*Inna* Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 To find in one day that your husband had lost his job and you are pregnant. :blink: I'm still a bit dizzy from both news, but mostly from the pregnancy one. We thought we were done. I gave away all my baby stuff. I've no idea if we still have insurance. Can you homeschool when you have morning sickness, when you had no sleep for weeks? Please, Hive Mind, tell me your stories. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Inna! Congratulations!! I know you are reeling from shock of the pregnancy news, but what a fun surprise! Of course it will be okay. Deep breaths, okay? I found out that I was pregnant with #5 when #4 was 9 months old. Shock doesn't begin to describe it, lol...we were infertility patients and this was not. supposed. to. happen. LOL!! That boy is now 13, and his younger brother is almost 12. And they are joys! I'll pray for you. It's going to be okay. Ria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragons in the flower bed Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Can you homeschool when you have morning sickness, when you had no sleep for weeks? Please, Hive Mind, tell me your stories. :crying: Oh, Inna! (((Inna))) I remember this precise sort of fear so very well: baby and finances, and oh, how agonizing it was, a physically painful kind of emotion that just wrenches you day in and day out. Focus on the baby, the good part. Tell yourself it will be okay. It will pass. It will be okay. As for homeschooling, yes, you can do it. Your little ones are little. This article encouraged me the year I was teaching a 6yo & 8yo, wrangling an ornery 3yo, and sick with pregnancy or nursing my baby: The Baby IS The Lesson by Diane Hopkins. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 :grouphug: What a day at your house! Hopefully DH will find something else soon. Yes, you can HS through morning sickness especially with the ages of your children. We simply did school work when Mommy felt ok which meant that sometimes we worked on Sat. if Wed. was not a good day for me or we skipped it and schooled longer into the summer. As for ins., have DH call and ask about COBRA first thing Mon. morning. Hopefully this week will be better! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vettechmomof2 Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 I was bed ridden sick the entire pregnancy of my son's. I did not move, excpet the throw up or go to a doc. appointment. I was working full time and homeschooling before that, woke up bleeding heavy one day and very sick and could not work until after the pregnancy. I bled right through and my son was a twin but we lost the twin at 18 weeks but my son was fine and I was induced at 35 weeks due to high blood pressure. It was hell. Horrible, sick, I lost lots of weight, iv fluids, etc. I would totally do it again and we have been trying for a while now. It is a scary thing, especially if you think you were done. When I was pregant with my daughter, 1 month after finding out my husband was layed off perm(not fired though). Luckily I was working full time with ot but still we had just bought a house,etc. Very scary. Things happen and you get through it. You and your family will work together to make it happen. it will be stressful at times but you can do it. So big congratulations on the pregnancy and I am very sorry for the stress you guys will be going through but you can handle it. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dorothy Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 I had two dds ages 5 and 2.5 and found out I was pregnant (unexpectedly), dh lost job and insurance and I did not have any idea how we would get through. It all worked itself out and I have a fine six year old boy who is a delight. I can't imagine our lives without him. As a matter of fact, it was so wonderful to have the third, that we went ahead and had the fourth. Chin up! Prayer and Preseverance! You have a blessing on the way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 First off hugs about your dh's job. Secondly, congrats on the pregnancy. What a shocking day for you. I have homeschooled through morning sickness, bedrest, and a newborn. Just take it easy. In reality with your kids ages you can get by with simply reading to them and nothing else while you get past morning sickness etc. The great part about pregnancy is it gives you guys 9 months to have dh get a new job, and buy what you need for baby. In reality baby's are dirt cheap, you don't need all the fancy gadgets etc. You guys will get past the chaos of the day and things will look up soon. Your dh will have a new job, and you both will have a precious new child. Until then just take things one day at a time and try not to worry about either situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted January 18, 2009 Author Share Posted January 18, 2009 Thank you so much for your replies and encouragement. Your stories really gave me a different perspective. Rose, thank you for that link - it's really helpful. Allene - what a scary situation! :grouphug: DH worked for Circuit City, so he wasn't fired. We're hoping to get some kind of severance pay, anything really to tide us over. He is very optimistic about things and hoping for a boy this time. