Thank you ladies so much! She is already hearing "labels" of not trying hard enough, not paying attention etc. I will remind DH of that - defiantly don't want her thinking of herself that way. I'm ordering the book you recommended maize & hearing about your sister huge help - trying not to look back at all these wasted years of her struggling.... and focus on next steps & better now than having it go on. I think the dyslexia is certain - will see what we can find to help while waiting for testing. This board is amazing! Thank you!

Oh Thank you so much!!! In tears as I sit here googling all the signs of dyslexia in teens - she has almost every one of them! Even not getting "puns" and having us explain jokes. Feel sick - her sport success has been a huge distraction. We've been telling ourselves and her how each person has their own strengths and work with them etc. Her sister and brother are hopeless athletically so it's been her way to shine while getting by academically. Will see if we can get her tested by the school asap or see cost of doing it privately over the Christmas break. Very scary - as much as knowing what has been going on will be key I will also be dealing with DH who doesn't want her labeled and then daunting road ahead of how to help her. Thank you so much for your quick insightful responses!!

DD1 is in 8th grade and writing level is about 4th grade level. She is in public school regular classes (has a twin same school but in all gifted classes) DD1 is our athletic child excels in her sport -- academics have always been a struggle. In school assignments she panics and is so sweet that the teachers or classmates have been "helping" her so much that they seem to be actually doing the work for her. At home she cries doing homework and we all having been helping one hw assignment at a time her but she isn't progressing / retaining. She will be starting early release next semester where she will go to school half day and do two subjects at home. This will give us time for me to work with her one on one at home while keeping her in school with twin for the things she loves. Hoping to build her skill set and confidence before starting high school next year. Feel awful I missed just how far behind she is! How much can you catch up? Reading below level too but not so bad that she fails anything What program would you recommend we do? I've ben looking at the WWS1 ... Is it ok for older children? Any other programs ? Where would you start? Thank you for reading - feeling overwhelmed and just sick we've let her get so far behind.