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  1. I love makeup! I love wearing nice clothes. I love fixing my hair. I enjoy it when people tell me I'm pretty, or I look nice. I can't imagine leaving my house looking like a fright. To me that sort of look means, "I don't think I'm worth the effort." I like to put my best self forward at all times, and for me, that best self is well dressed, with makeup, and decent looking hair. And to be honest, the reality is, people are nicer to you and treat you better if you're more attractive. I wish the world didn't work that way....but it does.

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  2. My dd is a professional ballerina. She received a full scholarship to her university for ballet, and received a BFA in ballet. She danced professionally while in college as well.  If your dd is naturally talented in ballet, she should be able to get a scholarship easily.  Has she attended any ballet summer programs with professional companies, and did she enjoy them? 


    The field of ballet is ruthless and competitive for women, so whatever she can do to get a leg up early on is essential. Have her attend as many summer programs as she can in the coming two years (my dd usually attended two different ones each summer), and not at her home studio (unless she already studies at SAB or JKO, lol). Have her get letters of recommendation from the instructors, and attend programs where she is able to make serious connections in the ballet world. Make sure her teachers at her home studio are professional dancers (or former ones) who can give her advice based on real world experience. Having her participate in the YAGP competition is also a great way to see where she stands in relation to her competition. If she can make it to the finals in NYC, then I can almost guarantee she'll get a job as a ballet dancer if she wants it.


    The great thing about ballet is, if you're good enough, all of your higher education will be paid for (if you decide to go the college route). My dd loved everything about being a ballet major in college, and going to college while dancing has made her a more mature, level-headed, and serious dancer. Her company director loves that!

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  3. Sarah, I love your podcast, website and book.  Your enthusiasm is contagious, and that's such a blessing for homeschool moms.  I've been homeschooling for the past 21 years, with four years left to go, and I've learned (and been reminded of) several things I need to be better at accomplishing from your site and your guests.


    The most important message for homeschool moms that I can offer is....We're all in this together, nobody's perfect, and we need to be supportive of one another and our efforts.


    Have a great year, everybody!

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  4. Hello, thanks for your help in advance!!


    I am just beginning a homeschool journey with my daughters, 6&4.  We love our learning!  But I frequently feel paranoid about their future given this brave choice of homeschooling!


    1.  What field do your children work in and are they enjoying themselves?


    2.  Did you follow WTM strictly?  Did you include other approaches?  Did you feel that the high school years were an enormous amount of work?  Did you work hard to get ahead?


    3.  Are you pleased, looking back, with the experience your kids had, including friendships?


    Any tips, wisdom, perspective you could share with me would be very much appreciated!!


    1.  My two oldest are graduates.  My dd is married and a professional ballerina.  My ds is finishing his undergrad and starting the process of applying to law schools.  They both have full-ride scholarships, and they both have been on the Dean's List every semester.  Although the first semester of school, my dd called me all upset about that, thinking she had done something wrong. :lol:  Homeschool mom failure...she had no idea what a Dean's List was.


    2.  No, I didn't follow WTM strictly.  I used my own method, mixing philosophies and methodologies until I had things the way I wanted them.  The high school years are my favorite years to teach.  I didn't find them to be any more difficult than the younger years.  No, we did nothing special to "get ahead."


    3.  Yes, I'm very pleased with their experience.  My kids had as many friends as any public school kids, given that we are LDS, live in Utah, and kids are everywhere. lol


    Advice?  Work hard, keep the end in mind, enjoy the ride.


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  5. They're very young in the original strips.  Like kindergarten age.  But they do age throughout the series.  I remember the older strips (I had several books of the Peanuts collections as a child), and you can tell that they were much younger than the age they are when the television specials began to air.  And, yes, I remember watching those on TV in the late 1960s.


    Google the first Peanuts strips and you'll see how much younger they are in those.

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  6. Most people that I know who have grown up in families with six or more children have a few who are bitter.  The most common complaints I hear are:


    1. No privacy.  They hated having to share a bedroom with their siblings as they grew older.  This is especially true for those who were introverted or more private by nature.  Always having someone right THERE grew to be intolerable.


    2.  Not enough money.  Sometimes it's hard to be the one who never gets to do what other kids are doing.  I don't think this means the person is selfish, they just had something they really wanted to do or participate in, and it wasn't going to happen in their family.  And sometimes, it wasn't exclusively for financial reasons.  Some parents felt it wasn't "fair" for one child to get something or have the opportunity to do something, while the others couldn't.  One of my friends was so upset because she wasn't allowed to accompany me on a beach trip (it would not have cost her a dime) because her parents felt that it wasn't fair for her to spend a week at the beach if her siblings couldn't do that, too.  I think her mom just didn't want to have to deal with the other kids while she was gone.


    3.  Too much responsibility for home and siblings, and not enough time to just be a kid themselves.  Sometimes moms don't realize just how often they ask those older children to "watch the baby" while I get dinner.


    4.  Not enough space, peace, or quiet in their homes. They never grew out of the "baby stage" in their homes.  There was always a baby, a toddler, or noisy preschoolers underfoot.  All. The. Time.  My one friend used to tell me how much she loved coming to my house because it was so quiet (I have only one younger brother).  We would spend summer days sitting in my room reading Nancy Drew books, and she cherished that time, because it was peaceful and she was never interrupted.


    In each of these cases, the (now adults) generally moved out of their homes at college age, married early, and did not have more than three children.  They all get along fine with their family of origin, but they do have issues that have carried over into their adult lives.  I had one friend say to me once (and it's always stuck with me), "I wonder who I could have been now, if I'd had the luxury of growing up in a home where there wasn't so much chaos.  Where I could breathe, and ponder, and have time for myself.  Where I wasn't consumed by the constant presence of my siblings.  Where I could have had the opportunity to have lessons and develop talents."  And I wouldn't say she's bitter at all...just a bit wistful.

