DB in NJ Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 First of all, this is a pic of my dd and her cousin. Em (my dd) is on the left. Remember the post about the 18 yo who is waiting 3 years to date her? He saw this and sent her two text messages: 1. You look gorgeous. 2. I can't quit looking at your eyes. *sigh* The next 3 years can't go by quickly enough on this front. On the other hand, I want my girl to stay little forever. *double sigh* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Well they are both just adorable, your dd looks like you. Yes, the eyes are gorgeous. May the next 36 months go just as they are designed to go. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 Thanks, Paula! :grouphug: And just FYI, here's the darling boy in question.... This picture is a little outdated; his hair's short now, although he's trying to grow it back in lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 What a darling girl! Well, both of them are! The guy is a cutie, too! I don't envy you and the situation! Best wishes, Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Shoot, he is just adorable too. And he's willing to wait 3 years. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holly IN Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Wow! Your dd really looks like you!! She is very pretty! Holly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon in SC Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 First of all, this is a pic of my dd and her cousin. Em (my dd) is on the left. Remember the post about the 18 yo who is waiting 3 years to date her? He saw this and sent her two text messages: 1. You look gorgeous. 2. I can't quit looking at your eyes. *sigh* The next 3 years can't go by quickly enough on this front. On the other hand, I want my girl to stay little forever. *double sigh* I feel your pain, friend. My 16yo who is committed to not "awakening love before it's time" and has, thankfully, willingly embraced our charge to date when she's of marrying age, had a young man tell her in Turk that he loves her this past weekend. :-} These teen years are definitely uncharted waters with the first born on this home front! ;-P Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RebeccaS Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 There is a lovely young lady in our meeting that was in your dd's situation not so long ago. She is now 19 and will be marrying in June. She maintained a long distance friends relationship since she was 14. (Her fellow is from northern Canada and we live in Ohio.) It is so sweet, to me. He's been patiently waiting for her to grow up a bit more.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 (edited) Awwwww......such a pretty girl and sweet boy... My sister and BIL had a situation similar to this with their dd. She was about 15 and a young man about 18 was very very interested in her. There was not a thing wrong with him...great kid. They were just too darn young. So the parents told him he must cease calling her and if, when she was old enough to marry he was still interested to get back in touch. Well, 4 years later he came a calling! :D They dated for a year and married when she was around 20 or so. She is now expecting their 2nd child. So things like this can work out, but I wouldn't allow hormone charged kids to date for such a long period of time as from 15 until marrying age...too much pressure if they desire to remain chaste. *I* wouldn't want to date someone for 4 years and *I'm" 43. :tongue_smilie: ETA: They did see each other around. He lived about 2 hours away, but they were in the same circles...but they honored their parents request to cool it. They didn't talk on the phone or anything. Edited December 23, 2008 by Scarlett Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon in SC Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 ....but I wouldn't allow hormone charged kids to date for such a long period of time as from 15 until marrying age...too much pressure if they desire to remain chaste. *I* wouldn't want to date someone for 4 years and *I'm" 43. :tongue_smilie: :iagree: Wise parents and kids in this testimony! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon H in IL Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Wow, that's quite a story, Scarlett. I'm impressed, and pleasantly surprised. One hears too many of the other kind of ending. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 She looks so much like you.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 This just happened yesterday with my ds17. He has a good friend who is 18. They were deciding whether to date or not. I told ds that if it is in God's will, it will work out, even if they waited awhile. They talked the next day and decided to just be friends! I was so happy, since this was his first "interest" and I felt he was too young yet. We have a very close relationship with him, so he was very open to listening to what we had to say. He realizes it's better to be more established and mature, and so did she! Those two are very nice looking, and I'm so proud of them waiting until they're older! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 So the parents told him he must cease calling her and if, when she was old enough to marry he was still interested to get back in touch. This is how I would handle it. We had a speaker (CO for those who know what I'm talking about) a couple months ago and he talked to the young people, encouraging them to look away. It was so cute and funny how he did it, but the idea being that they can't help having noticed a great person of the opposite sex but when it's not yet an appropriate time, they can purposely not fan those flames as well as dig themselves into a mountain of appropriate activity. When they are both more mature and capable of taking the relationship somewhere, they can "look" and see if that spark is still there and worth cultivating. BTW, and only the people involved can decide the appropriate time. Most of the people in our congregation don't date in their late teens and early twenties. One young couple did get married and my friend's 21 yr old is courting, but they are the exceptions. 18 isn't necessarily wrong but it's not necessarily right either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yslek Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 My brother & dh's sister were married this summer, both in their early 20's. They've been "interested" in each other since db was 10 and sil was 9! My parents were of the "much too young to even be thinking about that sort of thing" mindset, and mil encouraged sil to pursue db from the beginning. They did break up & date others at times, but always came back together. It's been hard on them to wait this long; I know they're so thrilled to finally be married at last. :D Dh & I dated for 22 months and that seemed like forever at the time. We married shortly after my 18th birthday (& shortly before dh's 19th) so maybe it runs in the family. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Your daughter is very pretty! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted December 24, 2008 Author Share Posted December 24, 2008 Your daughter is very pretty! Thank you, dear. I think she's beautiful -- I'd like to look like her for just one day!! LOL I know many have said we look alike, but we don't. Honestly. She looks more like my MIL and my dh than anyone else. We have the same coloring, but she has their features. She's a lot sweeter than I ever was too ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
C_l_e_0..Q_c Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 My parents met when he was 10 and she was 8. They never dated anyone else. They married when he turned 22, and she 20 (still a minor back then!) They're going onto 53 years of marriage. My maternal grandparents met when they were 6 and 5! They never dated anyone else too! They reached 61 years of marriage before my grandmother died of cancer. Unfortunately, it hasn't been my story, but I love those stories of long lasting relationships! They hold so much hope for the rest of us! Good luck to those young ones, who are patient enough! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted December 24, 2008 Share Posted December 24, 2008 Your daughter is beautiful. I'm not surprised she has young men interested in her :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DB in NJ Posted December 24, 2008 Author Share Posted December 24, 2008 Your daughter is beautiful. I'm not surprised she has young men interested in her :p Awww, thanks Sparkle. btw, I love your siggy. That's the 2nd time I've seen that scripture today!! (ds and I saw it earlier on a sign downtown where we live) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 My brother and SIL have a similar story. They met when she was in 9th grade and he was 10th. They didn't start "dating" officially until he graduated from high school (she was a senior.) He didn't propose until he was ready to support her (3 years later.) They married when she was 20 and he was 21. They are happily married and expecting their first child now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2abcd Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Awwwww......such a pretty girl and sweet boy... My sister and BIL had a situation similar to this with their dd. She was about 15 and a young man about 18 was very very interested in her. There was not a thing wrong with him...great kid. They were just too darn young. So the parents told him he must cease calling her and if, when she was old enough to marry he was still interested to get back in touch. Well, 4 years later he came a calling! :D They dated for a year and married when she was around 20 or so. She is now expecting their 2nd child. So things like this can work out, but I wouldn't allow hormone charged kids to date for such a long period of time as from 15 until marrying age...too much pressure if they desire to remain chaste. *I* wouldn't want to date someone for 4 years and *I'm" 43. :tongue_smilie: ETA: They did see each other around. He lived about 2 hours away, but they were in the same circles...but they honored their parents request to cool it. They didn't talk on the phone or anything. Neat story! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaMere Academy Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Thanks, Paula! :grouphug: And just FYI, here's the darling boy in question.... This picture is a little outdated; his hair's short now, although he's trying to grow it back in lol. oh my, he is a cutie!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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