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1 hour ago, Where's Toto? said:
Dh has always had some form of beard and mustache since we've been together. HE usually has just a little patch but he can grow a pretty long full beard, which makes him look a lot like Santa Clause - but he only has one chest hair. LOL.
ETA: Wow, that picture attached is huge. IS there a way to make it smaller?
I can see the Santa Claus connection but for me, he looks a bit more like Michael Landon.
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40 minutes ago, OKBud said:
The subjects being judged in the same way are different from one another, yes.
I don't understand what you're upset about? Yes, I do have judgements and opinions. I wish little girls didn't feel pressured to get piecing. I feel stronger about that than I do my mild observations about whether beards are a hipster / millennial thing or a more widespread fashion here that will still be around for another 10 years.
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2 hours ago, Garga said:
My friend who goes with me to the movies every Tuesday night didn't want to see A Quiet Place, so I went with my ds15 today. (My friend has small children and can't stand watching movies where small children are in any kind of danger. I was that way, too, when my kids were still small.)
It was a lot of fun. My son said it reminded him of Cloverfield--the same level of suspense and "horror". So, if you liked Cloverfield and didn't find it too scary, then you'll like A Quiet Place and not find it too scary. It's listed as horror because it's a suspenseful monster movie, but not slasher-horror or super creepy spirit/demon possession. Monster movies are ok for me.
It was suspenseful throughout and was just fun to watch. This is the sort of movie that I would say it's worth seeing in the theater and not waiting for it to come out on video. I think it needs to be seen on a big screen in a quiet theater full of people. My son was literally on the edge of his seat for parts of the movie. He claims it's because his back was getting sweaty and I was like, "Mmhm. Yeah, right." I think it was a little mixture of both for him: sweaty back, suspenseful movie.
The movie is very quiet with very little spoken dialog. Most of the time, the characters sign to each other with subtitles. So, don't bring crunchy snacks and open the packaging on your candy before the movies starts, or everyone will hear all your rustling and chomping.
I saw A Quiet Place today and someone brought a newborn baby!! Who in the world bring a baby to a movie, much less a movie that is about being quiet! Silly. But the baby wasn't too disruptive and anyway... ahhh can't say more without spoilers. But -- my theater was sold out, and the showing before me sold out too, so I think a lot of people will see it.
It's funny you mentioned Cloverfield, because this movie was almost a Cloverfield movie. It could have been, but the Cloverfield chose to do that John Goodman one instead (which is, IMO, an even better movie - but this one was fun too).
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32 minutes ago, Bluegoat said:
Beards seem to have been the trend here for a few years now. Some people always had them of course, but they have become far more common, especially among younger men. It started with hipsters, but now seems most common among working class younger men. Which makes me wonder if it might be longer lived, more of a fashion change than a fad. The hipster bun has already largely gone out of style here, the only ones I see are on people who would have had them before they were trendy. THe beard seems to have a wider appeal.
Personally, I am in favour, I've strongly preferred facial hair on men since I was 12, which is a bit of a drag as a 12 year old girl. I am good with a long or short beard, sideburns, really more is probably better. Moustaches and those beards with no moustache I am not so keen on, most I think can't pull those off. Goatees can be tricky too, and so can cultivated stubble.
Dh, alas, cannot grow one at all. IN fact he went to an island for 3 months and tried, and it was so bad he shaved it off before he came home. Probably a good beard is the one thing that might tempt me to consider running off with someone. (That is a joke, mostly.)
As far though as the question of ladies shaving, I have heard that this is less of a universal trend than it was, and in fact the 70's shag is coming back into style. It seemed to come into style when I was about 20, and very quickly was considered almost a requirement, and I expect some people will just keep up with it if that's what they've aways done. But I think it's a pretty invasive trend and it would be better if it just didn't really exist.
I think you are right that beards ares a trend that has become a fashion change. I absolutely do NOT think, if this was a forum 20 years ago, the replies would all be "it's totally normal, most guys have beards, why are you even asking?"
My husband has a patchy beard and he doensn't like how it looks. Good news for me :) since I don't love it. Though I'd never tell him to shave or anything like that.
As for women and no pubic hair - this a tricky topic to google, let me tell you - but it appears you may be right and there is a small but significant trend of women being a bit bushier now. My Googling says that it was in about 2000 and an episode of Sex and the City that took waxing / brazilian wax from somewhat popular to standard.
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On 4/7/2018 at 3:23 PM, OKBud said:
Mm I see.
But would that bother you? Or would you just laugh and be like, " I dunno/who cares?" because it's a totally innocuous question?
I meant the two questions are identical in benign judginess. Ears should be pierced=beards should be shaved.
Well, obviously, beards are OK and earrings are OK. But I see a pretty big difference, in that beards are an adult's choice, and adults have enough time to know what they want. While ear peircing is most often done to children, who are still forming an identity and ideas of what "should" be done to their bodies.
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Those would be best done in the funeral home before everyone carpools to the church.
The mass is solemn and formal, and no private tributes are read, typically. Family can participate in the readings and songs, but that's similar to being a pall bearer: you are ceremonially involved.
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11 minutes ago, Arctic Mama said:
It is so individual, it’s true. I dislike the connotation that one must change their default preference or appearance to match a socially acceptable fashion, especially when it comes to a ascribed trait and not something they actively chose to have. That’s my issue with the grooming trends - when it becomes another way to pressure or belittle someone who doesn’t conform.
A naturally hairy woman or naturally hairless man who doesn’t want to change that shouldn’t be pressured or compelled to, or slighted when they don’t.
You know what I'd really like to see an end to? Earring as standard. I don't mind earrings but I wish people didn't ask my kid when she's getting pierced. What a bizarre question! Except it isn't, because in our culture women are assumed to have piercings.