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 To find in one day that your husband had lost his job and you are pregnant. :blink: I'm still a bit dizzy from both news, but mostly from the pregnancy one. We thought we were done. I gave away all my baby stuff. I've no idea if we still have insurance. Can you homeschool when you have morning sickness, when you had no sleep for weeks? Please, Hive Mind, tell me your stories. :crying: Been there, done that...and congratulations! You'll be okay...honest. I've homeschooled at my bedside while dealing with several hyperemesis pregnancies (seems to be every other one for me). Narrow down projects to just reading and bookwork. Your hubby will find another job...even if he has to go temporary or more than one smaller jobs for a time. This has happened to many people over the years, but it'll be okay. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 You see the ages of my dc below? We found out about #4 when #3 was 6mos old, right after dh had quit his job & started seminary. It has not been easy, but the pros have far outweighed the cons. For ex., right about the time #3 was getting big enough that other people's babies were looking tempting, kabam! I already had another one of my own! :lol: I've hs'ed thr 2 pg's now, & there are definitely hard days, but there is grace, too, & seeing the oldest sit down to read a story to all 3 of the littles is priceless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I know just how stressful these things can be. If at all possible, try and find the silver lining - even if it is a TINY one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Oh, Inna! (((Inna))) I remember this precise sort of fear so very well: baby and finances, and oh, how agonizing it was, a physically painful kind of emotion that just wrenches you day in and day out. Focus on the baby, the good part. Tell yourself it will be okay. It will pass. It will be okay. As for homeschooling, yes, you can do it. Your little ones are little. This article encouraged me the year I was teaching a 6yo & 8yo, wrangling an ornery 3yo, and sick with pregnancy or nursing my baby: The Baby IS The Lesson by Diane Hopkins. Awesome article - thanks so much for that! I have lots of younger friends trying to homeschool with babies who will be so blessed by it. Inna, I've never been in your shoes as far as dh not being employed, but there many times when funds were low. At the time I tended to fret a lot, but looking back I see how the Lord always provided. On paper, we really did not have enough to cover the bills, but we never went hungry - things always worked out. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peek a Boo Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 we've done something similar a few times, but I haven't had to deal w/ morning sickness :grouphug: We were on cloud nine before #5 was born: dh had just started a job w/ a great salary, we had signed a lease on a rental house and were moving from a friend's living room to a real house [san Antonio to Ft Worth], THEN found out I was pg, THEN a week later found out that dh's paychecks were --->this close<--- to HOT [too late to cancel the lease]. His employer was eventually arrested for check fraud. DH eventually got another job, but the stress levels were pretty high. Similar situation before #3: we had just moved to NY from San Antonio, dh was flying, #3 was born, then 9/11 hit: dh unemployed, c-c-c-c-cold winter in NY, etc etc etc. When i was pg w/ #4, dh's job was soooo stressful that I actually advised him to QUIT two weeks before xmas [at 8months pg]. He did, and thankfully found another job before little gal was born. not sure about Cobra-- that can be pretty darn pricey, but if you have complicated pregnancies it would be worth going into debt to have. i would pass on it for our own situation. But if your dh gets a job, then you would be able to get in -even pg- on their group plan. Do get in touch w/ WIC [you and your 3yo would qualify], and locate the food pantries [plural!] in your area. Angel Food MInistries can be a blessing for many families. There are many churches that will help w/ bills even if you aren't a member - ask around. let your needs be known so your community has the opportunity to be blessed by helping. you might be able to find a midwife that can help w/ morning sickness remedies better than a regular doc could.....? good luck!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 To find in one day that your husband had lost his job and you are pregnant. :blink: I'm still a bit dizzy from both news, but mostly from the pregnancy one. We thought we were done. I gave away all my baby stuff. I've no idea if we still have insurance. Can you homeschool when you have morning sickness, when you had no sleep for weeks? Please, Hive Mind, tell me your stories. :crying: isn't that an old joke? If you want to get pregnant, just lose your job or give away all your baby stuff?;):grouphug: oh dear, yes you can do it and do it well and even be glad a year from now that you did it. Really truely you can do it.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Congratulations! and ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted January 18, 2009 Author Share Posted January 18, 2009 isn't that an old joke? If you want to get pregnant, just lose your job or give away all your baby stuff? :lol:I know, God was probably having a good chuckle every time I would say: "Oh, no, we're done. Two is enough for us." :tongue_smilie: Peek a Boo, I had Gestational Diabetes with my second, so I guess there could be a good chance for me to get it again. Is there anything else besides Cobra? Aubrey, wow! