DH mentioned adopting, and I'm like, "But we have frozen embryos!" That's when I went to the docs to get their advice. My fertility doctor is one of the best in the world, and he is so excited for me. He pointed out that my embryos are from my 39 year old eggs and DH 38 year old sperm. DH is a year younger than I. My doctor also pointed out that he can do the chromosomal testing on the embryos, however he really doesn't find it necessary since we have our healthy DS age 5 from the same day transfer as the cryopreservation. It is a little mind-boggling, but to think of the magnitude that those little glass straws hold everytime I look at my precious 5 year old ds. I can't not give them a chance. Even with many on this thread voicing their well-informed based upon experience concerns, my heart still tells me to go for it. Someone asked about my family reproductive history, so here goes: My oldest sister had my amazingly talented, beautiful and hilariously funny niece at age 43, she is now 9 years old. My maternal grandmother had her last daughter in her forties. My maternal great-grandmother had my grandmother when she was 43. Born in 1925, Granny is now 91! My maternal grandfather's sister "Aunt D" had her last daughter at 46. My mom is a healthy 72, and she is on board with a possible 9th grandchild. BTW, our infertility factor is all male factor because DH had very low sperm count. I became pregnant quite easily during my first marriage with DS #1 when I was 28 years old. I'm not saying I would have been able to become pregnant naturally at my age if we did not have his male factor infertility, but there is a history of many women in my family becoming pregnant in their mid forties. These are just the ones I know about, and we have a huge extended family!

Thank you so much! :rolleyes:

Thanks for this opinion! This is what it boils down to. Of course it's normal to debate this very big decision-making process, but I keep coming back to this. I will regret not trying, and it is now or never.

This is a very good question. It took us 7 years to finally have DS, who is now 5. I wish it had not taken so long, but infertility is not for the faint of heart. By the time he was born, DS #1 was about to turn 12! So, yes, so much for the fairytale of having two children who play together all the time and share similar experiences. I would love for DS #2 to have a younger sibling from the frozen embryos, and I have thought long and hard about a 5.5 year age difference. I am 5.5 years younger than my oldest sister and she is my main champion during this decision right now. I love her so much! Although I may not have been super close with my oldest sis when we were children, I sure don't know what I would do without her now! I feel as if I will regret it if I do not try. It will haunt me forever. Everytime I see moms at the grocery store with two children a few years apart I long for this. It would be amazing if one of our embryos were to become another loving member of our family. As my OBGYN said, they are just there (in the lab) waiting for me! She is not the doctor who would be transferring them, she would just be my OB, but she is all for it! I was afraid my docs would warn me against this decision to try to become pregnant, but I left both docs' offices feeling more and more as if this is the right thing to do in our life and for our family. I don't feel my family is complete. My teenager does have a different father, and he spends a lot of time at his father's house lately since his dad just broke up with his gf. We live in the same neighborhood, about 5 minutes apart. DS #1 has a job and will be a senior in HS next year. We have his college plans all laid out and the money is saved in a 529 college savings plan. My ex is very attentive to his needs, as am I. The answer is YES, I want another child very much! I have about a 50% chance of 1 out of the 3 remaining embryos becoming a full term pregnancy. I have been down the infertility road so much, though, that if it is not meant to be I will be sad, but not broken. However, I will have regrets if I do not try.

There are 2 in one cryopreserved glass straw, and 1 last one in a last glass straw. The 2 are first to transfer. If not pregnant, we might try the last one. I would stop there.

DH is the one who brought it up because I told him we need to decide what we are doing with the frozen embryos. Now, I can't get it out of my mind! We've talked a lot and met with all the doctors, so I am ready. It's now or never.

I am 46, recently given the greenlight by both of my doctors to try to become pregnant. My DH and I have 3 frozen embryos at the fertility lab, and I can't bring myself to "dispose" of them otherwise. We have a 17 year old son and a 5 year old son. Our 5 year old was conceived via IVF, and he is a treasure. I would love to give him a younger sibling!