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I use Veritas Press products some. I am not unused to firearms. I do not have any problem with hunters or gun-owners. I don't have any issue with children learning to hunt or shoot. That said, I think that this greeting is strange. I am suppose there must be some kind of cultural history reference which I am missing. Still, it seems an odd way to proclaim the usual Christmas message of Peace on Earth - Good Will to All. And "the wife" did seem quite uncomfortable.
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Document everything. If you keep an agenda or calender, start writing down everything weird she has done.
If the people you talk with, for instance the school board ladies, admit to who it was that informed them write it down, date and time and visit.
Get to know your local police and have a quick chat (in person) about the situation.
Do not engage crazy. You do very well to continue to ignore her rudeness and psycho behaviour in her presence.
So sorry you are going through this, what an awful feeling and situation. :(
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Jaymarie
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I've had 2 inductions already. I'm fine with it. :001_smile:
Well, have a happy baby day!!! :D
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so glad for the good update!!
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this may be more information than you are interested in, but if you are looking to avoid a c-section you would also do well to avoid an induction :)
Here's hoping you have your babe soon ;)
Warmly,
Jaymarie
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Something to bear in mind is that the national average (assuming you are in the US), for c-section rates is around 32%, and can actually be much higher depending on the hospital/city where you are receiving care. The recommended average "safe" c-section rate by the WHO is around 11-15 percent. With that in mind you may want to make sure your practitioner has c-section rates which line up with what you think is a healthy average for mamababys.
Nuchal cords are very common and rarely cause complications.
Babies are very often not "engaged" until labor begins and with mamas who have had a few babes the baby may not settle in until active labor is established.
As a birthworker, I have seen babies change position for many weeks, and then settle on a vertex position in week 36/37.
If you are interested in alternative care homeopathic pulsitilla taken three times a day until the babe stays head down is something I have seen to be very effective. Also, chiropractic care can make a huge difference (although, you want to make sure that they are giving care specifically for pregnant mamas).
I don't know if any of this is helpful but I do hope so! I hope very much that you are able to achieve the birth you wish for and that your RDS is held at bay until your are well past the birthing.
You will be in my prayers.
Warmly, Jaymarie
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I did have a talk with them this morning about being respectful in church. And I also did ask them what they remembered about what was said last night, if they had questions about anything from it, or if they found anything interesting. Surprisingly, they did answer my questions with quite a bit of detail, that I thought surely they must have been paying some attention. I'm glad for that. :) They even looked it up further online this morning.
I did lift their restrictions today, and they are outside playing right now. :)
:) My little ones can tell me a LOT about a service if I had let them color or do clay or putty during the service. They just need to keep their fingers and energy engaged and they soak it all up. I do like the idea of having them be more involved in the service, I think I will try more of that for future sermons/lessons.
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I am so sorry for her. How awful!
I hope the doc is able to help regulate things...
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My heart goes out to your family. My prayers are with you.
Peace,
Jaymarie
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I wouldn't hesitate to clip a tongue tie which I felt was impeding nursing in any way at all. If you look it up on youtube you will find some videos of a clip which show that it is one of the least invasive procedures (I mean, it isn't like a circumcision or anything)...
It is a procedure worth avoiding if it is being done routinely (as it used to be done) but on an as needed basis, I would do it.
Let us know how it goes...
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No long term memory until three, so really there are lots of decisions we agonize over that, frankly, mean little in the life of the child.
I can't see how you can say this... I know people who were adopted at 18 months and around 12 months of age who suffered the affects of non-attachment for years.
I believe that it doesn't take a study to say that the first three of the first formative six years of a person's life are, well, formative.
Wanted to add that baby had to go into the carrier with dh again tonight, since he wasn't going to sleep with nursing and we were repeating the whole scenario with him. But he fussed for about a minute and went right to sleep. :001_smile:It sounds like there may be a reason for the sadness which you just can't comprehend. I agree that you may need to let someone else take over, even when it leaves you with a sad baby, sometimes that is just how it is.
