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I am concerned that there may be more to the story than this.
Why did he call her this name? How does he behave when they are home alone? Does she feel unsafe home alone because he is mean or because he has done something to make her uncomfortable> It may be only verbal abuse, or I wonder if he may have molested her or done something to make her uncomfortable. OP I would advise you to ask your dd specifically and calmly if he has touched her private areas or asked or required her to touch him, or if he has exposed himself to her or in some way made her uncomfortable.
If she says yes, believe her.
If it is "only" verbal abuse, I am still quite concerned. That's absolutely inappropriate. I would want to know why, and I would also make it crystal clear that such behavior is a deal breaker.
Bottom line--if your dd is not safe being home alone with your fiancee, then you need to seek professional help ASAP. If he has hurt her in some way, do not stop to talk or debate or struggle over whether or not you believe it occurred or if it was "that bad." IF he hurt her, kick him out first (change the locks too) and then work with your daughter to understand the full truth and to protect her.
She said that he has not touched her in any unappropriate way, he just yells at her a lot when I am not there.
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I'm assuming this is the B word that ends in itch and not the one that ends in rat? The former would have me livid and would frankly be a tie breaker for me - esp. since it has happened twice and without you around (which to me means that he has plenty of self-control around you but lets it fly when you aren't there).
He never says anything out of the way to them when I am there. I sometimes overhear him saying hurtful things to them when he thinks I am out of earshot and I confront him right away, so I guess he just waits until I am sleep or gone to say things to them.
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I wouldn't tolerate that, either. And if the guy is calling a 7yo a b****, I can't help but wonder if he also uses a similar term for the OP when he gets angry, and she lets him get away with it. It doesn't seem right that this would be a first-time occurrence in the household.
He has never called me out of my name, as far as the way he treats ME, it is great. He goes out of his way to make me happy, all the problems we have revolves around the way he treats my kids.
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Some answers to questions is there has never been a problem with him and her, they have always had a good relationship which is why I am floored, she has always been a happy child and her mood suddenly changed which alerted to me this. On the other hand their has always been tension between him and my oldest son, it got so bad at one point that he hit him(not spanked) and the next day I loaded up my van and drove 12 hours to my moms house. We were broken up for about 4 months and he swore that he changed and that he loved the kids and I and that he wanted us to be a family so he moved to where I was and things were good for a good 6 months, and now he has started cussing at the kids but hasn't put his hands on them outside of discipline. A few months ago I noticed that the tension between him and my son had started again so I asked my son what was going on and he said that daddy just yelled at him a lot so I got to the point where I wouldn't leave him alone with him, everytime I have to go somewhere I take my oldest with me. (btw he is 10) So now out of nowhere he has started lashing out on my daughter and this incident happeded the last time that I left the house. He has never been abusive to me in anyway, we hardly ever fight and he goes out of his way to make sure that I am happy. He treats the 2 boys we have together totally different. I know in my heart that I need to get my kids out of this situation because he is acting the same way he was when I left him the first time.
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Deleted this so I can move on. Thanks for all the advice.
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I sent a join request, my name is Simone.
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I am using saxon with my 2nd and 4th grader. They are both doing well with the program. The only complaint I hear is that it is boring.
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Does anyone know of any beginner readers like I see sam or bob books but without the pictures or very little pictures. My 5 year old is getting very distracted with all the pictures and doesn't want to read the book because he is paying more attention to the pictures. I am almost to the point of making my own readers with just words so he can focus on just the words.
TIA
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I love this website. I have used it for a few years now with my children. Thanks for posting this.
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To recap
You've gotten a lot of good advice. I'll add my own $0.02.
If you want to add fun for math, there are plenty of "living books" you could add for math (the Number Devil, for instance). Or, you could grab someone's used Beast Academy books or Life of Fred (start with Fractions). While your son would already know the concepts, it could be a once per week "fun" math time. Or, check out MEP (Level 4 or 5, for example).I will look into these. I think he would do good with living math books. A while ago he read some of the Sir Cumfrence books and he loved them and learned a lot from them.
You've had several recommendations for Latin - Lively Latin, Getting Started With Latin, Latina Christiana & First Form (both by Memoria Press). While he COULD start with First Form (age appropriate), it really isn't "fun" and it goes pretty quickly for what you described your wanted (beginner curriculum). Look at what you want out of your Latin studies --- WHY do you want to do Latin? GSWL isn't "fun" - but it is challenging and interesting. For your description & from the recommendations you've gotten so far, Lively Latin fits.
Science: I've heard that Ellen McHenry's science is fun and kids retain a lot. Another thing to consider would be Sassafras Science from Elemental Science. It has more of a 'living book' feel - if he enjoys SOTW.I will check both of these out.
