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I have tattoos. DH doesn't and never, ever would.
Having said that, YES we would. IF...it was small, easily covered if need be for a career, and meaningful. Tattoos have been markers for me of significant times in my life and 20+ years (and many pounds and wrinkles later), they still mean a great deal to me.
We have one child who wants a tattoo that is a bad choice (I can't go into details, but I need y'all to take my word for it when I say it is a BAD choice...), and neither DH nor I would pay for that or do anything to enable that to happen. We have another child who wants something small and meaningful for 18th birthday. We are more open to that. So for us, it matters what the tattoo is, where it is, and what it is really about.
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We also have a special needs child and even when I am "off" I am on helping to manage expectations, emotions, being ready for anything. DH is a great, hands on dad, but does not deal with all of the emotional management that has to happen all day long. It has gotten slightly easier overall as our other two children have gotten older, but it really is unrelenting. From the moment child gets up to moment child goes to bed, and then even after that dealing with/talking through daily "fires" that need put out. It isnt bad, just unrelenting.
I totally burned out a few years ago. Totally. There was zero down time if I was here. DH realized this, and insisted I started taking weekends away. We can only manage it a few times a year, but it is the ONLY way I am ever really, truly off. I go see musicals with a friend who totaly gets my life. We see shows, nap, read books, eat. I do whatever I want whenever I want, and it is about the only thing that helps me catch my breath and dive back in. It is difficult to make it happen, I often come home to an emotional poopstorm, but it is what I need so we all just deal.
I hope you can get respite care to get some time to be "off". You deserve it...you NEED it.
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OMGosh, Janesville effected me so much.
I never cry over books, but I sobbed over Janesville, over and over.
So brace yourself.
Just looked this up and bought it to read!
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Maybe say you will stop by her house while you are out to pick up a check. That way she will be home where she has the checkbook?
These kind of things are tricky.
(Which reminds me...I owe a friend money for a theater ticket!). :huh:
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In the teens here too. Was going to go for a walk, but may rethink putting that on the "to do" list!
* Watch more of Civil War documentary
* Bag up clothes to donate
* List clothes to sell on eBay (Why do I hate doing this so much? It isn't difficult. But I procrastinate on this one terribly!)
* Call the vet back. My sweet, dear elderly dog had some testing done, and I am nervous about the results.
* Spend a few hours working on school planning
* Dinner in the crock pot (roast, potatoes, and carrots)
* Probably should meal plan and place a grocery order
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LOVE this thread!
I hav been bunny sitting for a friend. Mama bunny came with massive infection and needed to take antibiotics, and baby bunny could no longer nurse. So I spent a lot of time learning how to give rabbits medicine and how to syringe feed a baby bunny. You really CAN find anything on YouTube!
Researching colleges a little with DS. Researching living options for DD.
I just picked up A One Volume History of the Civil War to read. We are studying the Civil War for history, and I find myself fascinated. Selfishly, one of my favorite things about homschooling is learning about all the stuff I never knew and am curious about now! (Why didn't I think this stuff was fascinating in high school????)
Edited because it is so stinking cold here my fingers can't type well.
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I am a puzzle lover. They are like therapy for me. I have felt that way too when my kids jumped in and worked on a puzzle I had started without asking. One time they finished it without me. :crying: It sounds petty, but it really bothered me.
I like the suggestions from PP to talk to her about it.
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I have some. I am not a "crazy oil lady", but I like it. I'll be honest - I am big into smells, and it smells WAY better than most other cleaning products. Not sure if it actually CLEANS better, but it sure smells better. ;)
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I do a little. I have spring, summer, and fall along with Christmas. Fall and Christmas has the most "stuff". For spring I have yellow and green things (candles, ceramic bird, fake flowers). Summer I go with bright pinks and aqua colored things.
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I think you are handling this situation beautifully.
My sister got engaged young (married at 19) and my parents were adamently opposed. Verbally opposed. So. Very. Opposed. They met with my sister and her fiance multiple times to try and talk them out of it, but they were determined. While my parents did pay for the wedding, it was very obvious that they disapproved. While that marriage failed, my sister never got over the way my parents treated them. Her second wedding was an elopement with an abusive man. I don't blame my parents for my sister's choice of course, but I know that she felt she couldn't talk to them honstly about what she was going through because of their disapproval.
They to this day voice their disapproval about her first marriage. To this day, I believe it hurts my sister.
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Love reading others' goals. Really helps me feel inspired.
Personally - Finish the Boundaries book and workbook...and APPLY to my life. ;)
Health - I am finally recovering from hip surgery #3 and want to get back to some form of working out after 2+ years off. Will be joining a gym and startig back with Tai Chi and some light working out. Will take about 6 more months to recover fully. Go back to our healthy eating plan (cut out sugar and processed foods) to the best of our ability.
Spiritually - I am leading a small discipleship group with three teen girls so I want to be consistent in my reading, prayer life, and prep for that. Also taking a seminary level class our church is offering in the spring.
Home - Go through all my clothes and get rid of anything I don't feel amazing in. Then not buy anything that isn't amazing, even if that means I wear the same three outfits over and over. Going minimal with clothes. I have WAY too many and most I don't feel good in.
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I second looking at Grove City College and Messiah College in PA. Also check out Westminster College. Smaller size, amazing school. (Ask me how I know...). :laugh:
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Totally get it. So sorry it was a disappointing gift year.
