A simple way to feel successful is to base it on things we do have control over. If our success is attainable it's helpful to keep trying and feel good. An example would be: Say a child struggles learning and I tend to get ANGRY out loud. I don't always have control over that. I'd like to say I do, but that would be lying at this point. However I can gadge my success not on how many explosions, but on something else that is helpful and lending toward helping my heart. Maybe I could say outloud 5 things I'm grateful for a day. And if I did that I am successful. May look into giving yourself says to succeed and it will eclipse guilt. Sincerely, Becky Jo