Halftime Hope Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 and I'm not talking about TEA this time ;) Seriously though, dh and I have been married 23 years today! Woo, hoo!! I have a plan for a "roasting" that the kids and I are going to do for him tomorrow night, except that we plan to thank, remember, and just generally bless him. It will also involve lighting one of those cute little electric tea lights, when each of us lists something that is significant about who dh is or what he has done. (The kids get two or three things each; I get the other ones to total at least 23.) When I told dd16 this morning on the way to church, she asked rather accusingly, "Did you come up with that one yourself, or was that off the boards?" She knows ya'll are good, but my cards are on the table... But, I'm always glad to hear great ideas from other creative wives, so what have you done that made your hubby feel loved? TIA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ferdie Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 My dh and I read a book together called the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. My dh's number 1 need was physical touch so I've tried to focus on that throughout our marriage - lots of hugs, back rubs and snuggle time. In the book the author lists 5 love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Congrats on 23 years of marriage!! That is quite an accomplishment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phathui5 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 For Christmas, I made dh a "man room." His own space in the house that's only for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5Youngs Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I have yet to freak out about him getting laid off from AIG on Nov. 21st. He made $612 this month doing some side jobs. We had a very nice Christmas, thanks to our families. And I made some money from selling my jewelry. God has always taken care of us~ I think that believing in him is the best gift that I could ever give him! (He is working as an independent adjuster now, so the $$ will start coming in.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CactusPair Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 stayed married to him;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMW Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 To bless my husband I went out on the boat for a fishing trip with him yesterday. He goes out often, staying very late/early morning hours trying to get a big catch. I usually don't go. I'm not really interested and have "so many other things to do". But, 5 of our children are out of town at their grandmother's and we just had 2 young ones with us... I knew if I went we wouldn't be out ALL night... right?? And he bought a space heater for the boat because it gets SO cold. So, I sat, visited with him and his buddy, we listened to old Bill Cosby comedy routines, laughed, watched the sun set, caught several fish (only 1 was a keeper). By 8pm I was SO ready to go, but I hadn't asked if we could leave. I wasn't having fun anymore and it was dark and I was huddled by the heater... falling asleep sitting up. He got me home by 10pm and I just LOVED my bed!! He hugged me and said how much he loved having me out there with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanie Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I run a bath and turn back the bed for my dh. I like to make the room look nice and cozy for him and I set his computer on the bed for him! This is going to sound funny, but on Christmas he was sick so I made him a margarita! You have to understand that I am not a drinker at all and really don't care for alcohol to even be in my house, but dh will occasionally have a glass of wine or a margarita at home in bed. So it was a real stretch for me to make him one. I didn't even know what tequila looked like---I had to ask my neighbor how to make one! It seems small, but meant a lot to my dh! Today I bought him a box of chocolate covered cherries because he likes to snack on them. I'm believing that all those little things add up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Supported his decisions, even when I wasnt so sure about them. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 even if they're not what I would choose to spend my time on! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Not wigging out over game time (my brothers were/are addicted to sports -- with my dh, it's computer/video games). I try to give him some space for it (I do have limits, though -- which he respects). Also, when his high school friends are visiting -- he can stay up all night gaming (no kidding). But, this only happens once in a long while! I bought him a PSP with my Christmas bonus last year. I bought the family a Wii with the remainder. I will let him sleep in every Saturday, uninterrupted by children (although, right now, he's letting me sleep as much as I can, bless him!) Any way, and every way, I can -- I do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariaTX Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 My husband is most blessed when he can come home to a nice, clean quiet home. The kids and I have worked very hard over the years to accomplish this 'simple' task. Some days are better than others. We have also been trying to have more 'date' nights. Sometimes it means just shutting the door to our bedroom and chatting. Other times we'll go out for coffee and go to Half-Price books and browse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 Before kids--I saved up money in an unknown account, and with a couple of co-conspirators managed to get tickets to Hawaii! The one friend was a travel agent, and she got us first class seats for a wonderful deal! He was overwhelmed! We tell each other I love you a lot each day, and say things like "You're cute" or "You look nice" just to let the other one know we're thinking of them. We have a special little thing we do that we got from a guy named Garrett that was on Jeopardy. We catch each others eye and make that sign that means I love you. We also learned about the 5 love languages, which helped us know better how to relate to each other. I'm a Phys. Touch person and he's an Acts of Service person, so, as one other person mentioned, we also try to have the house organized when he gets home--he appreciates it immensely! If I can sneak it in, I'll send a note in with his lunch--sometimes longer, sometimes as simple as I (heart shape) U! After Thanksgiving, we got the Christmas stuff out and put lights up outside while he was at work, which gave him more time for other things. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! In March we'll have our 21st Anniversary! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Retired Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 well I bless him by doing all of our home maintenance. I do electrical, plumbing etc, so he can be at home resting and working on his classic car I cook dinner, do his laundry, keep the house clean, pay bills, He literally has nothing to worry about except his job and his hobby believe me if he ever did this for me it would be a blessing:D His friends tell him I am the perfect wife and he has got it made:D In the pass few years I started delegating some of the house work to my boys. They need to be able to bless their future wives:001_smile: I bless him by not nagging. I use to do this when we first got married. I learned to do all the stuff, that I got tired of waiting for him to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 You know, we were watching Chris Rock do stand-up one night and he talked/ranted/joked about how people never thank their fathers for the things they do. Since we've watched that I try to remember to thank my husband for providing us with electricity, water, t.v., and all the other things that get forgotton/overlooked/taken for granted. It may seem silly, but I've started thanking my dad for those things too and both men really appreciate it. Our ten year anniversary will be this coming September. I'm planning a bash, for him, because I know he loves big parties with all his friends. If it was all about me, we'd stay home, send the kids away and just hang out like we do every night :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 You know, we were watching Chris Rock do stand-up one night and he talked/ranted/joked about how people never thank their fathers for the things they do. Since we've watched that I try to remember to thank my husband for providing us with electricity, water, t.v., and all the other things that get forgotton/overlooked/taken for granted. It may seem silly, but I've started thanking my dad for those things too and both men really appreciate it. Our ten year anniversary will be this coming September. I'm planning a bash, for him, because I know he loves big parties with all his friends. If it was all about me, we'd stay home, send the kids away and just hang out like we do every night :) My dh and I do that too. We thank each other for all we do each day, especially when, hopefully, the other least expects it! ;) We hope we've showed our children the importance of others and how kind it is to let them know you appreciate them and what they've done and do! Ha! My dh and I are the opposite--if it were up to him, we'd stay home as always. I'm the one that likes the time with friends! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted December 29, 2008 Share Posted December 29, 2008 My dh and I do that too. We thank each other for all we do each day, especially when, hopefully, the other least expects it! ;) We hope we've showed our children the importance of others and how kind it is to let them know you appreciate them and what they've done and do! Ha! My dh and I are the opposite--if it were up to him, we'd stay home as always. I'm the one that likes the time with friends! :001_smile: I read this story in either Guideposts or Reader's Digest, about a couple that would write SHMILY on little notes and put them in appropriate places. For instance, he folds the towels, so he slips one note into the folds. She cooks a good dinner and slips one note under his plate. They said it kept them grateful and reminded them to thank eachother. See How Much I Love You - SHMILY. I only wish my hubby was a big enough softy to play that game. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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