Joanne Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I told my family I did not want anyTHING. I work too hard and long at 3 jobs - 2 of which I hate - to want money spent on a birthday present. I wanted a clean house. Respectful attitudes and behavior. Not only did that not happen, the house and attitudes are WORSE. I don't want cards about being a great mom or wife. I want laundry done, dishes washed and no socks on the floor. I want to be given a gift that makes me feel appreciated, loved and HEARD. 43 is ok; but life today stinks like rotten eggs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: Happy birthday. I'm running a cyber load of laundry for you. I'm gonna dry it and put it away, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newlifemom Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: I am sorry and I know how you feel. Hope the rest of your day goes better. Oh and Happy Birthday.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: My birthday is coming up and all I want is a clean house. So I asked for a Cuecat scanner and software. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThriceBlessed Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 HAPPY BIRTHDAY JOANNE :party: You share a birthday with my hubby (44) and my youngest with is 4 today. I pray your day will end much better than it has began. Blessings, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I hear you. I always ask for clean rooms and they think I'm kidding. :grouphug: And Happy Birthday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: Happy Birthday. I'll do a load of cyber laundry. I'll even hang it up inside out and crooked so it will feel like the real deal. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Sorry your birthday isn't much fun, Joanne. I hope it improves later! Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy in Indy Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I take it they've totally ignored your wishes...I'm so sorry. Count me in for a load of laundry. (I'm doing 8 today...what's another??). Have a happy birthday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RebeccaS Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: and Happy Birthday! I can commiserate a bit. No one here remembers my birthdays unless you count my mother.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I wish you a happy birthday. Don't worry. Mine always stink too. I just do something special for myself on another day. hehe :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: Sorry it's been a rough day. Happy Birthday, from a friend who likes you and appreciates your wise words. If you were a couple hundred miles closer I'd pop right over and clean up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Sorry about the house, Joanne, but happy birthday anyway. Do you think that if you sat down and bawled they'd pay attention? Desperate times you know, lol (just kidding, sort of). Tomorrow is my birthday. I ordered Bananagrams to celebrate, lol. Happy birthday, sweetie. Ria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Avila Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I am glad I am not the only one who asks for this for my birthday and other holidays. I am sad that I am not the only one who doesn't get it. :grouphug: and hope your birthday gets better. ETA: Even with bronchitis, count me in for picking up the socks. I think the other ladies have the laundry covered. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I'll do toilets. Happy B-Day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 My dad always used to say that all he wanted for his birthday was peace and quiet. None of us thought that he meant it, even my mom, as far as I know. Now I'm a working, homeschooling mother, and I bet he did mean it. Happy Birthday anyway! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoyfulMama Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Happy birthday Joanne!!! :party: I'm tackling the kitchen - dishes, counters, and even the floor! Do what I do - pile everyone in the car, and give yourself no dishes for dinner - restaurant bound (even take-away is a good option)!!!!:auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanga Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Do what I do - pile everyone in the car, and give yourself no dishes for dinner - restaurant bound (even take-away is a good option)!!!!:auto: Or do what I do and pile everyone in the car, wave goodbye, and enjoy some peace and quiet! Happy Birthday! P.S. I'll do the dusting and vacuuming Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I'm sorry, Joanne. I completely understand what you are saying. You are saying that actions really speak better than words -- or even money in this case. You wanted to be treated nicely, kindly. Besides, you already know you're a great mom, right? :) (that was supposed to be cute, not sarcastic). I think it boils down to it being easier to buy something or write something, but cleaning, putting another person before oneself, etc. are harder -- they require more of a person. I'm sorry you didn't get your birthday wish. I will still send you birthday wishes, though. How about this one? Or, this one? Or this one? or this one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyful Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 Sorry you've had a rough day... :grouphug: Hope the rest of the week will be better! (Or maybe they'll have it figured out for next year... ) Happy Birthday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 One year before kids I had a awful birthday: The only person to get me a present was my cat. And it was big, dead, and under my computer desk - and I stuck my feet on/in it. :ack2: I then walked out of the condo - and the mentally challenged male neighbor was in the hallway stark naked. :confused: Sounds lovely. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 :grouphug: I so understand how you feel. When I say that a clean house, etc. would be the best present ever, why don't they believe me? I dunno. I'll wish you Happy Birthday anyway. Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest janainaz Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Happy Birthday to you - what a bummer!!! Seems so simple, doesn't it? Not asking for money, for cards, for stuff, just some thought! I often ponder at the sink while I do dishes, while I vacuum, while I scrub toilets and AROUND toilets having boys....just wondering what it would feel like to walk through the door and find everything that I do every day already done and to get to enjoy what that would feel like. My husband knows, my sons know, but I would never know. They just don't get it. Unless I hire a maid, I know I will never ever ever ever find out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 {{Joanne}} Happy Birthday. I am so sorry you had a disappointing day. Gee, is your love language "acts of service", by any chance?? I can't come over and clean your house, do your laundry or smack your kids upside the head for you (figuratively, of course) so my birthday gift to you is some affirmation. You are one of my favorite posters. Whenever I see your posts, I ALWAYS open them up to see what you have to say. I respect your intelligence, your work ethic, your perserverence, your faith, your discipline. You are a blessing to your children, your husband and even your ex-husband, even if they don't always see that. You are a blessing to us here on this board. You are a blessing to parents everywhere with your loving, no-nonsense parenting advice. Here's to better days, some peace and rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 I vote you take yourself out to dinner. With just a good book for company. I'm sorry about your non-present; that totally stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tricia Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Amen, on all of the above. But still, Happy, Happy Birthday. So sorry you had a bad day.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry, I hope tomorrow is better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 Happy Birthday to You. Why do birthdays have to be such a pain sometimes???? I'll do your laundry and the dishes! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 One year before kids I had a awful birthday: The only person to get me a present was my cat. And it was big, dead, and under my computer desk - and I stuck my feet on/in it. :ack2: I then walked out of the condo - and the mentally challenged male neighbor was in the hallway stark naked. :confused: So then, two people got you gifts. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 So then, two people got you gifts. :D :rofl: :hurray: :cheers2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted April 16, 2009 Share Posted April 16, 2009 I hear you. I always ask for clean rooms and they think I'm kidding. :grouphug: And Happy Birthday. I get the same reaction. My family would much, much rather buy me something than honor that kind of request. Sigh. And, hey, Happy Birthday, Joanne! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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