I'm a little late to this post, but I came out of the "nervous new parent hiding zone" because I understand what you're going through. My daughter, formerly a great student, began having trouble midway through her 10th grade year with anxiety and depression. Forcing her to school became an increasing nightmare, and it has been a struggle to work with psychology and counseling. Grades suffered, it was hard to get her to school daily, we missed school from hospital time and doctor's appointments, we had some panic issues- all totally unexpected and confusing! After a horrific junior year and a school administration that is clearly ill-equipped to deal with any real problems, she has started coming out of her shell this summer.
We went to sign her up and immediately hit a snag with administration. She was in the hospital during the school SAT's last year, and so wasn't a "Senior," even though she had more than enough credits. I had to call the state school board and argue with the counseling office. They could not understand why it would bother her to have junior status, and claimed she could not take it on her own (which we would have happily dealt with had we known). The state did not have any problem, the school was a total mess.
So, with only 3.5 credits remaining, I'm seriously thinking I should just pull her, let her finish those through home schooling this fall and start early into the community college in the spring, whom we have spoken to. For the first time in a long time, she's excited about learning and she and I both like the idea of T4L. However, I worry if this will negatively affect her in any way. I also feel quite angry at myself that I didn't think to do this earlier.
One thing I'm coming to feel is that listening to others tell me she just has to "tough it out" was a huge mistake. I wish that I had not waited so long. If you truly feel your daughter will do better continuing home schooling, if she won't have to dread a situation she can't handle at this point daily, do it. Maybe talk to the current principal before trying T4L and see if they have suggestions before you change? Talk to the public schools, find out what she would need if she is ready to go later, and let her thoughts and concerns guide you.
Good Luck!
