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I've never seen anyone (irl or on any board I frequent, though obviously there are those out there) who support "typical" FGM. And this paper doesn't support "typical" FGM. It contemplates what might be "acceptable" here, in our country. Yes, I think that should be weighed against what other "acceptable" cultural rituals we "allow".
I agree. Anyone who recoils in horror at FGM should know that male circumcision is the same; it just happens to be our cultural practice.
But isn't the end result different? Female circumcision is performed to prevent sexual pleasure. That is not the purpose of male circumcision.Male circumcision does affect sexual pleasure/function, as it deprives the person of the most sensitive skin on the penis. Whatever the purpose of circumcision on either gender, it should be against the law to amputate parts of genitalia without consent of the person who's getting cut.
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:grouphug: I am tandem nursing a three year old and a 9 month old.
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Congratulations to him and to you:D! Florence is magic; I went there as a sophomore in college. I still treasure that experience, and I bet he will, too. Maybe you should go visit while he's there......;)
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Here's the biggest issue: How do I deal with folks who say that the reason we've messed up this year is my disability, my meds, etc...and that Diva would be better in school?
While I agree with the others that you should not focus much on what people say/think, imagine this: If she had a bad year at school, would all those people say it was her teacher's fault, or would they say that you should pull her out of school for having one bad year? I doubt it.
I don't have experience with formal HSing, but I am a mama and I say don't be too hard on yourself:grouphug:.
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Would someone kindly discuss what "spiral" means and/or link me to a thread where I can find that info? I don't want to "beat a dead forum horse", but I'd like to know more. TIA
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If someone manages to do well with it, I think it is because they would have done well with anything.
This is my fear. I am math phobic (though getting better), and I worry that Saxon would be a bad fit for us unless the children are naturally gifted at math.
Great thread; thanks for starting it.
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Ultrasound is an unproven technology (I suspect you know this). I think you should do it if you feel there is a need. Congratulations on your pregnancy:001_smile:.
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I'm Quickbeam09 on ravelry. And JoyfulMom, you are smart. I find ravelry fun, but still a little crazy- so many projects to do..... I like the phrase "manic tizzy."
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Hearty congratulations to you and to her!:party:
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Peela, I appreciate your perspective (here and in other threads). I didn't articulate my point well, but I'll give it one last go.
The specific question was about malls, and I have to say that the mall is the very last place I'd allow my child to go without family. Malls exist to stoke the fires of consumerism, and though they may choose to shop at them later in life, they won't do it under my short watch.
More broadly speaking, I find that having parents or other trusted adults within earshot helps young people have an "out" if they need one. We'd all like to imagine our children as independent thinkers and movers, but the reality for many adolescents is, well, adolescence- a time of insecurity and figuring out one's identity and all that good stuff. In a way, I think groups of 7-year olds would be OK at the mall in a way that 15 year olds aren't (OK, not in a US mall- maybe in a Danish mall;)).
My kids are tiny, but I have a teen niece and I taught middle schoolers for a time, in case anyone wonders how I got so mouthy on the subject.
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I'm just back to thank you for sharing. It's opened my eyes and spurred me to think carefully and remember to always be kind to other parents, especially as my LOs grow older and parenting gets trickier. We often cannot know what's happening inside the family; you've really planted a seed of empathy.
And I'm sorry your cat woke you up. Cat vomit is rough. Bleh.:grouphug:
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This just sounds like such a lack of trust in the kids, I don't really get it, I guess.
My perspective is that we live in a society that does not protect children. They are encouraged to attach more to their peers than to their parents. The problem with this is that children can't teach other children how to become responsible adults. Making their interactions with peers occur in the context of family is one way to counteract the less desirable forces of the culture. There's a good (secular, BTW) book about this called "Hold On To Your Kids."
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I wouldn't allow it even if they were in a group. In a group at my house or the house of another of the friends, assuming a parent would be home and paying attention, would be alright with me. Malls are notoriously bad places for kids to hang out. Unless they are actually shopping for something, I wouldn't want them there.
This.
And hello, Brenda:). It's Lucy from TBW.
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the mother is lucky that your sister's school is on her side.
