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  1. Update: Went to the chiro. He did not call me a single term of endearment the entire time. How's that for the most anticlimactic update ever! :)

  2. This thread is reminding me of Sheldon telling Penny he knows she has a thing for him because (among other things) she always calls him 'sweetie'. She says, "I call everyone Sweetie." He says, 'You Tramp!"

     

    Ha ha. I love that show.

     

    Can't imagine being offended by being called Sweetie or Honey...so I really have nothing to offer except a few lines from BBT.

     

    Just to clarify... I am not offended by him calling me terms of endearment as I have a very good understanding that everyone has his own idea of what is "normal." If you read the rest of my posts that should be pretty apparent. I have not given a reason for why I don't want him to call me these names, and I haven't made a judgment on him for calling me that. Above all, I certainly don't think he "has a thing" for me.

  3. I would go the self-deprecating route. "Dr, I am so glad I found your practice, and I really do believe you are the right chiro for me, however, I'm have this one little quirk that I need to address with you. I have a really hard time when anyone uses a term of endearment, like sweetie or honey, with me. It's totally my thing and I know that you don't mean any harm, but would you mind just using my first name?"

     

     

    That is more my style, I'll probably try to say something like that. Thanks!

  4. Thanks for all of the interesting points of view and good advice. The appointment is tomorrow at 8:30 AM, so we shall see! I'll let you know how he reacts. That is what I'm curious about too.

  5. Worst rudeness I've seen on a plane-

     

    A woman was in my assigned seat because didn't realize there were assigned seats. She refused to get up when I showed her my ticket and let her know she was in my seat. When the flight attendant asked to see her ticket, she told her that she didn't have one. The flight attendant told her she wouldn't be on the plane if she didn't have a ticket. After she refused to produce a ticket, the two flight attendants escorted her to the back of the plane. She was so belligerent that the main flight attendant called the air marshal and walked her off the plane. A police officer was waiting to arrest her when they got off of the plane. She had two young boys with her. :(

  6. Seems your hands are kinda tied, and it is not convenient to get help from anyone else.

     

    I wonder if you could ask for their name, then notify the front desk. Where I worked there was a computer option to deliver a "check-in message" to the member when they checked in. The front desk staff would relay a message like, "This is a friendly reminder to please keep your children off of the equipment."

     

    Or you could start documenting at how many times it happens each time you work, and pass it on to your boss. Even if you don't have their names, it would get the point across to the person that should be concerned about the insurance policy.

  7. I would go the save-face route, i.e., "please call me ___," the first couple times. If it continued, I would be tempted to call him that kind of name back. That said, I'm not sure why it matters what a chiro calls me, as long as it isn't blatantly insulting.

     

     

    It matters to me, but I'm not going to go into the reason. Thanks for the input!

  8. Could you find her membership agreement and show it to to her? "You signed off on this rule on 6/2/2011." Then you could keep documentation by writing the date of the conversation on the back of the agreement. So if it gets out of hand the person can't deny that they've broken the rules. Talk about embarrassing!

  9. I used to work at a gym and I had to kick the same kids out of the room with the equipment in it all the time. I talked to the same parents all the time. I'm not sure what their problem was. I always cited the "very strict insurance policy" and they seemed to get that.

     

    Our policies were very clearly stated on the walls of the gym and on the membership agreement. People simply ignored them to fit their own desires.

     

    I would talk to the owner/manager about making sure whoever sets up the memberships to very clearly state the policy to the new members, and let them know that their child will be asked to leave if they don't adhere to the rules. Maybe there should be a policy where the people get written up with warnings, and then have their membership suspended after a certain number of "strikes," or something.

  10. Some people have difficulty remembering names. This may be especially true for a doctor who sees multiple patients in a day and it may be also that he is focusing on your physical needs which may make it harder for him to remember names quickly. It is possible that he has offended someone in the past by using the wrong name. I'm sorry it bothers you, but those may be some of the reasons he does it. I agree with the pp --either direct and polite, or let it go.

     

    Yeah, you're probably right. It's probably habit like it is for a lot of doctors. I certainly didn't expect him to remember my name after being there for 5 minutes. The reason really doesn't matter to me at all. Thanks for the response!

  11. I guess I don't understand why you don't just say exactly that. "Please don't call me Honey (or Sweetie)." Is there is different approach you want? Because my guess is most people prefer a polite but direct request.

     

    "I don't want to come off as a witch or make him feel like I think he is a sleazeball."

     

    I'm sure you're right. He would probably be fine with a polite but direct request. Thanks!

  12. I've noticed cell phone use in waiting rooms to be increasing, whether it is having extended conversations in a normal or loud tone of voice, or playing games and not silencing the phone. So annoying. It's obvious they are oblivious, or don't care about anyone around them. To me that's rude, but what do I know? I see "no cell phone" signs on some office doors, and while it seems kinda strong when I first look at it, I think it's necessary these days.

  13. This is a simple idea that we got at the homeschool convention last week-end. So far it's working. We have a chart with her responsibilities listed. She gets a plus sign by the chore if she does it with a good attitude, and a minus if she does it with a bad attitude. She has to do the chore either way. "Bad attitude" can encompass many things- whining, pouting, saying "no," not doing the job completely, etc. She gets a ticket for a plus sign and a consequence for a minus sign. The tickets translate to a privilege like staying up late, having a picnic in the yard for dinner, and other FREE privileges, mixed in with some that cost money. We add up the pluses at the end of day so we're not dealing with tickets constantly! She has a plastic box with dividers in it to keep her tickets in. She knows exactly what items on the reward menu that she is "saving up" for, believe me. :)

     

    It has made DD a lot more aware of her attitude. I know some people are against token reward systems, but right now we needed something. I decided to do this because I need to get DD into a routine for homeschooling come fall. We are doing light homeschooling review and she gets pluses for completing her work with a good attitude too. I am really pleased with the results so far.

     

    ETA: I forgot to say that the speaker at the convention gave her kids nickels for pluses and they owed a nickel for a minus. We came up with the ticket system ourselves. We don't take tickets away because she earned them. We give other consequences instead of taking away tickets. If she doesn't put toys away or clean up messes, she gets the toys or crafts supplies taken away, for example. It's more of a natural consequence thing I guess.

  14. It's your decision whether or not to go, and I would be willing to bet that the people in attendance at the wedding will not sway her decision to get married one way or another. I think it depends on what kind of a relationship you want with her.

     

    My sister got married very suddenly a few months ago. I didn't agree with her decision, but I never told her that. Her decisions are not my responsibility. Others had been critical enough already. I was glad when it was all said and done that I had supported my sister and celebrated with her. My sister-in-law, on the other hand, was very cold and rude during that time, because she did not support the marriage. Their relationship was damaged. 3 months into my sister's marriage, my sister's new husband died tragically. I'm glad our relationship was still intact at that time.

     

    If you don't want to have much a relationship with her, I don't blame you. But I wouldn't express my opinion about her decision. Just my perspective.

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