I need help with my 4 year old ds. I've always known he wasn't like my older two, but I don't know what it is. I'll give as much background as I can, so maybe someone can help me figure him out. He had ear infections non stop from the time he was a couple of months until the ENT finally decided to put tubes in at 10 months. He was on so many different antibiotics, and reacted to almost all of them. Finally they had to give him antibiotic shots because of all the different allergy problems. Well after tubes, he hasn't had anymore ear infections!!!! He talks very, very loud. I've had his hearing tested by an audiologist, and she said he has negative pressure in both ears. She said maybe allergies, so he has been allergy tested, and put on zertec, but with that he was having night terrors. It was scarey for us. So now i put him on some natural allergy medicine. He is doing fine with it, but still talks extremely loud. I'm not sure it works. For the first 3 years of his life I didn't know how to control him. It was like he had ADD/ADHD, then I read somewhere that added food coloring could cause those behaviors. So, bye-bye anything with added dyes. That has helped tremendously. He like like a completely different child. No more running around uncontrollable, not listening, etc... Poor kid, he was awful on color, so I'm sure it felt terrible for him. Anyway, we still have issues. He will be fine, but when daddy comes home, he goes all crazy on us. Or like at church a few weeks ago, they had a 35th anniversary celebration and there wasn't Sunday school only childrens church service, and he kicked, screamed, and threw a fit because he didn't want to go. Now this is the same class he goes to after Sunday school just fine every other Sunday. He will yell at his siblings as if they have to do what he says. He's really mean about it too. It's almost like he has anger issues at 4. One minute he will be fine, then thenext he's not. Then there will be times he will make a mountain out of a mole hill, and literally be on the floor kicking and screaming, throwing toys and arguing with me. It's like he two different kids in one because he can also be the sweetest most compliant child around. It's not a discipline issue because we do discipline, but sometimes I just don't know what to do to make him better. We just had one of those fits tonight. We just came home from grandma and grandpa, and the moment we got home, he had a melt down. Needless to say, I'm stressed right now. Once he was calm, he wanted me to wrap him tightly in his blanket and rock him. Well, if anyone has read all the way through this and can offer any help, I would greatly appreciate it!!