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I know just how stressful these things can be. If at all possible, try and find the silver lining - even if it is a TINY one! We thought I was pg again after barely surviving the last pregnancy. Our silver lining was free health care from the state. Woo hoo. We were really looking forward to that and focusing on that positive. When we found out I was just late and not pg my mom said, "well don't do it just to get the insurance." :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommylaw Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 I too had a most unplanned/expected pregnancy. I was absolutely devastated. A dear friend knowing my situation gave me a huge hug and said, "a baby is always a blessing." It took me 7 months to accept the pregnancy. lol But she was right. I will pray for you. It's my hope that your dh will find a job that's even better. If you don't have insurance call around and find a OB that will give you a discounted cash (or payment plan) rate. I wish you the best. I'm so very sorry for your terrible day. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat19 Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 :grouphug: If you have no insurance at all~go to the local DHS office and apply for Title 19 to cover your pregnancy expenses. Don't feel guilty about getting help from the state. I hope your husband finds work soon enough and I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joannqn Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Congrats on the pregnancy! It will work out. As for insurance and other assistance...contact your state. Here in WA, your kids would qualify for free medical, vision, and dental. You'd be able to get free pregnancy medical which covers all medical, dental, and vision until 16 days after you give birth. You can also get WIC (for your 3 year old and yourself) and possibly food stamps to help with food expenses. Check to see what's available where you live. It's there for those who need the short term help. Yes, you can homeschool with morning sickness and a newborn. Like others said, school when you feel well enough. Cut it down to just the basics. At 5, I only teach phonics and math anyway. If the morning sickness is too much, you can always get help for it. I'm on medication for it every pregnancy from weeks 7 to 40. Otherwise, I'd be in the hospital. And...don't forget...ask for help from friends, family, and church if you need it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peek a Boo Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 Peek a Boo, I had Gestational Diabetes with my second, so I guess there could be a good chance for me to get it again. Is there anything else besides Cobra? I'm not in CA, so i don't know what your local/ state options are, but YES-- call the family services clinics and ask, ask, ask. Sometimes you have to ask 10 different people before finding one that knows of a program that can help you. I'm guessing you didn't have a homebirth? Try to find a doula or CNM that can help w/ your gest. diabetes --they usually have things/ideas that will treat the whole you and not just the diabetes. :D good luck- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChemMommy Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 You have one in K and, trust me, there is little in 1st grade that can't be accomplished in about an hour a day. Think: BASICS FIRST and let the other stuff go. This won't be your year to start a foreign language, maybe. You may not do a single craft project. But, you can still teach math and reading, even if it has to be done in short burst or crammed in on weekends. Hugs to both of you on the shocking news. Find out about insurance or medical assistance. Get the coverage you need so you don't worry so much. Accept help in all forms, from babysitting, to cash, to food. This isn't a time to be proud but to trust God and hang tight. BTDT: 4th baby on the way, baby #3 critically ill, 50% family pay-cut, debt from a move still needing to be paid off, Visa screaming to be paid. FEAR became a physical part of me--my stomach hurt a lot, debt was my first waking thought. Looking back, it helped us, as a family, to got though this. We learned to prioritize needs v. wants, it gave us lots of together time, it taught us that God can be trusted to meet our needs and helped us appreciate the little things. BIG HUGS to you. Actually, my dh took the whole situation harder than I did. That whole "bread-winner" thing, you know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missplacedalaskan Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 You CAN do this! Congratulations on your new blessing. (((HUGS))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 We've been there. Dh was laid off within weeks of finding out that we were pregnant with #3. We went through 5 months of unemployment. God was so great to us though. So many miracles happened during that time. There was one day that I looked at dh and told him that we needed $1000 before the end of the week to meet our bills. He left and checked the mailbox on his way out, there was a check for $1000. In the end, dh got a job that was the best position and pay that we ever had. He lost his job in Dec of 01, got his new one in April of 02, had #3 in August, moved into our first home in October. :) Those 5 months were hard, but boy did God carry us. It WILL be ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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