Looking ahead to 2022 - Day 30

[Granny_Weatherwax]

Three people I can help achieve their goals

 

 

*Note: Remember, tomorrow you will need paper, envelopes, a pen and about 15-30 mins.

[Granny_Weatherwax]

DD, DSIL, DS, DGD 

These are the people closest to me and I am aware of what they would like to accomplish. I will work to help them if I am able.
I would like to help others reach their goals but have a limited circle and limited resources. I will try to do what I can through volunteering and donating blood. 

[marbel]

This one is very easy for me:  my husband, son, and daughter.

 

[regentrude]

Easy one. I hope I can help at least a subset of the 400 students in my classes, and my 90 advisees.

Eta: I don't think my family need my help in achieving their goals. That's out of my hands.

Edited December 30, 2021 by regentrude

[mom31257]

@marbel, same here, my husband, daughter, and son.

I think I could help dh the most by helping him establish some goals. He doesn't have many right now.

Dd is struggling some in her personal life, which she thinks is partly due to untreated ADHD. She also has other issues that need monitored, PCOS and an enlarged thyroid. So I could encourage her to get to the doctors she should see. 

Ds needs to find a summer job. Since we live in a new town and he will be at college next semester, I could start doing some ground work asking around about good summer jobs. And of course I can help him get through college by working and helping him financially. 

[ScoutTN]

I think my family are the obvious choices, though neither Dh nor Ds have goals that I am aware of. Maybe I can help them think a bit about that? 

Dd has getting into college as a big one looming.

My students and their parents have goals related to reading skills that I can help them work towards. 

[Hannah]

Both DD's have academic goals to get into competitive uni courses - Elder Dd to do well at honours this year and earn a masters place and Younger Dd to finish school and get into a bachelors.  Our academic year starts January, so this year's goal is to do well enough to earn the place.  Dd's also both have competitive sporting goals. My help is mostly in the form of encouragement and emotional support.

I'll be helping people at work as they need me.  I'm at the professional stage where I act as a mentor to quite a few younger colleagues.

 

 

 

 

[Slache]

Husband

Eldest son

Pastor

[Ditto]

Youngest daughter

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[ScoutTN]

53 minutes ago, Ditto said:

Youngest daughter

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The blanks will get filled in as you go along, I bet. 
 

It would be interesting to come back to this post (and the others like it) at this time next year to see what happened.

[Granny_Weatherwax]

@ScoutTN - I keep my answers to these prompts and do look back and compare. As we've been going through this process, I've been looking at both 2019 and 2020. It's a good exercise. I can see when my career faltered, what became important during the pandemic, and how I should just forget about writing weight loss goals because it is the single biggest failure year after year. (Thanks Fibro and menopause. Okay - and thanks chai and chocolate.)

[DreamerGirl]

DH is efficiency personified, he just needs a bit of a check to prevent burnout.

DS14, I basically hovered over him as a helicopter parent for years as he was my only for years. Very self sufficient now. Learning to parent him like that. 

The people who need me really on a day to day basis and I am involved in especially in fostering relationships between them and making memories are  DD5, my parents and inlaws.

For years, they came and lived with us for months, helped us through some really tough times and made memories with DS14. DD5 who is our rainbow baby did not have that chance. I grew up with grandparents and so I wanted those kind of memories for my kids as all our family is overseas. They cannot come now, DD5 I am not sure when she can go, she does not remember them coming and living with us as she was too little. So they are involved in our "homeschool". They taught her our language by basically talking to her and then to read and write. Teach her other things, talk to her. She has blossomed under that focused attention from them. Otherwise, she would be quite lonely.

They were super independent two years ago. But the pandemic has taken a toll. Lots of changes like having to move in with their children, loss of independence, mobility, friends and family who died. In many ways they are recovering and DD5 has been very much a bright spot in that. 

They discuss their day, what they did, when they walked, what they ate. DD5 shares her day. This way more than any inquisitive questions that may encroach on their independence, we get a window into their day and how they are. We see real change and DD5 is making memories, not the kind I wanted, but this is good for now. My role is facilitating all this on a daily basis rotating between grandparents.

More than anything, I would love to take DD5 back to see them in person. But I do not want to put her on a plane for 20 hours, masked. So this is it for now. 

[SKL]

Three people I can help to achieve their goals ....

Based on the above responses, I guess our kids count?  If so, that takes care of 2/3 of this one, LOL.  My kids are 15 and have lots of room for improvement.

Who would the 3rd be?  My friends are over 60 and have not really asked me to help them achieve goals.  I don't even know what goals they are setting, other than the standard weight loss, movement, bla bla bla.  I'd be happy to provide encouragement to the extent I know their goals.  But I don't want to nag ... aside from being un-fun, it tends to be counter-productive.

Maybe better eating ... if I didn't hate food so much, I could try preparing healthy stuff, but naw, we all have such different tastes.  Blah.

And we all work in the same company, so maybe trying to help more with the company ... but just the thought of that stresses me out.  It tends to mean working all night in between two regular working days.  I've done enough of that and don't want any more of it.

I do have some relatives who have lots of room for self-improvement.  I do try to help, in respectful ways.  But it doesn't tend to be stuff I can plan for.

Well anyways ... those are the possibilities.  Most likely I'll do a bit for several people, but not in a systematic way.

[Eos]

Oldest ds, possibly financial help, definitely emotional help as he and ddil navigate fertility challenges.

Dd25, hopefully getting into a grad program and moving back to the States.

Dd17, getting through junior year and applying to colleges.

[TexasProud]

Obvious is husband, I have done that now for 34 years. Our life has typically revolved around his aspirations and I have worked hard to help him achieve those.

My kids I help however they need it, but in this stage of life that more often looks like NOT doing anything, but letting them figure out things themselves.

I belong to a writer's group and/or know writers and I often help with the editing process or act as a cheerleader for them.

I have a newer seminary friend and I regularly encourage her with texts, notes, flowers this week, etc. She is also a doctor's wife and about 10 years younger than I am. 

To be honest, encouraging OTHERS is very easy. It is very, very hard for me to encourage myself. I tend to push my dreams and goals aside to encourage others. 

[Granny_Weatherwax]

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