My love language is gifts. My DH and I come from two VERY different backgrounds when it comes to gift giving theory and etiquette. It's been...a journey.
I have had some "hippo holidays" and they hurt the heart a little.
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Watch out for a lingering cough after this flu going around. My DS and I had the flu, but he ended up with a wicked cough afterward. He wasn't running a fever anymore and seemed to be feeling some better, but his cough was pretty bad. Took him to the dr just to make sure he was OK - nope. Double pneumonia. Dr said they are seeing more and more cases of this flu going into pneumonia.
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Ew. That feels super gross.
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My dress, veil, shoes, and gloves were all around $350. LOVED it and wouldn't change a thing. Very simple, classic satin gown (which was the opposite of the bedazzled monstrosity I was searching for).
I LOVE Say Yes to the Dress - it's my mindless background noise - but the prices make me choke.
I did have a friend who spent $7000 on her wedding dress back in the late 90s which just floored me. Beautiful dress, but it looked like...a wedding dress.
I guess if you can afford it or are willing to sacrifice to make it happen, go for it. I do think that any woman can find a dress she feels amazing in that is also affordable. I don't think those things are mutually exclusive.
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I grew up with Christmas Eve gathering wth my dad's side of the family, and Christmas Day we went to church, opened gifts, and then went to my maternal grandma's house to meet up with all the extended family. I LOVED it. Lots of fun, family traditions, great memories - some of my very favorite.
When we got married, DH insisted we stay home just the two of us our first Christmas. It was SO quiet and lonely for me. Now we live too far away from either side of the fmaily to get together, and we are used to Christmas just being our nuclear family. We have our own traditions and we enjoy the day, but I do get nastalgic for those big family Christmases.
Problem is that now we have complicated family dynamics, and honestly I just don't have the emotional energy to navigate it all with the issues our own family has around the holidays. I feel a little guilty that I don't want to put forth the effort to make it work once in awhile for other people, but I have learned that my own family HAS to come first. I have to remind myself that just because the memories I make with MY kids involve far less people, it doesn't make them any less special.
I am so sorry OP that you are feeling so frustrated about your holiday. It makes it hard to enjoy the time when you feel like your time has been spoken for by someone else.
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We are suffering with you. DS15 and I are on day 4 (days 1 and 2 were UNREAL), and now DH is starting to show symptoms.
We didn't go to the doctor, but if DS isn't perking better by Tuesday, I'm going to take him in. He is coughing terribly.
Tamiflu is expensive around here - well over $150. Wonder if it is like that everywhere?
Hope you get some answers and SOMETHING for some relief!
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I was thinking Gaitlinburg as well. The other place we have enjoyed is Chattanooga. Ruby Falls, Rock City, TN Aquarium (not as big as Atlanta's but still cool). You could also drive a few hours and spend a few days in Nashville.
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I started MMA at 36 and LOVED it. I absolutely say go for it! It was one of the best things I did for myself both physically and mentally.
Having said that, I am now 10 weeks out from hip surgery #3 due to martial arts. While there were several adults at our school starting out, the instructors were not always well educated in changes/challenges for older adults. Example: ALL people can head kick. Uh, nope. I have FAI and age related hip issues and ended up wth torn cartilage and three surgeries to repair damage. SO much depends on the instructor's experience and education working with less typical students.
I would LOVE to take up bjj, but with hip issues it just isn't in the cards for me anymore. It was SO exciting and fun to learn something new and challenge myself and to get to share the experience with my kids. If I found a place where I could train within the limits I have, I would do it again in a heartbeat!
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My guess is that most schools won't take them back because then they can't sell more belts. :glare:
My sons and I each earned our black belts, and our youngest son went through the children's program as well. Belts EVERYWHERE.
It IS so engrained to respect the belts! We ended up going the "Rubbermaid Bin" route too. I know someday we will have to deal with them...but I decided to delay finding a real solution for at leas a few years. :laugh:
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Just beautiful! And her name is as well! :001_wub:
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I've always had great experiences with Amazon customer service, too.
Locally, we have the BEST Publix grocery store. I HATE grocery shopping - I would rather scrub boys' locker room toilets with my own toothbrush than go grocery shopping...unless it is to Publix. So helpful. All about solving problems. It's like they are determined to be sure I leave feeling a little happier than I was going in.
We have a Dairy Queen that is under new management, and it is also FANTASTIC. Kind, courteous, orders have always been correct, food is great AND the staff is made up of a lot of teenagers. Delights the fire out of me to see these teenagers KILLING IT with regards to customer service.
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Oh Jan, so very sorry to see this update. Praying for you, your parents, and your brother's family. :grouphug:
Homeschooling and Mono?
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Just got home from the doctor with my DS15. He has mono. Doctor said to expect about four weeks for recovery.
He takes two classes at a tutorial - chemistry and geometry. I will talk to his teachers and see what arrangements can be made for his work for those classes. Meanwhile I am wondering what, if anything, I can do to not totally stall out on schoolwork with him at home. Tell me it is OK to do documentaries and audio books... What else could we be doing that wouldn't be too taxing for him? Or is this one of those times you would just take a break from schoolwork? I always feel nervous about losing chunks of time with regards to school. :crying:
And prayers appreciated - DS13 has an appointment in an hour to get tested for mono now too. I would not be surprised if he tests positive - he's been run down and cranky as well. AGH!!!!