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I think they're cute. It's hard to tell from the pictures, but they look like toys for little kids who like to imitate and pretend. They don't look sturdy enough for bigger kids.
I just don't think "play" -- inside or out -- *has* to have a purpose or an excuse -- educational or otherwise. If the kids have fun with something like that and you can afford it -- and want to buy it -- why not? Doesn't have to be because of bad weather or good weather or anything else. Just "fun" -- and not dangerous! -- would be good enough, I should think.
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If you tell someone you will buy something from them and then you find a better deal, is it wrong to tell them you don't want it anymore if you haven't sent them payment yet?
Thanks for honest answers!
That's a tuffie -- because I'm *so* cheap! But I'm afraid I have to agree with most of the others and say it would be wrong to back out on the deal.
I was thinking that you could ask them if they have other offers in the works, or if it would be a real mess if you backed out, but thinking about it some more, I don't think that would be right, either. You've already agreed to the "deal" so it wouldn't be right to make them defend or justify why you should to ahead with what you already agreed. It might put them on the spot to where they felt the "right" thing would be to let you out of the agreement, even though they don't have anyone else interested, or had made special arrangements for you, etc., etc.
But I agree this would be really, really tough -- especially if the second deal is a *lot* better. Best of luck to you.
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It would be so nice to have some help when he is home, but it just isn't going to happen. They try to get through it together while I sleep in or maybe go to town by myself. But I never expect much to be done when I get back.
Sometimes it's just because he's so intimidated by what we're studying that he thinks he can't understand it -- which, of course, he could if he would step back for a moment and relax a bit.
Mostly, though, I think they just get off into that "male bonding" thing and talk about gross "guy stuff" -- I don't worry about it too much. There's plenty of time to catch up later.
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See the links I posted. Even the artists are supporting it. So it's not rationalizing anything, even the artists agree with us.
Which doesn't make it legal to copy the CDs. Yes, you are rationalizing. You want to copy CDs and you're looking for an excuse to circumvent the fact that it's illegal -- something to make it "okay."
It isn't okay.
A lot of people are doing it, too, and have been for a long time. That doesn't make it okay, either.
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Ahh I was hoping someone would bring up the artist. No, the Artist is NOT being robbed of royalties!!
Which doesn't make it any less illegal to copy the CDs. It's simply another attempt to rationalize doing something that's illegal and unethical.
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If purchasing something and making back-up CDs doesn't rob the artist of royalties then how does purchasing something and then making a copy of someone else's identical CD rob the artist of anything?
The difference is one is illegal and one isn't. You could have made a back-up, but you didn't. You want to get a retroactive backup from a friend, but it doesn't work that way. The artist is being deprived of income because you lost your original CD(s) and instead of buying new ones, you want copies from a friend.
There is very little likelihood that the "copyright police" will be visiting your house to collect from you. The only ones who will know what's happened are you and your friend. There are all kinds of rationalizations and arguments that can be used to try to make it okay.
There's only one reason it's not: it's illegal.
Trust me, I definitely feel your pain. No one is made of money, and sometimes making the right decision is really tough when money's tight and you've lost something expensive. But all the mental gymnastics in the world don't change the true reality of this particular situation.
Hope this works out for you in a way you're happy with.
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There is no grey area in this respect, and it cannot be rationalized. It's illegal and unethical. I don't do it and I make sure my son doesn't do it, either.
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I understand how frustrated you are, but I don't see how his behavior will be any different in PS than it is at home. He'll be sneaky there, too. And probably a whole bunch of other things you (and he) haven't even thought of yet.
It looks like you're expecting him to work independently and he's either not ready or doesn't want to. If he's not self-driven, you need to hold him accountable on a daily basis.
I wouldn't reward lying and sneaking around with chocolate!
Sounds to me like you've got too much on your plate if you don't have time to at least make sure he's getting done what he's supposed to -- and what he says he is doing. Something's definitely got to give, but I don't think PS is the solution you're looking for.
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The fact that you like the people at this company doesn't have anything to do with the professional relationship -- or lack thereof. If they are so busy that they can't answer emails, telephone calls, or pay you on time, I wouldn't work for them anymore.
I wouldn't make a grand exit -- I would just not accept any more work from them. If you send an ultimatum, they might use that as personal justification to hold payment even longer.
If you're working for the fun of it, the fact that you like these people might be important. If you're working for the money, and it is not forthcoming, there's your answer right there.
Good luck.
