Soph the vet Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 This happened to me yesterday. A dear friend from my teens and twenties. She and I rode at the same barn, mucked a lot of stalls together, went to a lot of horse shows. She taught me how to braid manes professionally. Unfortunately, she always had an eating disorder (anorexia). She died at Christmas of 07 and I just found out. She was literally on a horse and died...probable heart issue. She was only 56 and her name was Shelly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Aw, Soph. . . . . . Almost, but not quite. I googled a boyfriend of mine from high school and early college - we were almost engaged at one point - another friend told me she thought she heard he had passed away. It was true. He had lung cancer - which was odd, b/c he never smoked. He left a wife and a very young daughter. It was strange. For about 4 months, I kept thinking, "I could be a widow right now." Oddest feeling I've ever had. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 This happened to me yesterday. A dear friend from my teens and twenties. She and I rode at the same barn, mucked a lot of stalls together, went to a lot of horse shows. She taught me how to braid manes professionally. Unfortunately, she always had an eating disorder (anorexia). She died at Christmas of 07 and I just found out. She was literally on a horse and died...probable heart issue. She was only 56 and her name was Shelly. :grouphug: This must have been a shock! So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacqui in mo Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Yes, I was reading the book Transforming the Difficult Child Workbook and was delighted to find that one of the co authors was a former coworker/friend. I googled to find out more so I could get back in contact with her and found out she died last year of bre@st cancer. It was a stunningly sad feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I am sorry about the death of your friend. How shocking for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I didn't find out by googling, but I found out an old boyfriend had died of a drug overdose. I was his fling with a 'good' girl, instead of the gals he usually hung out with. We didn't last long....and all these years later I sort of feel like I let him down. It is an odd feeling to hear of the death of someone you once knew. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 My husband and I were making an attempt to get back in touch with our high school group, and it was only then that we found out a friend of mine had died. It was pretty heartbreaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Not quite the same, but when I signed up on facebook, I met someone from high school who was the sort of very social person who knows everyone. I found out that my school and church friend Leigh committed suicide a few years ago. She was so intelligent and beautiful and she had two children, it was very very sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 We were googling for info about a guy we knew from HS (me and my best friend from hs). He was her biggest crush other than her hubby. Well, what we found was horrible! He had been murdered by his WIFE! They lived around Richardson, Texas I think, and they had 4 children. She shot him and pushed him out of the truck afterward then told the cops someone had come up and robbed them, shot him and ran off. She pointed the cops in the other direction from where she had pushed him out the truck. That made it even worse because they said with his wounds, it was possible they could've saved him if she hadn't done that. It was a sick, sick feeling. We followed the case after that. She is now in jail for life and the kids live with his father. SO sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm so sorry for you. I have found some interesting info about people, but my worst was finding out an ex-boyfriend is a registered sex offender. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Not googled, but saw in an online newspaper. And it was shocking for me because she was only 27. :( She actually attempted to "steal" my highschool boyfriend for a brief moment in time (she was unsuccessful). A beautiful girl though. I also have found old boyfriends online that were now married and had kids. It is amazing what you can find on white pages and Myspace. Honestly, it is a little scary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wagnfun Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 This happened to me yesterday. A dear friend from my teens and twenties. She and I rode at the same barn, mucked a lot of stalls together, went to a lot of horse shows. She taught me how to braid manes professionally. Unfortunately, she always had an eating disorder (anorexia). She died at Christmas of 07 and I just found out. She was literally on a horse and died...probable heart issue. She was only 56 and her name was Shelly. Yes twice. One was an accident & I felt sad. The other a drug overdose & I was able to trace back over the days it had happened. We'd lost contact & he appeared after 6 months of silence back in my life wanting to "hang out". I knew he was on drugs & I'd recently left that group of friends for that very reason. He was trying to get clean & the weekend I told him no that I didn't want to hang out, he went off the wagon & ODed. I don't blame myself b/c I know his addiction was years long, I just feel like I let him down b/c I should have, beings as I'd been there, I should have done more..... His mom is a great friend of mine today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wide eyes & laughter Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 :grouphug:, Cheryl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katrina Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm so sorry. In answer to your question, my sister just found out on facebook about a dear family friend who went to church and school with us died from cancer a couple of years ago. I'm looking for the appropriate words to say right now and can't find them, but it is a shock when you find out something like that. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I was trying to track down a friend of mine (knew him from middle school to community college, we had summer jobs together, hung out) and found his obit online. He had been dead for 8 years. He was in a car accident on his way to give a speech at a college. He was only 29 but had accomplished many of his dreams. He had modeled for me during our community college days and I had lots of negatives. I made some prints for his folks. I visited them and we had shared some warm memories and tears. He was a wonderful person and I miss him. :grouphug: k Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soph the vet Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 Thanks to all of you for the sentiments. It seems so odd to grieve for someone so long after everyone else already has..probably. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laughing lioness Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Yes. Friends of mine from when I had first moved to NM. We hung out together almost every day, their 2 girls and our oldest 2 were the same age and we were all bibliophiles. We shared books, DVD's, CD's, park time, meals, horseback rides, etc.etc.etc.. Her dh got his pilot's license becausee he traveled a lot for work, doing consulting. They were both killed in a small plane crash and their girls went to live with his parents. Quite a shock. They were both in their late 30's. The second was a very good friend of mine from high school. She was kiilled by a drunk driver on her way to FL with her younger brothers a couple years after high school. She was a beautiful person. I found out a couple years later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyCrazyMama Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 It was a shock.:( She was in her early 40's and died of liver failure.(I don't know what caused it) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Not by googling, but I recently found out that a "surface" friend (more than an aquaintance, but not a good friend) died. She was electrocuted while in the bathtub. However, it's very, very likely she was murdered by her husband. I'm still shocked and heartbroken for her and her kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeaTotaler Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 :grouphug: Sorry to hear about your friend. About this time last year I found out that a former colleague and friend died suddenly from a heart attack. Both of us struggled with infertility and then had a baby three months apart. Since we moved we now live just 2 hours away from their family but the happy reunion I had imagined is no longer possible. I think it's really hard to lose a friend but more so when the person was close to your age. It makes you confront your own mortality and realise how fleeting this life can be. Hope you can take some time to grieve. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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