Harriet Vane Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 Conversely, what are some red flags in a friendship, or characteristics of an unhealthy friendship? Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 Healthy: acceptance of the other person and their circumstances, beliefs and decisions (this doesn't mean you can't tell someone what you think or give advice (esp. if they ask) but if they make a decision (even if it is contrary to what you suggested) you stick by them. I have great friends who do this for me and I do it for them. Unhealthy: boundary issues (telling me so much about their dh so I can't look him in the face anymore!), being judgmental, or jealous. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabeth in IL Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 I have 4 good friends. All of them have been friends of mine for over 10 years. I think good friends are friends that you can tell anything to, you know that the information will not be shared, and you know that you are accepted and loved no matter what. One of those good friends I only see once maybe twice a year if I'm lucky but we fall into step with each other the moment we see or talk to the other. Those are my good friends and I also have friends which I call aquaintence friends. I am more guarded with them but yet we have fun and can talk about our lives just not the deep stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted February 17, 2008 Author Share Posted February 17, 2008 Thanks for your thoughts. I'd love to hear more thoughts if anyone has any to offer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 In addition to what's been said, my closest friends will also call me out when I'm doing something wrong or am in sin. I will do the same for them. It hurts to hear it from them, but I know that they say what they think because they love me too much not to speak up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LNC Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 A healthy close friend is your cheerleader. She will cheer you on when things aren't going well AND when things are going great! This goes both ways by the way in a good friendship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momo4 Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 Capital T-R-U-S-T. My closest friends are ones I trust. Whether they agree with me or not, I trust that they will not judge me or talk to other people about me. I trust that they are always looking out for my best interest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momo4 Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 The way I know I can trust a friend is if she carefully guards other friends private information and when talking about her other friends it is always in a positive way. Then I know this is someone I will feel comfortable being open with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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