issues as well. I got on an amazing sleep schedule while doing the Whole30. Its essentially a 30 day elimination diet and then after the 30 days you slowly reintroduce foods slowly to see if you have a sensitivity to any. After day 12, I slept phenomenally, had more energy, and felt better. It stayed that way until I had a dramatic experience happen that just made me give up on all my newly acquired eating habits. Now I'm just not mentally prepared to try again. I plan on it after I recover from my upcoming csection.

     

    So I tell you this because it may be worth a try

     

    I've been vegan for almost a year. While it helped a lot (clearer thinking, a bit higher energy level), it didn't do miracles.

    I do believe I have a sensitivity to dairy .

    My Dr. thinks that all my health problems stem from lack of/inadequate sleep

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    Adrenal Fatigue, extremely low energy levels, depression, inability to lose weight, weak immunity system etc.

     

    I'm a very light sleeper, wake up several times during the night, prone to insomnia. :/

     

    So, Dr. recommended to start with Melatonin. I've been taking 3mg for a few days - not a slightest difference. In fact, it's been harder to fall asleep. What in the world?!

     

    I don't want to rely on sleep meds.

     

    Help, Hive, please! :willy_nilly:

    In my day, we got a better quality of troll.

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    There was also someone, who shall remain nameless right now, who jumped into 3 different religions within a 2 year span.....all wholeheartedly.

     

    I actually had a friend IRL that did that. All wholeheartedly, with a scorn for the infidels and actually starting to talk with a slight Arab accent in her Muslim stage. :lol:

    #homeschoolnotforwussies #1stworldproblems (for fun)

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    Just said- (in reference to the bathroom) This is not an office, it is a drop zone.

     

    My oldest used to say, "Brother/sister/parent, get off the pot, it's not a luxury lounge." We have only on bathroom.

     

     

    Some of my new keyboard's keys don't work properly. You have to press hard. I'm annoyed that I have to constantly edit what I wrote, because of missing e's, t's and r's.

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