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  1. Not to start an argument here, but I always say excuse me when I have to pass someone in aisle. And yes, a lot of the time people look at me like I have lost my mind. Nevertheless, I still say it every time. Just to smile and wait isn't going to work.

     

    So you didn't say excuse me to the kids, and after she made you aware of it you told her it's her job to teach her kids to stay out of the way? Kids are oblivious to many things, they may not have known they were in your way. I know when I take my kids to the grocery store, especially ds6 seems to be in his own little world.

     

    As the pp poster said, she probably would have been upset if I said anything, who knows? The point is, you probably keep an eye on your ds and direct him and don't puff yourself up to teach another adult manners when your own children need looking after instead.

     

    I have said "excuse me" hundreds of times. I still say yes ma'am, no ma'am, yes sir, no sir to everyone. That's how I was raised. Where I live - is another story. I asked a woman who grew up here about this. She said it's because the previous generation of parents were so strict, that this generation will not teach manners at all - whatsoever. I don't know. I do know that I have given up saying excuse me to children. I'd rather wait and smile.

  2. I return what is left, then replace what I borrowed with new. I can't imagine keeping what is left. What if they need it before I get to the store?

     

    I also like to take over some of what I'm baking as a "thank you".

     

    I like to do this too, unfortunately our neighbors have all kinds of food allergies so I can't do that. Yesterday I was making lemon cake and didn't have enough lemons. I borrowed two from our neighbor, made the cake, and went to the store to replace them. But they don't do flour, eggs, sugar, etc. I felt like a bum for not sharing with them. :glare:

  3. I just got into an argument with a female at the grocery store. She was walking past the aisle and her three little ones pushing their own little mini carts were blocking the aisle. So I stood there and waited. Dd's were both at my sides. She stood there waiting for them but didn't say anything at first. They were in a "traffic jam" and she finally told them to move out of the way for "the lady". I swear I wasn't going to say anything - I just smiled at them all. After they moved, she said, "If you just would have said excuse me, they would have moved for you", in a really snotty voice. I said, "Their your kids, that's your job to teach them, not mine." It went down from there. I finally told her "talk to the hand lady" and walked off.

     

    Apparently, we are all supposed to put up with her rude children though she had the audacity to think she had the right to teach me manners. I can't tell you how many times I've said "excuse me" in the grocery store and people look at me like I have a third eye in the middle of my forehead. So now I just smile and wait.

     

    Just needed to vent. I hate confrontations and will never usually start one, but I sure won't back away from one either. I go out of my way to be kind to people and I just don't understand why some people think we are all here to bow down to them.

  4. As usual Denise you are able to calm my fears. I'll go with ice pick headaches until something else happens for me to think otherwise.

     

    :grouphug: I am so sorry. It is awful having unknown things to make us moms worry. I hope it is just a sinus infection.

     

    :grouphug: Thank you, it surely is awful, and I hope you can get to the bottom of this for your dd soon.

     

    You know I forgot I was talking to youngest dd's orthodontist yesterday and he reminded me that she had headaches when her alignment was off. Older dd mentioned that her wisdom teeth were coming in. I made an appt for her to be checked out, and she is a teeth clencher, as a pp mentioned.

     

    Could your daughter possibly have any molars coming in?

  5. DH had been trying to talk me into home schooling since oldest was in Kindergarten. I had never even heard of home schooling before he brought it up. The private school where dd was thriving ended up going belly up when she was in third grade. We put her in another private school, but she was having headaches and stomach aches every day. There were a few girls who were bullying her. She was unable to make any new friends. I volunteered so much time there I was able to see a lot of things that made me uncomfortable. She was bored with the curriculum as well. The teacher had her teach the jingles to the class from Shurley English every day, along with the question and answer flow, which she knew backwards and forwards. She finished the quarter and I removed her.

     

    I was so afraid and sure I was going to ruin her education. Thankfully my best friend had been her second grade teacher and she gave me everything we needed to continue a classical curriculum. I didn't even know what that was. She showed me her scope and sequence and her lesson plans and said you can do it!

     

    Here we are 8 years later and loving it!

  6. When oldest dd had just turned 5, I put her in Kindergarten at the nearby elementary school. She was always quite independent and didn't even want me to walk her to her class the first day of school. One day during the third week of school I went to pick her up. I watched all six K classes walk to the cafeteria where the parents waited to take home their children. My daughter wasn't there! The old biddy teacher walked at the front of the line and didn't notice my daughter walk off down the hall.

