melissel Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 (edited) inauguration on TV? He's been very interested in the whole race and has watched tons of coverage, and really wanted to watch the speeches and everything today. I, however, am supposed to be working, and he's supposed to be taking care of the kids. Instead, he's watching and they're coming in and out of the office, bored and begging to watch TV/use the computer. At first he told DD3 no, but then didn't prevent her from repeatedly coming and asking me and crying, so I said she could, without realizing that her computer would then break down and require constant work on my part. Then DD6 tired of watching the coverage with him after an hour and a half and he told her she could use her computer too, which then involved lots of work on my part as well. I finally got really mad and went out and said something, so he took the kids upstairs in a huff as Obama's speech was wrapping up. I'm really ticked right now, so this probably comes off more as bashing than it should, but what I really want to know is, am I being unreasonable about this? Should I have instead dropped my work so he could spend a few hours watching the coverage, which was important to him? With this new job, I'm trying to do my work during regular work hours and protect my working time, which has previously had a tendency to bleed out into all day and night, so I was never "off the clock." Nopw this is a new year and a new job and I'm still in training, so I'm trying hard to be more conscientious about it. Plus, it affects all of us badly when I'm working all the time, instead of just the 30 hours per week I'm supposed to. But was this just a bad time to take a stand on the issue, or should he have been paying closer attention to the kids and letting me work? I know he's mad at me now, and I'm surely mad at him, so I'm not sure how to try to close this situation :( Argh! TIA! Edited January 20, 2009 by melissel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 If you guys discussed the situation, and he agreed to keep the kids busy, then no, I think you have every right to be upset. He didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. If there was no discussion and dh didn't know you expected him to watch the kids, then no. It is a momentary bad situation. He had something he really wanted to do and you had some thing you really wanted to do and the kids got caught in the middle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 If you guys discussed the situation, and he agreed to keep the kids busy, then no, I think you have every right to be upset. He didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. If there was no discussion and dh didn't know you expected him to watch the kids, then no. It is a momentary bad situation. He had something he really wanted to do and you had some thing you really wanted to do and the kids got caught in the middle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jumping In Puddles Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Well from 11:30 to 12:30 was the inauguration but the swearing in and the speech was from 12 to 12:30. So if he was watching for hours, then no, it is not unreasonable to expect that he watch the kids. If he wanted to watch for about 1/2 hour then I would say he shouldn't have had much of a problem but maybe needs help in being creative in occupying the kids for that amount of time. My kids were jumping from couch to couch for about a half an hour and I got to watch. My kids are close in age to yours ( 4 and 5) and they can entertain themselves for an hour with a little creativity on my part. Maybe he really doesn't know how to handle that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 If you guys discussed the situation, and he agreed to keep the kids busy, then no, I think you have every right to be upset. He didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. If there was no discussion and dh didn't know you expected him to watch the kids, then no. It is a momentary bad situation. He had something he really wanted to do and you had some thing you really wanted to do and the kids got caught in the middle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jumping In Puddles Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 (edited) oops, double post Edited January 21, 2009 by Jumping In Puddles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 If you guys discussed the situation, and he agreed to keep the kids busy, then no, I think you have every right to be upset. He didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. If there was no discussion and dh didn't know you expected him to watch the kids, then no. It is a momentary bad situation. He had something he really wanted to do and you had some thing you really wanted to do and the kids got caught in the middle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Well, since you asked...yes, I think you are being unreasonable. He's your husband, and you knew this election/inauguration interested him. Ria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 If you guys discussed the situation, and he agreed to keep the kids busy, then no, I think you have every right to be upset. He didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. If there was no discussion and dh didn't know you expected him to watch the kids, then no. It is a momentary bad situation. He had something he really wanted to do and you had some thing you really wanted to do and the kids got caught in the middle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jumping In Puddles Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 (edited) oops, how did I post the same thing 3 times? Edited January 21, 2009 by Jumping In Puddles Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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