gandpsmommy Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 What are some of the elements that you think help create/sustain this bond? I don't have a close relationship with my mom. It's not that we argue or don't speak to one another or anything of that nature, it's just that we're not close. Our relationship is not deep. She is very much willing to help me if I need something, and she loves seeing the kids and buying them things or taking them places. We just are such different people that we don't connect on a deeper level. It has always been this way, ever since I can remember. I do have some emotional baggage related to her hyper-critical ways (not only with me, but also with every member of our family). I never had the kind of relationship in which I could confide in her or go to her for comfort. And we never had the kind of relationship in which I wanted to just hang out with her for fun. But that is the kind of relationship I desire to have with my daughter. Right now, dd and I do have fun going places and doing things together, and she does talk to me about all sorts of things, and comes to me for comfort. I don't want to lose that as she grows up. What can I do to nurture our relationship so that it doesn't fall apart in the teen years? I know that dd and I already have a better relationship than my mom and I ever had, but I just have a huge fear that I will somehow mess it up. Thanks for any input. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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