You are looking into reflux and dairy issues. Your little one could have some sensory issues or could just be a mama's boy. It makes life more demanding for you, no doubt, but it doesn't mean you are doomed to it.
I think it is a great idea to nurse well, potty babe (if you EC or change the dipe), and then pop babe on dad's back. He will probably get used to it in a few days (although, maybe even only one or two it sounds) and you will have a nice "system" down. If it doesn't seem to work after a few min, maybe try a repeat...
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I had an episiotomy with #1 (oh man was that horrid to recover from!!!!!!!) and I've had minor tears with 2 others, but no major tears. No episiotomies since my first.
The only birth I've witnessed, the mother had a very thick perineum. I'm not sure if it's normal, but it was a good 1.5" of girth covering the baby's head, all the way around. The Dr. called it a 'perineal body' and it was pretty surprising to see, actually. She ended up getting an episiotomy but I just don't see how the baby could have come through that otherwise. She said the recovery wasn't difficult for her at all.
The babies very rarely get stuck on the perineum. I have talked with quite a few midwives about this and once in 100 (rough guess) they will run into a mama with seemingly metal tissue in that area, sometimes in those situations they will choose to cut. :(
But generally if there is a thickness to the perenial tissue then it hasn't sufficiently stretched out...
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Do you mean the choices are have an episiotomy or tear? I would not use a birth attendant that thought those were the only two options. I would not consider birthing with an attendant that considers an episiotomy or tearing routine. My midwife has a less than 1% episiotomy rate and a less than 2% tear rate. This includes petite women delivering 10-12 lb. first babies and women delivering babies with shoulder dystocia (sp?) It's not either or. Find someone who routinely has clients with bodies in tact after a delivery.
My first child was less than 10 minutes of pushing. No tear. No episiotomy. Please don't listen to the staff screaming "Push! Push! Push!" at you. If you don't push as the baby crowns you'll stretch slower reducing your chances of tearing. If you're not on your back you'll do better. Find someone with experience in keeping women's bodies whole.
Very well said.
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The thing is, you might NOT tear. If you have an episotomy, for sure you're going to have to heal from that. I have a midwife who'd never done one, as a matter of principle, so it was a non-issue for me, but I would have refused one regardless. As it happened, I tore a bit with my first VBAC, but not at all with the other two, both of which were larger babies. I would never willingly submit to one except to literally save baby's life. As usual, YMMV.:001_smile:
Indeed!
There are lots of reasons that tears happen and they can happen even in the most ideal situations, but usually they are on the heals of directed pushing and/or back laying position. But naturally, the perinial tissue is made to stretch, and it should.
I do not recommend that anyone have a guaranteed wound over a possible wound.
There is NO evidence that episiotomies are beneficial in most cases. In fact they go through more layers of muscle and predispose you to tear even further. I had a 3rd degree tear with my 9lb vbac, but it was my fault. I refused to slow down my pushing as I just wanted it over with. sI'm still glad it wasn't an episiotomy. I watched a doctor cut one on my girlfriend and it was awful. Scissors do not belong there!Exactly. Kind of like making the cut into a bit of fabric to enable yourself to give it a big rip...
If you are looking to minimize trauma to you perineal area then you should push only when you feel the urge, not sustained/directed pushing, and choose a position(s) for birthing which are well suited to birthing, which would be almost anything other than on your back.
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That is a good question and something I have been wondering as well. I don't want to be using terms that are isolatory when speaking to educators of the non-homeschool variety ;)
Do you happen to know what synonymous terms or words may be in use?
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I haven't read her article yet, although I had noticed it and am looking forward to it :)
Are you sure she isn't a mathematician? I mean, does she say she isn't?
I'll come back after I read the whole thing.
(I always look forward to the publication as a whole and find it very inspiring and insightful.)
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I hope you have a fantastic time :D
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It's not all about "the big talk", there's so much more to it. Choosing good friends, dating, peer pressure, where to draw the line on physical relationships, etc. It's really much more than the birds & the bees.
How can you view the material?
