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S/O of Manners: What are absolute top ten requirements in order?

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S/O means "spin off" of another thread. In this case, she's asking about manners which is a spin off of the thread started by Colleen about the behavior of children at a neighbors home. So Kidshappen is asking what our top manners are that we teach our children, in order of importance. Does that help?

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I don't understand what you're asking. What does s/o mean?


S/O=Spin off from another thread; I think she's asking what are your top 10 requirements when it comes to your children's manners? I'm looking forward to hearing some people's answers as we're looking to establish some house rules and boundaries... :bigear:

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  1. Think of others before yourself
  2. Do not interrupt
  3. Say Please and Thank-you
  4. Respond to others with words, not grunts
  5. Smile
  6. Speak respectfully
  7. hold the doors open for others, esp. women and the elderly
  8. Look people in the eye
  9. Take your dishes to the sink
  10. Ask others if you can do anything to help (which actually is part of no.1. I was just looking for a 10th thing. But really, this is the most important)


You know, this is hard. Not all of our "rules" are manners, kwim? Like, we drill into our kids' heads not to lie -to tell the truth no matter what. But is that a manner? No, it would be in how the truth is spoken and that's an ongoing thing to learn, even into adulthood. So I don't have that listed, but it's very, very high in what we teach our kids. The same is true for "always stand up for what is right". Again, not a manner, but something we teach consistently.

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1. Respect other people's space, property, and speech-ie-don't interrupt, acknowledge someone's effort.


2. Answer when spoken to. My guys had a lot of trouble with this one for some reason.


3. Express oneself politely-this covers please, thank you, no than you etc.


4. Know when seriousness is required-other people's houses, church, class, and when it's OK to play around.


5. "The job of the host is to make his\her guest happy." This covers a lot-learned it from the first grade Pathway readers!


6. Don't do acts intended to attract attention to oneself.


7. Take turns. Always.


8. Cultivate the skill of being a good listener.


I can't think of two more!



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1. Use "Mr." and "Ms./Mrs."+ last name when addressing anyone over the age of about 18.

2. Always make way for those older than you (that includes Mama!); don't push past older people or cut in front of them.

3. Go last if possible (especially at church potlucks - no pushing to the front of the line and piling one's plate as high as it can go)

4. Look people, adults especially, in the eye when talking to them or even just passing (love the teens at church who avoid all eye contact with adults...grrr)

5. See what needs to be done and do it without being asked (ie: when leaving the dinner table pick up little sister's plate as well as your own)

6. Send Thank You notes/cards immediately

7. Do not interrupt an adult unless it is blood, flood or fire

8. Stay and visit with company even if they are not there for you necessarily. No hiding in one's room when visitors are present.

9. "Please" and "thank you" said as much as possible

10. Do what leads to peace!

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We obey our Lord Jesus Christ. (John 3:36; 14:21)

We love and honor one another. (John 13:34; 15:17; Romans 12:10)

We tell the truth. (Colossians 3:9; Ephesians 4:15, 25)

We consider one another’s interests ahead of our own. (Philippians 2:3-4)

We speak quietly and respectfully with one another. (1 Peter 3:8-9)

We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

When someone needs correction, we correct him in love. (2 Timothy 2:24-25; 2 Timothy 3:16)

When someone is sorry, we forgive him. (Ephesians 4:32)

When someone is sad, we comfort him. (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

When someone is happy, we rejoice with him. (Romans 12:15)

When we have something nice to share, we share it. (1 Timothy 6:18)

When we have work to do, we do it without complaining. (Philippians 2:14)

We take care of everything God has given us. (Matthew 25:14-30; 1 Timothy 3:5; 1 Peter 4:10)

We do not make unnecessary work for others. (Philippians 2:3-4; James 2:8)

-When we open something, we close it.

-When we turn something on, we turn it off.

-When we take something out, we put it away.

-When we make a mess, we clean it up.

When we don’t know what to do, we ask. (James 1:5)

When we go out, we act as if we were in this house. (2 Thessalonians 3:7; 1 Peter 2:16)

When we disobey or forget any of the rules, we accept discipline and instruction. (Hebrews 12:11)

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