Vent-DO NOT QUOTE please

[DawnM]

Deleting because I feel a bit better about it.

If you missed it, I felt frustrated at work.   I will handle it with my boss Tue and report back with any updates.   I love my boss, he is very sweet, but he isn't very firm, even when he needs to be, so I am not anticipating this being resolved fully, but we will see.

Edited April 14 by DawnM

[Katy]

I'm sorry.  That sounds very frustrating.

[SKL]

I hope there's some improvement soon, one way or the other.

It's great that the one individual has your back at the meetings.

[Arcadia]

They want you to stay because they like having more scapegoats to blame probably.

[desertflower]

I’m sorry this is happening.  I hope the situation improves soon. 

[Lady Florida.]

30 minutes ago, DawnM said:

 

Editing because I realized you said don't quote. The quote was in regard to complaints about you not attending meetings.

Is there any way to work into a conversation (with those people around to hear it) something to the effect of, "It's hard for me to fully know what the situation with X-student is since I was told not to attend the meetings.". ?

Edited April 13 by Lady Florida.

[Annie G]

That sounds like an awful situation! Also it sounds like other employees are willing to throw you under the bus to distract from their own performance issues. That kind of thing infuriates me. 
 

[HomeAgain]

I'd be concerned about the person willing to share all this information with me.  You're getting it secondhand, and that's not always an honest situation.

[KungFuPanda]

I wouldn’t worry about them making comments/judging from a place of ignorance. The last thing you want is to attend extra meetings when you’re working at two schools. It sounds like you’re doing your job and need to tune out the toxic comments.  Your files were documented and they can always contact you if they need more information or TELL you about the meeting if they need information that’s not in the file. 
 

Embracing “It’s none of my business what other people think of me” will really help you in these situations. Feeling self assured, to the point that you’re comfortable with people not liking you, will improve your stress levels a great deal. Try to pan back and realize that, mathematically, there HAS to be SOME people that don’t care for you. That’s just normal and at least you know who they are. 

[BusyMom5]

I would let this roll right off your back.  You have done as instructed by your boss.  Miscommunication isn't your fault.  

People like to pass the buck- because you weren't there, you were an easy target.  Glad the one had your back!  I try to give teachers and councilors a break- their jobs (including yours) are too hard.  Too many cases, too many behaviors, too many requirements,  too much paperwork and documentation- and way too little support!

[footballmom]

I would be super frustrated over the culture and the negative assumptions that you are just blowing off the meetings.  It sounds like you really don’t need to be there because you document the information the other counselors need to have. 
 

What are the pros to staying at this school? Are you able to let this roll off your back because you did all the right things and you really don’t need to attend these meetings? Or would you be happier at another school with presumably better culture and collaboration?