CalicoKat Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 my 7 yo dd burned a hole in her bedroom rug, lit a diaper, a sweater, and some birthday candles with the sole lighter in the house. And she continues to deny the whole thing. :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 my 7 yo dd burned a hole in her bedroom rug, lit a diaper, a sweater, and some birthday candles with the sole lighter in the house. And she continues to deny the whole thing. :confused: Was she making a pretend birthday cake? I'm glad everyone is okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 :scared: Yikes! How awful. I am glad you are well and your home still standing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm glad that everything is ok. My dd would do the exact same thing - denial in the face of positive proof that she did something. I stopped asking her to tell me the truth because it was setting her up to lie. I would just announce to her that since she did x then y was the consequence. I would not "allow" her to give a rebuttal - obviously she would try but I would stop her gently and tell her that I had to make my decision based on the evidence just like a judge. She would cry and cry. But eventually (sometimes days later) she would tell me what she had done. We had to put all lighters under actual lock and key (we had some in an emergency supply kit) after we found evidence of my kids setting a fire in the garage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Glad everyone and the house are OK! Dh's brother lit their bedroom curtains on fire when they were kids. My brother used gasoline to start a fire in the fireplace and denied it even though we could smell it, and could tell by the "explosion" of flames going up the chimney. ((( to you and your dd))), I'm sure she feels awful, even though she won't admit to it right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Oh my goodness, I'm glad everyone is okay, how scary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 :grouphug:Oh, how frightening. I'm happy everyone got out safely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 Was she making a pretend birthday cake? I'm glad everyone is okay. Yes, this is what she told her daddy. How did you know? I think it must have gotton out of control because there are burned holes in clothing, carpeting, and of course the diaper. She'd also dumped water on the spot on the carpet and opened her window. However, she did hide it all in the bedroom where her 4 yo brother was sleeping when the alarms started going off. :confused: He was running down the hall screaming whe the alarm started. I never got that far because as soon as I smelled smoke upstairs I shoved them all out of the house and finished dressing them at the end of the driveway. DD has a mandatory evaluation she has to attend now at the fire department in two days. They want to have their psych person teach her more about fires :eek:. And do an evaluation to see if she needs additional counseling. I'm glad. This is my ADHD dd who can't ever tell me the truth. I'm hoping the enormity of the consequences of her actions are drilled into a space in her brain where it sticks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted January 5, 2009 Author Share Posted January 5, 2009 I'm glad that everything is ok. My dd would do the exact same thing - denial in the face of positive proof that she did something. I stopped asking her to tell me the truth because it was setting her up to lie. I would just announce to her that since she did x then y was the consequence. I would not "allow" her to give a rebuttal - obviously she would try but I would stop her gently and tell her that I had to make my decision based on the evidence just like a judge. She would cry and cry. But eventually (sometimes days later) she would tell me what she had done. We had to put all lighters under actual lock and key (we had some in an emergency supply kit) after we found evidence of my kids setting a fire in the garage. Up until today we couldn't tell if she or her younger brother was lying. Usually they're in cahoots so it's been difficult to discern who was lying. Obviously she's been planting evidence in his bedroom and he's the one who has been getting punished. She's a very good liar. And he would rather not have conflict of any kind, ever, no matter the consequence to him. However today this all changes. . . I did tell her that regardless of the evidence planted in her brother's room she is the one whom I will focus on from now on regarding honesty. The lighter is usually kept in the garage, it's has the child safety thingy that you have to hold down two things at once before striking (obviously she's not a child any longer). We used it Christmas Eve and at Christmas Dinner to light the yule log candles. I'm not surprised that I didn't get put away in the hubbub and mounds of company and our New Year's trip packing/planning. It's gone now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missplacedalaskan Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Oh My! That is scary! I'm glad everyone is ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 oh boy! Many hugs to you, mama! I'm glad everyone is okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted January 5, 2009 Share Posted January 5, 2009 Holey. Moley. Glad you're all okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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