     

    After no help from her, I ran to the office to find the principal. I was so panicked, the secretary took one look at me and asked what was wrong. I couldn't draw in enough air to speak. I was hyperventilating. Somehow I got out that my child was missing.

     

    About 1/2 an hour later, the principal found her at the back of a school bus. She wanted to ride with the other kids. :svengo: Each child wore a picture of a school bus or car at the end of the day, so anyone would know with one quick glance where they belonged. Apparently, the bus driver never checked and the teacher never knew she was gone.

     

    I put her in private school the next day.

  7. I like that BJU has writing mingled in in chapter format with English, however, I'm not sure I like the process of it. Not the topics, the process. It seems to really break it down to the point that it kills writing.

     

    Does anyone use something else for writing along with BJU English (Writing Strands perhaps?) instead of BJU's writing chapters?

     

    Otherwise, do you shorten these writing lessons? The whole re-writing in it is sooo much. First it's the events, then writing it, then adding details then spelling. I mean the story and fun of it has been killed.

     

    We brainstorm/plan/draft the first day, then edit/proofread the second day, then publish the third day.

  8. First, let me say that we do this with our older daughters. Yours are really young.

     

    We instituted allowance and it is directly tied to chores. We teach them that if you work, you get paid. If dh does not do all of his assigned duties, he will probably get a warning, but would be fired if he continued to neglect it. So they will also get a warning if they have not done all of their chores, but then lose the whole allowance if they are reminded again. It's only happened to 12 yo dd once. Dd's have gotten really good at managing their money and saving some on the side. They have very few chores during the week. Make beds, and then alternate washing dishes/take out trash. On Sundays, the three of us divvy up the chores. It's saved us money as they don't ask for half as much as they used to and know they are expected to pay for extras out of their allowance.

     

    If company's coming, all bets are off, and we all do what's needed to be done, no matter what day of the week it is.

  9. If your son doesn't want to play with this boy, your son is old enough to say "I don't feel like playing right now" when the boy comes looking for him. Leave it up to your son. Maybe sometimes he'll decide he's bored and he DOES want to play with that boy. Maybe other times he'll tell him "I don't feel like playing." Maybe down the road they'll drift apart from each other naturally. Maybe they'll become better friends. I'm not sure you HAVE to take some drastic step of running interference and "breaking up with" the other family in some official manner on your son's behalf.

     

    :iagree:

    Somewhere along the line I thought I had to be the one to arrange play dates, friends, etc. for my kids. Then one day I was thinking to myself that my mom never.ever.got.involved. It was so much better I think, because I had to learn to deal with personal relationships. I made friends and drifted away from some, but all in all, it was just part of growing up.

     

    I finally gave up my roll as Activity Director 3 years ago. When the girls have problems with their friends, I give them counsel, but they settle it. Sometimes it is really, really hard to bite my tongue though! :tongue_smilie:

  10. Just tell him you used something other than the red wine.

     

    Sometimes a big fat lie can be our best friend. :D

     

    My dh will not eat gravy. He hates gravy. There is No Possible Way that he's going to eat gravy of any color, type, or variety. NEVER.

     

    So I call it sauce.

     

    And he likes it. :tongue_smilie:

     

    Cat

     

    :lol::lol::lol: I laughed right out loud!

  11. The school where ds took the test has received the scores already. We have not received his. So....I decided to make the phone call...I called 6 different times and was told by 6 different operators that the scores would go to the school. I tried to explain that I've done this before with 2 other students and the scores do indeed come to my home and have every other time, but the said I was wrong :cursing:. Six people think I'm crazy or a liar :glare:

     

    I gave up - my blood pressure couldn't take it anymore :angry: Guess we'll keep watching the mailbox.

     

    The school where our dd took the test received their results on Tuesday. The supervisor I spoke with at the CB said to expect ours 3 - 4 business days after that. Nothing today, so hopefully Sat. or Mon. :toetap05:

  12. I am in the 93 percentile, with my index score being 190.

     

    Brought up all my scores, but I know I could have done much better! Critical Reading was a 66, Math was a 57, and Writing Skills was a 67.

     

    No (*) next to my index score, so I'll still hold onto the hope that maybe, just maybe, I'll be the 55,000th person for the National Merit Scholarship :)

     

    You should be very proud of yourself. Did you know you can be in the National Home School Honor Society with a 180 or above. Couldn't hurt to have that on your transcript!

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