Kuovonne
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No. I do not always stop before crossing railroad tracks. If the crossing has signals and the signals are not on, I assume that it is safe to cross.
I regularly have to cross over railroad tracks. The tracks are right next to an intersection of two busy roads, both of which get backed up with traffic. If everyone stopped at the tracks even when the signals are inactive, it would be annoying and back up traffic even more.
When approaching from one side, when the regular traffic light turns green and RR signal is off, everyone goes through the regular traffic intersection and over the railroad tracks without stopping.
When approaching from the other side, if the RR signal is off and the light is green, everyone continues over the tracks and through the intersection. People slow down if they are turning at the intersection after the RR tracks, but the slow because they are turning, not because of the tracks.
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Is the code of conduct written to apply to people even when they are not at an event of the organization? For example, would parents drinking alcohol in their own homes with their own minor children present be against the code of conduct? If so, the code of conduct is too restrictive and should be rewritten.
I also wonder if the venue selling alcohol was something beyond the organization’s control. Even though the organization booked the venue, they may have no say in what the venue chooses to sell or not sell at concessions.
I think having a code of conduct that applies to spectators is problematic. I would not expect spectators to sign a code of conduct.
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56 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said:
They're the only kind of bears we have here
LOL. The only kind of bears around me are stuffed teddy bears. I have quite a few of them in my life. They do not inspire fear and have actually been helpful at times. Sometimes cuddling a teddy bear can be comforting.
But I would not cuddle a strange teddy bear in the woods. A strange teddy bear alone in the woods with no other people around would be sad/creepy. I would leave it alone, the same as I would do with a live bear.
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33 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said:
Are you scolding me for not caring enough for imaginary men?
Sorry. No. Your post was just an easily quoted one that highlighted a theme across multiple people’s posts—that the question is one of the risks of being attacked. My point was that there are other considerations beyond the risk of being attacked that should play into the choice.
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32 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said:
We all know some men kill and some bears kill.
We all know not all men kill and not all bears kill.
We all know some women kill and not all women kill.I assume we all agree that we won't necessarily know which is which soon enough to avoid being killed.
We also know that a bear will NOT be helpful and should NOT ever be considered friendly.
We also know that some men are both helpful and friendly.
Being assaulted by either a bear or man would be horrible. But why is the existence of the possibility of being attacked the only factor?
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1 hour ago, Laura Corin said:3 hours ago, Kuovonne said:Expand
I have NEVER struck up a casual conversation with a stranger (of any age/gender) when we were the only two people around. (Not counting situations where one of us was performing a job function, such as a night clerk.)
Okay. That's really surprising to me.
Well, I’m almost never in a situation where there is exactly one other human around and that person is a stranger. I don’t go hiking by myself because I do not enjoy hiking. My hobbies have never included solitary activities in sparsely occupied, public places. I’m also an introvert.
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7 minutes ago, Heartstrings said:
at 3 am because she heard a noise outside.
It’s probably an Amazon delivery person getting a jump start on those 4am deliveries. Go back to sleep.
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1 hour ago, Catwoman said:
Hasn't anyone ever struck up a conversation with a man they didn't know, unless they were in a highly populated area?
I have NEVER struck up a casual conversation with a stranger (of any age/gender) when we were the only two people around. (Not counting situations where one of us was performing a job function, such as a night clerk.)
I have had casual conversations with unknown men, including on public transit. I take reasonable precautions during these conversations, and the fact that we were in well-lit, public places is part of those reasonable precautions. I don’t let gender stop me from enjoying the conversation.
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Several people on this thread have commented that the mere presence of a man or men does not necessarily make them feel unsafe.
Has anyone else actually been helped by men who were strangers? I have. Multiple times. It is usually something quick and small, in a well-lit public space, but it is still an act of kindness on the stranger’s part. I have also been helped by women who are strangers. Is being helped by men really that unusual? Or is needing/wanting help from a stranger that rare in and of itself?
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2 minutes ago, SanDiegoMom said:
Public transit is a whole different animal.
Lol. If it were a question of being on a subway with a bear or a man as the only other occupant, would there be any discussion?
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1 hour ago, regentrude said:
I would choose the man, because the probability that he is a normal dude who doesn't want to harm me
I would choose the man, but not because I think he is less likely to harm me than a bear. I would choose the man because I think a man is more likely to be HELPFUL, and I know that the bear will not be helpful. Realistically, the best case scenario with a bear is that the bear will leave you alone. But the best case scenario with the man is either quicker rescue or a fun camping trip (depending on your point of view). (The worst case scenario for both bear and man is the same: a slow, painful death.)
Why do people think of the choice as the lesser of two evils, when one of the choices probably is actually a benefit?
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14 minutes ago, Carrie12345 said:
Her new go-to is to look them dead in the eyes and say, “I’m 16.” Fortunately, she can convincingly pull off passing as a minor to strangers.
Does that line work for her? It didn’t work well for my daughter. But my daughter probably did not say it with as much confidence as yours. Plus, when she actually was 16, my daughter looked much older. Her impression was that the creepy guys didn’t care that she was a minor.
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50 minutes ago, Heartstrings said:1 hour ago, Kuovonne said:Expand
. Does this mean that public transit is less safe for my more fearful daughter? Maybe. But not simply because she is female. If gender alone was the deciding factor, how would you account for our different experiences, given that we are all female?