I have no advice on Spelling. I wouldn't add WWS as a supplement. If you did WWS, you really should eliminate the R&S writing assignments and cut down on outside writing in other subjects on weeks where the WWS writing is heavy. While I think adding a literature book per month is great, I'm not big on book reports or in depth lit guides. They tend to kill the love of the book. I add several literature books, but only require a discussion (or 'literary analysis') on one every couple of months.
History - If you want to add something fun to SOTW, think about adding movies or hands-on to the mix. There are lots of threads on here about movies that go along with SOTW. (I can't figure out the new tags function & I'm not sure the search function is working well, or I'd link them. AHA! Here's a blog with some links. You can try it out with SOTW 1 wherever you are & see how it goes this year.) Other people gave you good ideas - Homeschool In the Woods or activity guide for SOTW, etc.
I will look through these movies. He loves watching movies and actually learns a lot from them.
Lastly, what type of "fun" does your SON like to do? He is getting to where you should include him on some of his curriculum decisions. If you have co-ops available (not all of us do), would he be interested in doing that? I will be looking at the local co-op for next year so we can get out of the house more. Maybe I will take him to the curriculum fair with me when they have it so he can look through the books and see what he likes. As for fun his passion is football but there is only so much that can be done with that. He likes cars, airplanes, dogs, playing outside, typical boy stuff.
Good luck!
Thank you for all of your suggestions.
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Just a few thoughts:
If he is complaining that homeschool is boring, consider increasing the LEVEL of the materials he's using to match his ability, rather than just adding MORE materials. Maybe instead of bored, he's actually saying that he needs a bit more of a challenge in difficulty, but not in quantity. I was thinking that I might need to increase his level because he does seem bored with the work and just breezes through it.
You said he has a "light schedule" this year, but it looks like you're hitting all the basic subjects - not too light in my view. I think you're doing great! Maybe just think about ensuring that he's working to his full potential and staying challenged, plus add a couple of things for fun to break up his day. (I listed some of our favorite fun things below.)
Spelling Workout is great for a natural-speller who likes to work independently . . . so why not move him up to a harder level, if D is too easy? I was keeping him in D for the activites in it, but now I am thinking it is just a waste of time since I am pretty sure they all have activites in it. I might just put it up for my younger kids and move him to E and see if that is better for him.
For science, consider adding living/library books and let him read whatever interests him. Doing science narrations from an encyclopedia would be boring for many kids. Add in science documentaries that go with the books he chooses. Do science experiments in the kitchen. Many threads on the board on that topic. I am trying this approach with him now along with the encyclopedia but he says he doesn't know what he wants to learn about. He shows a little interest in dinosaurs and airplanes but when I get him the books or let him pick them out he doesn't read them, he will skim through them at home and say they are boreing and doesn't want to finish it. Maybe I should make him finish them.
Since he's a good speller, is he also an advanced reader? Maybe he'll need something more on his level/not as "young" as SOTW2? We're using K12's Human Odyssey book and love it. My DS would not be into crafts and cooking for history, either, but there are other ways to enliven history. And some kids just don't need hands-on for history, so no need to push that if he's not into it.
He is a little advanced in reading when he came out of the third grade last year at ps he tested at a 6th grade level, but I don't know how they tested him to determine that.
In my opinion, WWS plus the writing in R&S would be too much. What do you love about R&S that makes you want to use it again in 5th? Again, don't reward his efforts by piling on MORE work just to keep him busy. From reading through all the comments I figure R&S and WWS will be overkill so I may just stick with R&S which we both like because the lessons are short, and I love the Christian point of view.
ETA - Some fun extras that my son likes:
Brain Pop (we have the app, not a full subscription)
Stack the States/Countries (iPhone apps)
online drawing lessons from Mark Kistler (can be purchased less expensively through Homeschool Buyers Co-Op) http://markkistler.c...nlineVideo.html
Eureka science videos on YouTube http://www.youtube.c...FD&feature=plcp
Beakman's World science videos (Netflix or other sources)
Artistic Pursuits art lessons (combines appreciation and hands-on, look for it on eBay) http://www.artisticpursuits.com/
Scratch beginner computer programming (free website, can buy guidebooks inexpensively if he really gets into it) http://scratch.mit.edu/
How about a geography workbook he can do independently? Here's one option: http://www.amazon.co...orkbook grade 5
Do you have a Wii? My DS likes Big Brain Academy when he gets Wii time. http://www.amazon.co...ain academy wii
I will check out all of these, I am really interested in the computer programming since he is showing more and more interest in computers.
Hopefully this gives you some ideas.
Thank you for all your suggestions.