I saw their over view page but it is quite general.
It sounds very interesting. And I know that my dds would love the idea of a weekend away for girl talk :yes
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i think the age is appropriate for sure to have the "talk". that's when many kids are hitting puberty these days. my daughter is only 9 and i am answering many questions as they arise, (thanks to her older cousins - but that's another thread in and of itself, lol). i've never heard of the program, but i just googled it. it looks interesting. i'm not sure that i would personally use a program for something like this, but i will probably buy a book at least, to help me figure out topics to cover that i may have otherwise overlooked.
have fun! enjoy the time with your daughter and i hope it is filled with good memories and lots of bonding.
Yeah, her age wasn't what I was wondering about as much as attending a "conference" which is what I thought it was. Now I understand it better. :)
As far as ages go, I would not wait for a child to ask about sex because they may not, some just don't.
We talk about it as soon as they touch their private parts, do potty stuff, take baths, notice mine or dh's "bits" etc...
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Thanks. I'll check it out. I don't think I've ever heard of it. I've already had the "big talk" with Anna. She asked two summers ago. :001_smile:
We have the big talk on a fairly regular basis ;)
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It seems like it might be more natural and easier to do it over time rather than one weekend...
but, I haven't seen the curriculum. :shrug3
I hope she enjoys it.
Sometimes I get questions that make me blush (and that is saying a lot as I am a midwifery student) but I just pretend it is normal, every day and answer as matter-of-factly (and honestly) as possible.
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Are you taking your 11yo on a weekend retreat about sex? Cause that would make me nervous.
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ah! I see that it isn't a "convention" type of thing, but you are using a "curriculum" -- is that right?
I am not nervous about talking about sex and such with my dc, it comes up almost every day since it is such a big part of who we are.
I would be nervous about spending a weekend on one topic unless my dd had specifically asked for it. :thinking
Do you normally discuss sex with her?
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Your reply sounds perfect. :thumbsup
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We put off the Last Battle and the Silver Chair when reading through them with our older two children because of the intensity and content.
The Last Battle is probably my favorite.
I'll bet if you read them for yourself, which you will be able to do quickly, you will really know what your dc will love or what could be a potential problem. :)
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To a man, respect matters. Ladies, your love is not enough. Men equate feeling loved and feeling respected as the same thing. So I (quite imperfectly) strive to show my husband respect, even if I don't "feel" it, because I know how much he needs it. Yes, it is a choice to give unconditional respect, just like it is a choice to give unconditional love. The more I have practiced this choice, the more that I see in my husband to respect, and he in turn has shown much more love toward me (hint he finally feels loved). The Ephesians 5 Scripture says what it means, there is no fancy interpretation needed. Women struggle to give respect, which is why I have appreciated sound teaching and encouragement in this area. If you would like to examine this topic further and find resources to help you in this area, I highly recommmend the books: "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn (for wives) and there is one for hubby too titled "For Men Only" written by Shaunti and her husband Jeff Feldhahn. (Note: BTW, I don't suggest, ladies, that you run out and buy that book for your husband and try to get him to "change" by reading it...just focus on yourself! :blush: ) These books are packed with insight and research studying the differences between men and women, including the love/ respect issue. I also highly recommend "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. One more I highly recomend for women is "The Love Dare" by Nina Roesner. In addition to the book, there is an online course for women to take "The Respect Dare" at http://www.therespectdare.com/ I will share that if I had not worked on this issue in myself, I would not still be married today. Blessings! Angie
Your experience with a couple of the books mentioned and my experience differ greatly. My dh does NOT recommend the Eggerichs book at all. He didn't like the way men were pigon-holed into such a stereo-type. I do know many people who like the book though.
And I would say unless you are a student of ancient common Greek, you are probably working with a fancy translation of the Ephesians passage.
Does Veritas Press Give Homeschoolers a Bad Name?
in K-8 Curriculum Board
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Ah, eye-opening.
I guess I'll have to do more research before I purchase more of their products. I would rather not support some of the ideas mentioned here. :no