Wedding guest attire question — help, please

[Spryte]

Still haven’t decided, wedding is this weekend. Ugh.

Wedding is at an old, country inn. Cocktail attire. 4:00 ceremony, reception after.

I have a few options, none perfect. I would prefer to wear this one with a black lightweight cropped cardi/shrug: 

But is the black base and black shrug too dark? I could go grab a white one, those are in stock locally, but I’m meh on white to a wedding.

My other options feel less appropriate: a soft surroundings pastel blue and white dress that I adore and feel great in — but it’s cotton, a bit longer. Think perfect for a walk on the beach, but could be stretch for cocktail attire.  I would wear a blue shrug to dress it up, and not take that off. It would be perfect for day time but I’m iffy on evening. I can’t seem to link it, but similar: 

 The black version of that outfit worked well at a funeral recently, so it’s dressy but I’m not sure if it hits cocktail attire. I can try to find a link.
 

Also, a pastel blue knit wrap dress from soft surroundings. Iffy on that one for evening, too: 

Help a girl out?

 

Edited May 9 by Spryte

[CinV]

The first one is very nice and totally appropriate for afternoon cocktail attire.

[Eos]

4 pm black floral dress with a black shrug is very nice and appropriate.

[Eos]

Just now, CinV said:

The first one is very nice and totally appropriate for afternoon cocktail attire.

Jinx!

[Katy]

The floral makes the black funeral-inappropriate and therefore perfect for a spring wedding.

[Toocrazy!!]

I think the first one is perfect for yye occasion as well. 

[Arcadia]

The black flowery dress looks very chirpy. Don’t think its too dark even if you pair it with a black cardigan. 

[Spryte]

Whew! Thanks! Black floral was my first choice, and you all have confirmed! So glad to have that decision made!

[GoVanGogh]

I think the first one is perfect. 
We just attended a wedding and so many people work black, none look like funeral attire. 
I think some of the rules about what to wear are going away, just show up looking decent and you are good. (Ie: No cropped tank tops showing your stomach at a funeral and no ball cap during a wedding, both of which I have seen recently.) 

[MercyA]

I'm late to the party, but the dress is perfect. 🙂