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One idea is Homeschool in the Woods Middle Ages Passport. We love the Time Traveler US ones and would've enjoyed them for that time period too! Add some more books along side of STOW, think about adding the AG also. Personally I do not like Saxon at all but a few fun supplements would be Life of Fred, patty paper geometry, education unboxed and Greg Tang has lots of fun books too. My 5th grader has enjoyed all of those. We love IEW so not sure about WWS. We also love Lively Latin and Ellen Mchery's science curriculum. But really I think it depends on your son.. Does he like hands on? Reading? Visual? What are his interests?
I had been on Homeschool in the Woods website a long time ago and forgot about it. Thank you for refreshing my memory on that. I will also look into Life of Fred, I have heard a lot about that series but never really looked at it. I will also check out the science you mentioned.
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We use SOTW for history and just add in extra reading. For Science, I'm using Science Daybook. You can find them at Rainbow Resource. We just add in extra reading and dd loves science/nature documentaries.
For Latin, I would look into Lively Latin. We're not hardcore with our Latin, but both dds enjoyed working through (we took our time) this and they learned a lot.
I am going to look into the Sciece Daybook and Lively Latin, thank you for the suggestions.
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This is my first year homeschooling and my oldest is in 4th grade right now. He is on a light schedule to try and get us used to homeschooling. Right now he is using saxon 54 for math, Rod and Staff 4 for English, Spelling Workout D (which is way to easy for him, he just goes through the lessons for practice but he can spell all the words in the book) Sotw volume 1 for history and kingfisher science enclyopedia with written narrations. I assign him 1 book a month that he reads and does a lit. guide that I will get online where he gets extra spelling, writing practice, comprehension questions, and then he writes a book report on it.
I am looking into curriculum options for his 5th grade year. I know I want to keep saxon for math, but I want to supplement it with someting that is a little more exciting. (I love saxon it is just so boring), I also want to keep R&S for English, so I am looking for Spelling, History (he will read sotw v.2 himself but won't be doing the activity guide(i don't think)), Science, and anything extra that would be fun for a 10 year old boy. We may also be working through WWS slowly, I know that R&S is suposed to cover writing I just want some extra for him. Also I want to gently introduce him to latin so we need a good beginner curriculum for that.
I want us to have a fun year next year because he is always complaining that homeschool is boring, and even though I want him to get a quality education I also want him to have fun. He is pretty independent with his work and likes it that way.
Thank you for any help that you can give.
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My 7 year old girl is your typical girly girl. She likes cheerleading, gymnastics, dolls, horses, baking, and so much more. My 10 year old is a football fanatic, he likes other sports also but football is his thing, he likes hot wheels, model cars, dogs, and video games.
Please pm me if you think your child would be interested.
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We are not starting our actual school work until the afternoon when daddy goes to work. So we are spending out morning/early afternoon baking, cleaning, and doing the laundry.
Later on we will be doing math, language arts, and finishing our halloween lapbook, and work on our elections/presidents study/lapbook.
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My 9 year old uses Axe, it works good for him. He gets real stinky and sweaty during football practice and it holds up for him.
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I live in Roanoke. I have a 9, 7, 5, and 2 year old.
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My son did not learn his ABC's until he was 4 1/2, I used Letter Factory and Starfall and it took him about a month to learn his letters and sounds. Or if you really don't want screen time you can try a letter of the week type thing.
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I think it is necessary to be consistant with the lessons. With my son who just turned 5 I was doing it everyday, trying to do one lesson a day but he became furstrated so I shelved for a month or so. I pulled it back out but I had to start all over again. So now what I do is work on it almost daily with him and just take it slow. Sometimes it takes us 4-5 days to get through one lesson, and sometimes he will do 2-3 lessons in a day. I am not rushing him through it because I want him to have a firm understanding of it.
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Oh I can't wait to read through this. Thank you.
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This looks really fun. I think we will try it. Thank you.
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We are starting. I am so excited. The kids could care less.:glare:
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These are such great ideas. For my kids my plans are to go by Krispy Kreme's and order a box of donuts, then we will go to the park where I will take there school pictures and let them play for a while. After that we will go home, go through all our curriculum and expectations for the year.
My fiance called my daughter a B* wwyd?
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I would like to thank everyone for the advice that I have recieved, we talked last night and he has left the house. I told him I would change the locks in 3 days so he had time to get his stuff out. The kids and I are at my moms house for the next 3 days while he is getting his stuff. There was no yelling he said he was wrong and he understands why I want him out. I don't know what my next steps are but I am just going to take it one day at a time. I am taking my son and daughter to their doctor to figure out the type of help they need to get through this on Monday, and we will just go from there.
Thanks again everyone for your supportive words.