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  7. I just returned from Stake Conference, and Elder Oaks was our speaker.  He said that Elder Perry attended their Tuesday meeting, and participated in it.  Then he called on Wednesday and told Elder Oaks what his doctors said, and that he wouldn't be able to work with them anymore.  Elder Oaks and Elder Ballard went to visit him at his home today at noon, and he told them that he didn't feel he would be here much longer.  Then Elder Oaks got the call that Elder Perry had passed away at 3 pm.  He shared some wonderful stories about their friendship and how much he loved and respected him.  It was very touching.

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  8. Maize answered well.


    But, I'm not quite sure I understand what you mean by what happens TO them.  Do you mean would they have some sort of responsibility if they were molested?  If so, the answer is an emphatic NO.  Elizabeth Smart was 14 years old when she was kidnapped and raped repeatedly.  She has NO responsibility at all.  That is all on the man who kidnapped her.


    Exactly.  Victims bear NO responsibility for what happened to them.   At all.

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  9. Unfortunately, young women making up stories to get attention isn't anything new.  A girl that I went to school with alleged for weeks that she was being stalked by a certain guy, and then she went missing.  For several days.  Hundreds of people were searching for her.  Turns out she kidnapped herself.  Yeah.


    Obviously there are psychological issues at play in these situations.  Sadly, it only hurts women who are real victims of sexual assault and other crimes.

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  10. I buy handmade soap but would love to make my own. When I search for info I get more confused. Please share your knowledge!!


    I'd probably do better answering specific questions.  What would you like to know? 


    I have to head off to work now, but I'm sure some of the other soapers here will be happy to help if they see your questions first.


    PS.  I just made some yummy honey soap today!

  11. http://www.brambleberry.com/ is my favorite.  She has lots of videos to demonstrate soap making for beginners.  Great products and great service!


    Wanted to add that soap making is one craft that you can actually turn into a business and make a profit from.  There is a learning curve though, and you have to spend quite a bit of time doing research, as well as studying all the ingredients involved and how they work together.  You will have some disasters in the beginning. :D  I've gotten customers mainly by word of mouth, and I have several customers with specific needs for whom I make custom soaps.  And you can bet that I will charge a premium price for a custom designed soap.  And those people are willing to pay it.  It's very satisfying to help someone who has been struggling with skin sensitivity or other problems find something that finally works for them.


    Go through the tutorials on Brambleberry.  Soap Queen TV is awesome, and so it the Teach Soap site.  There are links on the main page.  And ask questions here, too.  With so many soapers, you're sure to find an answer.

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  12. I make my own soaps (and occasionally sell them as well), and I find that the more natural the ingredients, the better the soap.  Whenever I use commercially made soap, my skin is much itchier.  I'm not a fan of the detergents, lathering agents, and other chemicals in commercially made soap.  You can make your own for much less, and it's a better product all the way around.  I just made some gardening soap for the gardeners in my life the other day.  Smells heavenly, and it has ground walnut shells and shredded loofah in it, to really remove the dirt.


    If you're interested in making your own soap, let me know and I can provide with links (if we're still allowed to link to outside sites) to help you get started.


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  13. We had wedding guests that he and I didn't invite. 


    Husband and I had agreed that since there would be no one on my side of the family there (I was a convert, and my parents and sister waited outside), that only his parents/siblings/sibling spouses would be invited.


    MIL (behind our backs) invited her siblings and their spouses.  I didn't realize it until we walked in to be sealed.  We were really hurt.  MIL was incredulous that we intended to marry without inviting everyone she wanted to be there. 


    I have no problem with inviting only the people I want to be with me in the temple, and I would hope that others would support me in my wishes. Reality seems to be other for many that I know.


    My MIL's behavior during my wedding (I'm a convert, too) was so obnoxious, that it has affected our relationship to this day.  She was completely out of control.


    And Gardenmom, I'm glad it all worked out for you!



    I'll come clean here. I can't stand when other people's kids include themselves in conversations between other adults and me, unless they are invited - in situtations where there is an expectation of adults "talking". I recognize that others may see thier 11 year olds as a mature person, I however do not. If we are at a park to meet up and let the kids go hang out - then the kids need to go hang out. Even if they're not speaking, I feel like I'm being listened in on and I think that's rude. It's not like I'm being super private, or talking about sensitive things, I just want to talk with my friend. Genreal milling about - absolutely - let's all chit chat and discuss.


    I think there's a time and place and kids (like all of us) need to clue in. If I run into Starbucks and two friends are having coffee - saying hi and moving on is the polite thing to do. They obviously planned to be there and have things to discuss. Sure, they can invite me, but it's not necessary. It's there conversation and there time. I think a park "sit and talk" time is the same - but for the kids to move on.


    I will say, as my kids get older, I get it more. Tweens/teens want to play less and assimilate into adulthood more. They're finding their place. Great - there's a time and a place. But, if i want to talk with a friend about a parenting issue or whatever - I don't need a 13 year old around to listen in.


    I cannot stand parents who will stop their conversation with me every single time their child interrupts and wants to speak to them about anything that comes to mind.  The constant whining of "mommy, mommy, mommy" while we're trying to talk drives me bonkers.  And those parents are not doing their children any favors, by not teaching them manners.  Eventually, society will.


    Those kinds of parents (and their children) quickly go on my list of people to avoid.


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