I would say she is less safe, 100%. Her fearfulness is triggering the “prey” drive in the predatory men that you and your other daughter aren’t triggering. It’s not just being female, it’s female+Fear=potential target.
I agree that being fearful does make one more of a target. But, in our particular cases, I’m not sure she actually was significantly less safe. She was significantly more uncomfortable, but I think her chances of being kidnapped, raped, killed, or similar were still pretty small. (If I felt there was a significant danger, I would not have her ride public transit.) She also only rides public transit in the middle of the day when there are lots of people around, or when traveling with others.
On the other hand, there are also dangers from being overly confident, such as overlooking actual dangers or venturing into more dangerous situations. I have scolded my more confident daughter for riding public transit by herself late at night. (Which is a bit hypocritical of me, since I have also ridden public transit by myself late at night.)
Tangentially related, the person I know in real life who has come to the most harm from “strangers” was a teenage male.
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24 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:
So, what are your actual experiences out with teenage daughters and strange men lately? I have two teen daughters and two young adult men. My young adult men can ride public transport relatively safely here by themselves. My teen daughters have had incidents even when with us. There are real patterns of behavior they experience around “strange” men and they arent wrong to be wary as a result.
Both I and one of my teen daughters are fine riding public transit by ourselves, and have done so in multiple cities.
My other daughter hates riding public transit. She says that the guys on public transit are creepy.
I don’t think that my more fearful daughter is experiencing radically different people from me or her sister. Her sister radiates confidence while she does not, and people respond accordingly. Does this mean that public transit is less safe for my more fearful daughter? Maybe. But not simply because she is female. If gender alone was the deciding factor, how would you account for our different experiences, given that we are all female?
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1 hour ago, Heartstrings said:
When you tell your beautiful 16 year old daughter to be careful leaving work after dark, are you worried about bears or a man?
I don’t think that is a fair comparison. We weren’t worried about a bear because the chance of her encountering a bear when she was leaving work was effectively zero. The chance of her encountering a person who was on drugs was not zero.
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Am I the only one who thinks that the man could be helpful? Does that mean there is something wrong with how I view the world?
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25 minutes ago, athena1277 said:
I’m leaning towards something like one of these:
Of those two, I think the rail fence would be much easier to sew. Far fewer corners to match. If your pieced strips don’t end up the width you planned, it is very still easy to cut them into squares, even if they are slightly larger/smaller squares than originally planned. Any difference in final size can be adjusted by the width of the final border/sashing.
Plus, it is easy to adapt to different numbers of fabrics.
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21 minutes ago, Miss Tick said:
Maybe you know the OP better than I do
All I know about the OP is what she put in her post.
- She is a newbie
- She prefers something without a lot of tiny pieces
- She was thinking of using around 4-6 fabrics chosen by the couple.
25 minutes ago, Miss Tick said:I'm sure she is able to flip through the options people have presented and do her own version of swipe left
Sure she can. However, when I was a newbie quilter, I had a hard time judging how difficult a particular pattern would be just by looking at the finished result, so I thought I’d let her know that this particular design can have challenges that may not be obvious.
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My understanding is that the credit bureaus only look at a monthly snapshot of your credit card to determine utilization, not individual transactions (charges/payments). So having multiple payments per month is fine. Just make sure that when the statement closes, there is a balance that is greater than zero and less than 33%. It does not matter if your balance is temporarily over the 33% utilization rate briefly on a date that is not a snapshot date for the credit bureaus.
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14 hours ago, Miss Tick said:
This isn't a traditional idea at all, but one possibility would be a "pixel quilt" It could be a picture of whatever you want, and all the pieces are squares.
While I think a pixel quilt is a neat idea, it might be a bit hard for a beginner. They tend to take lots of different fabrics, and it can be hard to keep track of which square of fabric goes where. When piecing the little squares, it is really easy to accidentally get left/right and top/bottom mixed up.
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If you like the look of a Double Wedding Ring quilt but think it looks too hard, check out a paper pieced pattern. Paper piecing makes the double wedding ring much easier!
If you want easy and fast, I also recommend a Log Cabin pattern. There are many ways to put together a Log Cabin quilt to get different looks. Have each of them pick a favorite color (make sure the colors look good together). Then each picks 3-4 fabrics in that color. You can google images for inspiration or buy a book.
Another classic look is the Double Irish Chain. It can be pieced in strips so you don’t have to cut all the tiny squares, but it has a lot more corners to match up than a Log Cabin.
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In my experience, wait times are more influenced by how many passports are in the system (and world events) versus whether or not it is a renewal versus a new application.
I would choose applying earlier versus later, all other things being equal. The last times we got passports, one family renewed a passport online and another family member did a “new” application two week later. In those intervening weeks, processing times increased by several weeks. Even though the passport applications were submitted weeks apart, we received them months apart.
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Sleeping
Audiobooks with eyes closed
Suggesting the driver use cruise control
Long-standing driving habits are hard to change, even if the person is interested in changing.
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My family is in the weird situation where we felt the trip was worth it for the family members who went, but is also okay with the fact that we left another family member at home and she completely missed everything, even the partial eclipse. I wish all of us could have seen totality, but if I had to choose again, I would probably make the same choice to split the family.
Totality was amazing. But special effects in movies may have blunted how I feel about amazing.
I found the original bear video
in The Chat Board
Posted
Not what I expected, and I find what he says hard to believe.