The mother is mentally ill and has very limited skills. She loves that little boy, though they have not always been together. My sister's school is a fairly new program; it's a public school and a day treatment facility rolled into one building. I wish every town had a school like this. There are only 8 children in a class. My sister gets burnt out sometimes, so I can only imagine how you must feel, mama.
You are in our family prayers tonight.
ETA: Yes, I probably know too much about them. But I spend time there and I go to the family nights; I can't help getting to know them.
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:grouphug: My sister teaches at-risk children. Some of them have RAD. I spend a decent enough amount of time volunteering at her school to have a mild guess at what you experience. One of the boys has actually made progress this year. I never would have guessed he would, but he is. Just offering that b/c I have sometimes wondered what could be as hopeless as RAD seems.
I think Just Gin offered great advice.
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I'm sorry; of course you are frustrated. Dishonesty and/or thoughtlessness stink.
I don't buy from anyone on amazon who has less than 99% positive feedback. I have always been happy with my used book purchases, and I suspect this is one big factor.
It's timely for me that you posted this today, as I am selling a used item on another board, and the item has a small flaw that I've gone to great lengths to fully disclose. I want people to know what they are getting. Something that might not bother me might bother a buyer a lot.
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I am sorry and I'll pray for peace for you and DD. :grouphug:
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I work at home now, but I often remember with a grimace the pressures of working "out there." :grouphug: It's OK to vent; good luck with everything.
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Honey, I'm stressed out and all I did was read "Home Buying For Dummies" (superb and well-written, BTW).
Congratulations on buying a home, but wow...what a headache.
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Just because you don't put your child into day care does not mean you are a home schooler, at least in my point of view.
This touches off something that annoys me. Daycare is not school. I think people call it school to make themselves feel OK about doing it (I'm not saying it is or is not OK; I just think people who need to justify it do so by calling it school).
I haven't begun HSing with my children yet. They are 3 and under one, respectively. We're just messing around over here:D.
Because it's a pet peeve. You know, a pet peeve, something trivial and yet it bugs you. Does it really matter in life what the different views of home schooling are? Nope. Not a bit. However, everyone has pet peeves and most of them are silly. It can be interesting to pick them apart and talk about them, but that doesn't mean it's a serious topic.I agree.
p.s. Tutor, I love your signature.
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I also did not like Titanic.
And I guess David Lynch's movies wouldn't be considered popular, but he gets on my nerves, too.
My sister loves "Crimes of the Heart" but I did not like it. Eeew.
Jim Carey gets on my nerves, too, so add all his movies. If he pulls a face we are all supposed to laugh so hard we pee; I don't get it.
I like to be grumpy about movies:blushing:
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Not a whole lot of 14-17 year old married guys running around...
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The idea is that habitual focus on self-gratification (which can become an issue for some young people), leads to problems of selfishness when/if they do get married. I'm merely echoing the constant teaching of my Church, summed up here (just FYI; there are other spiritual traditions that offer a similar perspective):
"2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."137 "The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose." For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."138
To form an equitable judgment about the subjects' moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability."
I bring it up because self-restraint and modesty seem to go together. My experience is that most people haven't even considered the value of choosing not to masturbate. Why not expand our thinking on the issue?
As for how we talk to our children about these things, I certainly do not advocate shaming of any kind. I do think the topic is a jumping off point for a discussion of what our family believes about sex and family.
Group Backs Ritual ‘Nick’ as Female Circumcision Option
in General Education Discussion Board
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This issue goes deep, and we do well to ask ourselves (again or for the first time) what we think about our purpose, or telos. Not trying to be too dramatic, but clearly cutting genitals has a significance with roots way older than our postmodern age.
I was reading a tabloid (gasp!) where Sandra Bullock talked about circumcising her new son, and I thought "Why in the world would she go to that trouble when she was trying to keep him a secret?" Is she Jewish? I think we all would do well to rethink our own circ. rituals as we try to protect others from theirs (FGM).
As for equivocating the two surgeries, you are amputating a part of the penis when you circ., and it's an important part. Even with sterile instruments and good aftercare (which FGM victims do not often receive), there can be complications.