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The first thing I do with new CDs is make a copy of them *for our personal use.* They are so easily scratched and unusable, I'm still trying to figure out why this format is such a good idea. I've got 8-tracks that still play, but CDs that don't work right out of the box.
We don't make copies for family or friends and we don't ask them to do that for us. It doesn't have anything to do with whether "no one is going to come knocking on your door over it." It has to do with the fact that it's wrong -- and illegal.
Apparently, amongst my son's friends, they do quite a bit of copying CDs and exchanging them. He isn't allowed to copy CDs for his friends or accept copies from them. He understands why. He doesn't like it, but he understands it.
I'm not holding out a lot of hope that he'll stand by this when he's out on his own. I'm pretty sure the "everyone does it" and "no one will catch us" mentality will take over. But I *am* hoping that sometime somewhere he will remember that "the right thing isn't always the easy thing."
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We keep lonely socks forever. Tried throwing them out, but their buddy always showed up after that.
When it gets to the point where there are more lonely socks than happy ones, we put them in with the dusters.
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but.will.not.drink.castor oil - ick
Oh, you don't have to drink it! Send Sweetie to the store to buy it, get up and go to the phone to call your Mom to tell her that you're giving in -- and *SPLAT*!
Things will move along nicely after that. ;-)
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I dunno -- they call it "Speed Weeks" for a reason. It won't be over until the 500. Tomorrow is qualifying -- some die hards might consider that a "don't miss."
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I wouldn't hesitate to shoot it. Even if you get him to move along to someone else's house, he could hurt someone there. Taking him to a vet to have him put down would be preferable, but if he's aggressive, I don't want to get hurt trying to round him up. And if he *is* aggressive, he needs to go.
I'm an animal lover and we have all kinds of critters here and take in strays all the time. But if they can't get along, they're out -- one way or another.
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I initially assigned a certain number of pages, but lately I haven't had to do that. My recovering reluctant reader is doing a good job of getting in and getting it done. I've noticed he's actually reading more each day on his own than he would if I were assigning pages.
We haven't advanced to free reading yet. I'm hoping to next year, but I don't want to push him too hard. He's not devouring books yet, but he's definitely not fighting me on it anymore and I want to move in on him slowly.
I knew we were making progress when he started asking me if he could do reading before math, rather than the other way around. :-)
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<shrug> He was two years behind grade level when I took him *out* of public school, so we surely couldn't be doing worse than that!
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Taekwondo for about two years. Absolutely wonderful for him. And bringing home the hardware from the tournaments doesn't hurt, either.
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I love Google, but surprising enough most of the hits to my websites come from Yahoo. Pretty amazing, since no one seems to use it. LOL!!!
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Oh, Kate, and those of us who live in the south cringe over the thought of living on the San Andreas fault line, or with all the wild fires and mud slides that California endures. My husband has a cousin living out there and I think of them every time there's another round of menacing weather. We think of other peoples' weather as scary, because it's foreign to us; but it's the mundane for them. I bet you don't give a second thought to most earthquake activity, but we'd be completely freaked out by just the thought of it....
Regena
I'm not Kate, but --
That stuff in the news is in southern California. Up north, like in Sacramento, you don't have all the mudslides, etc. We had a few earthquakes and some cracks in the walls, buildings swaying, that sort of thing. But nothing like they do in the south.
Oh -- and floods.
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This is why I asked! I was born and raised here and really just didn't know!
I completely understood where you were coming from. I didn't "get it" either -- until the roof of the neighbor's shed was up in that big tree -- LOL!!
Did you ever get it done?? That is astonishing that people made fun of you! "Oh that silly CA girl.." !!Nope. We used the hole for the stuff that was stripped out of this house when we were remodeling it and filled it back up. There were all kinds of problems with it, anyway, including the fact that it could have been used as a swimming pool six months out of the year. ;-)
And I'm very careful about mentioning that I'm from California. After that, you're wrong no matter what you say. So I tell 'em I was born in Idaho, and leave the California part out.
Sooo what do you do? I mean this is scary stuff to me, but I live in the burbs with no country living for quite a ways away from me. Wow, just...wow~!All I can do is watch. That's really it. If I have a place to run to, and can do it safely, I do. I was only five minutes ahead of one last year.
We have a culvert -- yuck -- and a low spot in the yard that the "experts" tell us to hide in. We had a huge box of stuff in that spot two weeks ago when we had straight line winds and that stuff ended up all over the property, so we decided maybe we wouldn't do that! LOL! Although, it *was* all still here -- not two counties over.
