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  1. Fountain pens confuse me too, I wish they had some kind of standardized system for refills. The only ones I ever used were calligraphy and the cartridges had to be used completely before changing colors which frustrated 12 year old me to no end. Dip pens on the other hand are awesome.

     

    I can't imagine using an expensive pen system like that in school. Half of my teachers in ps wouldn't even accept things in pen (math and science classes.) It reminded me of cursive: "You'll use this every day in high school!" Not.

  2. As a person who was friends with primarily adults as a child, I'd say let it go. He has met those kids and decided they're not for him, rather than abjectly refusing to even go outside and meet anyone, young or old. IMO same-age peers are *way* overemphasized and having solitary pursuits and being introverted is not a bad thing. You know he can interact socially and make friends when he wants to. It's also possible that that particular group has a slightly immature bent compared to your DS' opinion of himself. It sounds like he is very involved in his writing and some people only really focus on one big task at a time.

     

    Reminds me of this, shamelessly from TWTM “The Smithsonian Institution’s recipe for genius and leadership:

    (1) children should spend a great deal of time with loving, educationally minded parents;

    (2) children should be allowed a lot of free exploration; and

    (3) children should have little to no association with peers outside of family and relatives.â€

     

     

    Free exploration is exactly that: free to do what you want, not what others think is important for you. Trying to "break someone out of their shell" so to speak can be hurtful to someone who is not comfortable with the social situation.

  3. I totally agree it's frustrating to see people openly flaunting the rules, even unenforced and IMO totally unenforceable ones. It's a pet peeve of mine as well. However ratting your SIL out to your MIL? Why the extra step? At least if someone was going to criticize my parenting I'd like them to be rude to my face, not run to tell mommy.

     

    Well since mine has been able to undo the buckle since before she turned 2, and will stand up at whim, I would much rather have her stand in the basket with a good 18-24 inches of cart to hold her in than have her stand on the seat with barely 3 inches of cart to hold her in. At that point, I think the basket of the cart is MUCH safer than the seat portion.

     

     

    This also. Standing in the seat they're about 12 inches higher up with no rail and all the weight is behind the wheels just asking for a tip over.

  4. Wow! So many different opinions!

     

    It's the 4.5 yr old who will ask to snack on fruit or yogurt or sandwiches all day, and then when it's time for dinner, will eat two bites and say she's full (and then sometimes will tell us as we are putting her to bed that she's hungry and wants to eat). So if I didn't think it was interfering with what she was eating for dinner, then I probably would be more forgiving of it.

     

     

    This is exactly my ds. If it wasn't interfering with proper meal eating, as many people have shared that with their kids it doesn't, I don't think it's an issue but that doesn't sound like what's happening with you. I envy people who have kids where there are no food rules and they can have anything and still proper nutrition isn't a problem, but sadly that's not how it is for everyone.

  5. *deep breath* this can get ugly quicker than the political threads. Let me just say that there are many people who say "we're right" in such a way that it sounds like "you're going to the hot place for being wrong, neener neener" but just because that makes them look bad doesn't diminish any truth that is in their religion. A crude politician can have sound laws written and his personality does not make them unjust.

     

    Joanne, I haven't figured out how to do the whole multi-quote very well in the new forums, so I'm just going to respond to both you and Chucki in one post. As others have pointed out, I was speaking as one Catholic to another Catholic, not as a Catholic to others of a different denomination. I don't know how it works within Protestant Christianity, but in the Catholic Church there are a few things that are very well defined as being Catholic doctrine and this is one of those things.

     

    Many times what a Catholic says that they believe to be within Church teaching maybe misconstrued by somebody outside the tradition to mean something different. There's no question in my mind, Chucki, that you intended to say anything against the magistrium, but it could too easily be misinterpreted that way and you were speaking as a Catholic. I wanted to clarify what you said in order that those who were looking at the thread on this public forum have a solid representation of what the Church actually says and for those who are interested, I posted the link to the document where the Church expounds on that. And Chucki, I'm sorry if I did not phrase it as charitably/gently as I could have, for what it's worth another Catholic PMed me to tell me that though what I wrote was correct, it could have been said better and I agree with her.

     

    Since RCC is all one church under the same umbrella of beliefs that are very specifically spelled out it can sound very restrictive to others because not every Baptist church (just an example) believes the exact same things. Being RC requires that you do believe all the teachings of the church, however no man is the master of another's conscience so enforcement is where things get a bit crazy.

