[The results of the godly tomatoes method on kids]

14 hours ago, Clarita said:

My parents weren't abusive about me and my feelings but did encourage me to hid my true feelings or "have a good attitude" about things that I don't like. So, I turned out alright. However, when I was in high school my mom told me she realized that sometimes you have to act angry to get what you want. She said "Forget what I told you about having a good attitude. If you feel wronged if you are upset at what someone did show them you are angry about it." She discovered that when some of her friends would be upset when restaurants messed up orders (like waay too much salt on a dish) and they would be comped or have the dish replaced. 

So sometimes showing people how you really feel isn't a bad or childish thing. I think that was when my mom realized sometimes people just don't know something is wrong or how wrong something is until you become the squeaky wheel. 

yes, I think a parent has to be in tune and discerning enough to know when the "feelings" are based in fact (my brother is actually bullying me)(this food is inedible) or when the kid is just acting spoiled and entitled.  Getting the children involved in acts of service for the greater part of the day/week goes a long way in curbing the emotional roller coaster.  Thinking of others and reminding everyone of the bigger picture gives it all some perspective.

[The results of the godly tomatoes method on kids]

No drama please, I have enough of that teaching theater. Seriously, though, Covid may have forced us together enough for some rethinking of techniques. I'm interested if any staking has backfired, or if new habits have led to more harmony in the home. I think that's maybe the goal?

[The results of the godly tomatoes method on kids]

Hi, I think it's my first post? I haven't been on a message board in 5-6 years!  I was reminded of the book because my youngest needs a lot of supervision in our new neighborhood, and overall it's a great idea to keep her near me!

[The results of the godly tomatoes method on kids]

I found this thread trying to find a story I'd heard on a RGT message board years ago.  How is everyone's parenting going after the pandemic shut down?  I'll have to say, I did actually make a return to the staking and outlasting techniques, and it's paying off in happy campers.