I'd prefer a world where everyone was free to wear as much facial / body jewelry as they like, but it wasn't the DEFAULT that all women get pierced.
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13 hours ago, Corraleno said:
Not to mention the fact that the practice originated in porn culture...
I had no idea this was even a thing (beyond just a regular "bikini trim") until I read an article that interviewed a bunch of college guys, many of whom said they thought pubic hair on a woman was "totally disgusting" and they would not even consider having sex with a girl who wasn't clean-shaven. I find it incredibly creepy that porn has convinced so many men that the natural bodies of sexually mature women are "disgusting" to the extent that they can only be turned on if their partner's genitals look like a 12 year old girl.
I agree with you, but, to be fair.... most women have been shaving their armpits far longer than most women have been removing pubic hair, even women who don't go out in sleeveless clothing. I think those guys would also express disgust at hairy women armpits. And women remove facial hair. Heck, I've had my eyebrows waxes, and I liked the effect. Women and body hair is all tied up with ideas about hygiene, and femininity. And of course there is a marketing / business angle too.
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4 hours ago, TechWife said:
I do know a few typical men with beards. But, I have noticed a weird trend. There is a small segment of homeschoolers around here that are "reformed," whether they be Baptist, Presbyterian, or generic, non-denominational. Among these men, they are clean shaven until they marry, then they grow a beard. It seems very Amish to me. I don't know any of them well enough to ask them if they grew a beard because they married or if they just decided to grow one. Does anyone else see this in their area?
Gotta admit I stopped shaving my legs more than once in a blue moon after I got married.....
But not shaving legs is laziess, GROWING a beard isn't, right? They have to groom it, shape it, clean it. Hopefully.
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1 hour ago, rose said:
My dh has a beard down to his mid chest. It's basically capped out in length. When he first started growing it really long, about 12 years ago, people would make rude comments about it. Now he gets people complimenting it because it's trendy. Women sometimes even compliment it, even in front of me. Who does that? I can't imagine complimenting another woman's husband on his appearance, especially in front of her.
Random trivia for the day... Did you know that Russia at one point had a beard tax? Tsar Peter I instituted the tax in order to pressure the culture to conform to European ideals.
My 14 yo ds is working on a beard. It's blond but it's definitely there. It makes him look older. He's says he's never going to trim it ever. Power to him!
Most of our friends have full beards. We're also in a city that has a very dense Sikh population. The men as a rule have long beards. I'm really used to it. Now sometimes when I see men in public without a beard I sometimes do a bit of a double take. I find it effeminate. I don't mean that with judgment though.
Beards are not to my tastes, but, I never mean to imply they are bad. Same as you. Its' OK either way, truly. I know ONE guy with a beard and I think, ewwww. Two guys, now that i think of it. But I bet if it was common in my circle / family, I bet I'd feel very differently. If my dad had a beard growing up I'm sure I"d feel different. It's very subjective.
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2 hours ago, hjffkj said:
How exactly can you understand that they do it for them and still roll your eyes? Those two things don't really seem compatible. The eye rolling suggests you think they are lying about their intentions so really you don't get it.
The idea that they did the exact same thing as their peers all coincidentally "for me" is what makes me roll my eyes.
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2 hours ago, 6packofun said:
Women have to be hairless down there? LOL I didn't realize so-called independent women were still bowing to the porn industry and the men who run it or get their preferences from it.
Anyway, another great thing about marriage. Only one other person to please. And my dh wears facial hair--and has for quite a while--because we both like it. :)
It really & truly is common for women these days to be hairless or very very closely trimmed. And, exactly like wearing make-up, they alllll say "I do it for me, not for him / not to impress men".
Which, sure. I get that. But I also roll my eyes.
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2 hours ago, gardenmom5 said:
tbh- unless it's your dh, why does it matter? as long as they're clean . . .
it's just a fashion - like long or short hair for women.
My dad grew a beard, and my grandmother would tell me to shave it off while he slept. she'd also tell me to cut my brother's shoulder length hair while he slept. (uh -no.)
I have one son with a beard - he's wavered with or without, but I think he's settled on with. he keeps it neatly trimmed (and shaves his throat). I've never felt it was my place to say anything - it's clean and neat and he's an adult. he looks older with a beard - which helps with his baby face and being taken seriously.
It doesn't matter, but, I have an opinion anyway... same as 99% of what gets discussed here LOL
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1 hour ago, unsinkable said:
Do you raise chickens? I am curious why you picked your new name.
The new forums just befuddled me :) We are looking to get chickens. I have the land just not the coop yet. And my 10 year old tells me that Buff Orpingtons are the "labrador retrievers of chickens" so seems like a safe bet!
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21 minutes ago, Tsuga said:
I guess when testosterone goes out of style?
Beards grow on their faces. Shaving is the fashion, but I wouldn't call "hair growing out of an adult male human's face" a "thing".
My partner can't really grow much of a beard so he's eager for clean-shaven to come in style again. I'll let you know!
Do you actually think that beards are the default and shaved men are atypical? Do you live in a Millenium-heavy town?
It is extremely fashionable for guys in their late 20s-mid 30s to have beards these days. When I was that age, it wasn't. I know it's all just what's in fashion. -
Is this beard thing going to be a multi-decade thing, do you think?
I was hoping the "women must be hairless down there" thing was a fad but it appears to be around for the long haul, and I'm curious where the beard thing is headed.
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I used to be Poppy
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So many people in this forum are adamantly anti-CPS because they feel its too invasive, but, I don't believe it. I feel like these poor kids were allowed to stay with abusers and it's awful. To see CPS come and leave, when you are hurt and hungry.... it is heartbreaking to think about.
(I'm an older poster working on getting my ID back- sorry!)
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