These are all just personal preferences, beliefs, feelings, and so on that everyone is entitled to have. To agree or agree to disagree. I view myself as some what of an old fashion kinda person 1-man and 1-woman is all u need together in a relationship. You thrive and feed off the emotions that both bring to the table good bad and in between. I myself feel that so many base most their choices basically on the topic of sex. This is were I am simple my sexaul needs/satisfactions generate off satisfying my counterparts needs I except the challenge and enjoy it most of all. I change things up I'm not complacent or set in a routine being repeated, the same old stuff. That randomness and openness to do such helps keep the extra spark. The willingness to not degrade myself and use toys to assist in the pleasuring is always easier thought to handle then the extra thoughts someone such as myself that could easily get caught up in their own feelings and lead to what might of been a strong and happy FAMILY. The opinion of just another individual in his own feeling, beliefs, and thoughts. (IMHO)Never is it the partner's sole responsibility to satisfy the other in every way but for us to be in a relationship we choose our selves and to be satisfied in as the partner supports and helps maintain and maybe without extra "work" even increase the satisfaction level and happiness in many areas.