     

    IMO, being a member of a religion that says "this is the way" and simultaneously believing there is more than one way is a bit of doublethink, but I'm a very literal person. I also don't know where OP was going with this discussion since it seems to be making at least one member extremely uncomfortable that it's involving actual discussion.

  6. I'd say *if* you're willing to buy all of the parts separately and do all of your own building, you *may* be able to get a comparatively nice PC for a similar price as a Mac off the shelf, however I don't know any casual users who would do that. Or even if you can do that for a laptop. PC's off the shelf are full of extra things I would never want, like antivirus slooooow-ware. There's another perk: no virus issues ever with any of my Macbooks.

  7. I had the same fear with my ds, but after the first "I want a snack NAOW" fit he ate so much better with a schedule, including more vegetables. I don't think 2 hours is terribly long between meals, especially if they aren't eating the meal an hour or so after a snack.

  8. The gist that I got from a philosophy of religion class segment on him was that he thought that in order to be living according to the will of God, he had to pretty much be a hermit because he deserved the suffering, including being socially awkward and having what was probably scoliosis. He was engaged and basically treated his fiancee like crap so she would break up with him because he thought that he couldn't serve God if he was focused on a temporal happiness like marriage, a notion he later recanted and regretted. He also hated that being born in Denmark automatically made one a member of the church, which I can't remember exactly which one at the moment, because it didn't require any faith and people were being lazy about learning what God wanted besides nominal membership.

     

    disclaimer: this class was 3 years ago and was a survey, these are personal recollections and inferences, not scholarly interpretations of his writings.

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    What would an Apple/Mac computer give me that a windows based wont?

     

     

    You won't have to use the vomit that is Windows unless you really want to (dual booting is easy.)

     

    The new trackpad-cum-mouse device has intuitive gestures, pinch to zoom, flick to switch programs, multi-finger scrolling to control speed.

     

    Amazing integration with other Apple devices. I just don't think PC's work as nicely with iPods and such but that's me.

     

    No blue screen of death. Ever.

     

    There is a learning curve, but everyone has heir own definition of value. While Mac is more expensive for a casual user, I personally am comfortable paying for the above points, the lack of tower for desktops (sacrificing customization, which I wouldn't do anyway, for space economy) and aesthetics.

     

    sent from my Macbook :tongue_smilie:

  10. I can't imagine anyone actually leaving high school and living in the real world for longer than five minutes and still actually believing that the high school social structure is in any way relevant to life after high school.

     

    Lots of people from my highschool class still live that way. In the same town, seeing the same people every day, working the same fast food jobs and going to the game shop every weekend to play Warhammer. My 10 year reunion is coming up...

  11. My personal favorite reply has to be this: (on the subject of If A Child Harbors Unstated Anger Stemming From Cupcakes)

     

    "If they do, someone should lovingly step in and raise them. No child should suffer the abuse of being left to wallow in her own selfishness or self-absorbedness for a lifetime. It's our job as parents to teach our children correct attitudes and behaviors. It's loving to do so."

     

    Apparently feeling left out by, you know, being left out is the result of poor parenting.

  12. That explains where the cupcake tangents come from when a thread turns OT. I'm not surprised it turned, seems like it was supposed to be a JAWM vent about disrespectful parents (not following school rules, making a big deal out of treats when some parents would like their children not to have that particular issue thrust upon them during school hours) and like anything, people disagree and/or think the problem is really some latent bitterness the OP needs to get over and quit whining.

  13. What about getting him signed up in a co-op for some fun messy classes or for science experiments. You could try scouts or an art class at a center or something. Outsourcing can help.

     

    So much this. My ds is all art all the time: paints, crayons, cut, paste, everything. And he's only 3 so I (not being a crafty person at all) can't see this going well if I have to be in the lead of his crafty pursuits much longer.

     

    Don't feel like you're slacking, OP. There's quite a range here of how much is the perfect schedule, and every kid is different.

  14. I knew that they weren't supposed to wear coats, but that is one of the "rules" I didn't follow - once they were in forward facing. In Canada, in -40 weather. What I DID do was tighten the belts so that their coats were already compressed against their shoulders/chest area as tight as possible. I also made sure the chest clip was in the correct position. In my experience (personal observation only), most kids are not belted into their carseats properly in winter or summer. They are usually too loose and the chest clips are usually too low because parents are too lazy to loosen the belt to get the kids out, then tighten them back up when they put them in. I did that though, every single time.

     

    This.

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