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  1. In my opinion, it depends on the child.  My daughter struggles with grammar, so we've taken it slow.  I also wanted dd to see this as a fun subject, so I kept the assignments short.  We also had to factor in a little extra time for the videos.  Putting all that together, I have an overall goal of how much I want to accomplish during the school year, but I make a daily decision of how much dd is capable of that day.

     

    Helpful, right?  ;)  Probably not.

     

     

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  2.  What I don't think I'll ever regret is getting to spend my days with them. I could have been working a job, coming home frustrated, bitching about my boss or an annoying coworker. I could have spent my days and years with those people. But instead I have gotten to spend them with MY people. And I like them! And I'll miss them. I don't regret that.

     

     

     

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts.  This made me all weepy! :)

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  3. I'm having a similar crisis.  I have two adults living at home, so I've been in denial about being in an empty nest sooner than later.  Even though I have a degree, I honestly cannot support myself financially.  DH and I have very little in common. He lost his job (19 years) this past spring and has had to take a job away from home.  I do have grandchildren, but I'm not the type of grandma who wants to babysit.  I'm 52 and ready to be an individual, not start over with parenting little people.  Once my youngest finishes school I'm sure DH will insist I go to work though I won't be able to earn much.

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  4. I think there's no reason it can't work if they're at similar maturity levels.  And, very gently, if it's only been a few weeks, it seems a bit premature to be thinking about marriage  :laugh:.  

     

    I know.  Lol!  In our church culture, young men are encouraged to marry and start families.  Anyone over 25 who is still single is jokingly referred to as a menace to society.  I assume he's dating to find a spouse rather than dating for fun.  Maybe "I shouldn't assume" should become my mantra.

     

    I know I need to chill.   :chillpill:

  5. My 20 year old daughter didn't date during her teen years.  Guys her age didn't seem interested.   Last year she had a year long friendship which morphed into a dating relationship with a young adult who was about six years older than her.  The differences in religious beliefs were too great so we weren't too worried about marriage.

     

    A few weeks ago, 20 yodd went to her oldest sister's house and met one of their friends.   20 yo and this young man hit it off and they are now dating.  They enjoy being together, they have similar interests, and they share the same religious beliefs.

     

    The sticky part?  He is 10 1/2 years older than her.  Yep, he's 31.

     

    Assuming this relationship continues, what are some issues my daughter needs to be aware of in the future?  I've read on the boards before that older husbands can start to slow down in middle age which can sometimes cause friction.  My daughter is a low energy person to begin with, so hopefully that wouldn't be an issue.

     

    He lives in the same building as his brother and sister-in-law though he seems to have his own bachelor pad.  I'm not sure if he does his own laundry, etc.

  6. Big hugs!  Whether we mean to or not, we raise our kids with certain expectations.  It's hard when they come to us and share a different version of how they want to live (or the consequences that have already happened).

     

    I've shared a lot on this board.  It has been a life saver to be able to talk with people who share their wisdom when I'm having a meltdown and am incapable of being open minded.

     

    I would never choose to go through these things, but they have opened my heart to be more accepting.   My kids have changed me for the better.

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  7. This breaks my heart.  One of my girls was suicidal this past autumn.  It was the scariest time of my life.  There was absolutely no reasoning with her and she felt no hope whatsoever.   I felt like we were fighting a battle with our hands tied behind our backs.  There is no good answer to the question "why?"

     

    DH's brother died in January (possible suicide) and we had his parents out for dinner on Mother's Day.  It was tough.

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