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I wish we could ask the dinosaurs what they thought about global warming and climate change.
While I don't think it would hurt us to pay attention and live more responsibly -- for economic reasons, if nothing else -- I can't believe that mankind can realistically be blamed for the changes that people are noticing. I just don't think we're that important.
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What an awful mess you are in.
We had the same kind of thing with my mother, but hubby and I are a great team so even though we were constantly on edge, it didn't hurt our relationship. We thought we were doing her a favor -- sheesh.
She was horrible to my guys. Hubby was busting butt to do things for her and she was never satisfied -- it was never good enough. And she treated my son like dirt. He walked past her house coming down the drive from the school bus and she was standing out in the yard. He said, "Hi, Grandma!" and smiled and waved -- and she totally ignored him. I probably wouldn't have believed it myself if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes. He was such a sweet little kid -- grrrr. That was the day I told him he didn't have to be nice to Grandma anymore -- he could just ignore her.
It went on like that for a few more months and we asked her to leave. She wouldn't, so we did. It was *not* easy and we took a financial hit that we are still dealing with -- everything we had was in that place. But there was no reasoning with her and it wasn't worth it. I haven't spoken to her in over eight years, even though she lives less than ten miles away. And I haven't regretted it for a minute.
Our situation was aggravated by the fact that she's an alcoholic, but I take it that's not a problem you are dealing with since you don't mention it.
The others are right -- you are not the problem. Your mother is. Just do what you have to do to take care of your family -- and you being gone isn't it.
I sincerely hope you get this worked out.
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Hi, Kate --
As a former Sacramento girl, I would much rather ride through an earthquake than a tornado. Weather's nicer out there, too -- but you can keep the taxes. ;-)
In our case, there's just no where to go, unless you're watching the storms and see that something is coming your way and you can go some place where it *isn't* going. We had to do that three times last spring. The storm was going straight north -- so we ran over to the town in the east and camped at Taco Bell for a few hours.
When we moved here, we had no idea what we were getting into. Two years later, a tornado came through and leveled several of the major businesses in the area, not to mention many homes. A few months later, one of my neighbors, who has lived here for years, asked *me* where to go if a tornado threatens!
Tornadoes and spiders are the only things my son is terrified of, so I have to keep my cool and act like everything's okay -- and watch watch watch.
I did have the bulldozers come out to dig me a hole for a "root cellar" and everyone made fun of me. I tried for two years to hire someone to come out and do the work to finish it and couldn't get a single person or company to do the work -- but that's not unusual around here.
The other thing to keep in mind is that, out here, no one has regular TV -- it's satellite or nothing. So once the weather gets really bed, the signal is blocked by the clouds and you don't know what's going on. I haven't found a radio yet that will get a decent signal at my house no matter what the weather. With the trees and hills, if one ever hit here, I wouldn't know it until after the house was gone.
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Hi, Stacy --
I've yet to change a chicken-killer's mind by any means. We don't have a local animal shelter here, and about once a month a new dog shows up. The ones I had to get rid of were all beautiful dogs and I was heart sick -- but they all went to homes where they were better suited.
And the whole thing was so upsetting for my son. Our chickens were pets and he was upset that they were dead and that the dogs were being hollered at, and shot with BB guns and beaten with the dead chickens. One fooled me into thinking she had stopped for almost two months before my son found her helping herself to another snack. I'm always willing to do whatever needs to be done, as long as it works. But it didn't work and was just horrible.
It wasn't good for us, it wasn't good for the dogs, and it certainly wasn't good for the chickens. :-(
I hope you find a solution that works for all of you!
Warning: I am going to KILL the kids at the computer next to me at the library.
in General Education Discussion Board
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Our library has so many restrictions on the computers, it's hardly worth the trip. One person, one hour, no downloads. I guess that's why there aren't too many school kids there in the afternoons.
I have gone in the mornings and early afternoons and left early. Several times there were families of homeschoolers with very small children running around, screaming, yelling, pulling books off the shelves and throwing them on the floor. What were the parents doing? Giving me that, "Isn't she *adorable*??" look. No one was shushing them -- the librarian was an aunt or something.
Poorly behaved children are not limited to those who aren't being supervised and they aren't limited to those in public school, either.
I sometimes wonder if Mom knew how these kids had talked to you if she would be outraged or embarrassed. I would hope so, but I sincerely doubt it.